Every Saturday and Sunday in our family, there is a mother-son battle over the mobile phone.
Every Friday night, my fifth-grade son began pestering me for my phone, assuring, vows, and all kinds of promises. As a mother, I have been deceived again and again.
I said that it would take an hour to stop and rest my eyes and do something else. But when the specified time came, he said that the game was not over, and the battle was in full swing, without raising his head, his eyes were staring at the mobile phone screen, and his two little fingers were flying fast on the mobile phone screen. He said, Mom, this can't be counted by time, it should be recorded by one game.
If you take your phone back and put it somewhere else, he'll look for it quietly everywhere as if he has no soul.
Sometimes when I take the initiative to put down my phone on time, I don't have to hide it, and I just put it on the coffee table or dining table. He will not be able to hold back the itching of his hands, saying that he wants to check the homework sent by the teacher, or look at something else, anyway, find all kinds of reasons to take it, while you are not paying attention to other things, hide in the bathroom or bedroom and quietly play games, sometimes can squat in the bathroom for 1 hour without coming out.
The key is that when children play games, they can also talk with the microphone, and the swear words are unbearable. I reprimanded my children for not swearing, let alone violent swearing. He said, everyone else says, if I don't say it, they will think I'm a rookie and a bully.
I'm forty years old, and I can't say all those swear words.
His sister is three years older than her brother, but she doesn't play games much.
On weekends, she chats with her classmates, and only then can she be heard laughing.
Usually facing me and his dad most of the time is an expressionless face, as if everyone in the world owes her tens of millions.
On Sundays, you can stay in the bedroom with your mobile phone for a day without leaving the bedroom door, unless you go to the toilet, as long as you don't call her when you eat, people can go a day without eating. So sometimes when I'm busy, it's normal to not see her all day.
Every time I asked her to stop being in the house, go downstairs, or do some chores. She would ask me sharply, "What chores are you telling me to do?".What do you want me to do?”
That day I said, "You heard people say that good youth is not used to learn and Xi, so why do you want this youth to come?"My daughter asked me contemptuously, "You didn't play when you were a child?"Do you know Xi learning?”
One time I finally couldn't help but lose my temper with her and took the phone out of her hand, only to tell her dad that the teacher had sent her a private message, and the Chinese paper that needed to be printed in the class had not yet been printed (she was the representative of the Chinese class). I was determined not to give it to her, so I contacted her teacher and told her about the situation. Her teacher said that she had printed it out and put it in the office, and she could just let her pick it up on Monday.
But on Monday, when I sent my two children to school and just got home, her father yelled that the group asked me to fill out a questionnaire, and it had already been sent out on Sunday, and you didn't worry about it, why didn't you read it?There were only two children left in the class to finish, and she was one of them.
I also sometimes reflect on what went wrong and what should I doIf you don't interfere with them and let them develop, then the world will be peaceful. You don't care about them, and they don't bother to block you with words, and they don't bother to get angry with you.
Parenting experts will say, what parents are like, what children are like.
Since I was in kindergarten as a second child, I have been studying for certificates by myself, and I have not stopped learning Xi and self-improvement, and have taken two professional certificates and one self-improvement certificate one after another. When I wake up early and go to bed early, my kids will hold their phones and encourage me, "Come on, Mommy!"”
Some say that to ruin a child. Just give him a mobile phone. This is not unreasonable, as the era of mobile phones participating in all aspects of our lives, is there any good way for parents to be obsessed with mobile phones for their children?