In this era of rapid development, in the face of family changes and financial pressures, more and more children are faced with a difficult choice: whether to send their elderly parents to nursing homes. I'm one of them. My 78-year-old mother, the one who gave everything for us, is now being sent to a nursing home by me. My brother was reluctant to take the money, and my sister was hesitant. This is a story about the elderly, those helpless and entangled, I hope to arouse more people's thinking and attention.
My name is Li Xiaoyu and I am 46 years old this year. My family's background is not wealthy, my father is a worker, and my mother is a housewife. When I was a child, life at home was not easy, but our family never felt the slightest shortcoming. Our parents always worked silently for us and gave us the best resources. And now, as they get older and weaker, I can't give them the same love and reciprocation.
Mom is my dearest person. She is strong, optimistic, and always radiates a warm glow in every corner of our home. However, as she grew older and became unwell, she became more and more dependent on others for her care. I tried my best to take on this responsibility, but my busy schedule and financial pressures prevented me from taking care of her wholeheartedly.
At the same time, the elder brother and sister are also facing their own dilemmas. The elder brother is an ordinary clerk, he is already responsible for his own family, and he does not have extra energy and financial resources to take care of the elderly. The younger sister is entangled in the problems of her marriage and cannot pay more attention and energy to the elderly. We all want to give our mother the best life, but the reality makes us helpless.
In desperation, I decided to send my mother to a carefully selected nursing home. Although I understand that a nursing home is not a substitute for affection, at least she can be better cared for and loved. When I took my mother to visit my new home, her eyes were full of confusion and helplessness. Perhaps she doesn't understand why we can't continue to live together, why family harmony is no longer a reality.
Every time I think back to the day I sent my mother to a nursing home, my heart is overwhelmed with endless guilt and remorse. I felt a heavy sense of guilt, as if I had betrayed my mother, who had been so selfless in my life. I know that this helplessness is not just my problem, and many of my children are facing the same choice.
Perhaps, society should pay more attention to this problem and provide better solutions. ** Relevant policies can be formulated to establish more elderly activity centers and community service institutions to provide more help and companionship for the elderly living alone. Companies can encourage employees to care for older families by offering flexible working hours and holidays so they can spend more time with their families. Everyone, whether parents or children, should understand and tolerate each other with a caring heart, and work together to create a warmer society.
In any case, I believe that each of us should treat and respect our parents with care. Helplessness and entanglement are just part of life, but we can try to find solutions to problems and give them more love and companionship. May we be able to stay true to our original aspirations and protect the harmony and warmth of our families in this fast-paced society.