Parents borrow money for their daughter to study abroad, and there is no one to support her when she is old, which is chilling!
The parents borrowed money for their daughter to study abroad, but there was no one to support them in their later years, and their daughter's words were even more chilling.
I once entered a topic about whether parents work hard to provide for their children's education, out of altruistic love, or in anticipation of future rewards. Some netizens emphasized that parents' love is altruistic, and they take care of their children without expecting anything in return;Some people think that parents take care of their children in the hope that they can take care of them when they are old.
In fact, no matter from which point of view, the contribution of parents to their children when they are young, and the care of their children when they are old, are the responsibilities that children should bear. Filial piety has always been our traditional virtue, and as children, it is natural to take care of the elderly.
Sometimes, despite the hard work of parents to provide for their children's education, they may end up being ungrateful"White-eyed wolf"。A father once shared online that he borrowed money for his daughter to study abroad, but his daughter had no one to take care of her in her later years.
The situation at that time was that the parents had their children relatively late compared to their peers, so the daughter was pampered from an early age, and the parents did their best to meet almost everything she wanted.
Luckily, their daughter is doing well in her studies and has achieved excellent grades, which makes them very happy. After entering high school, her teacher told her that even if she couldn't get into Tsinghua University and Peking University, she could consider other 985 colleges, which made the family very happy.
When the results of the college entrance examination were announced, the daughter scored more than 600 points, and the whole family rejoiced. However, during the college entrance examination review, her daughter expressed her thoughts that she wanted to choose to study abroad.
Their family was not wealthy, and when they heard from their teacher that it would cost more than a million to study abroad, the elderly couple began to hesitate. Although at first they tried to dissuade their daughter, their insistence made it impossible for them to refuse. The daughter also said that studying abroad could help her find a better job and that she would honor them when she returned home in the future.
To raise money, the couple borrowed more than 400,000 yuan from friends and relatives to send their daughter abroad. Their daughter was accepted into a school in Germany, but what happened next caught them completely off guard.
After her daughter went abroad to study, her behavior was clearly inconsistent with what she had said before, and she began to have little contact with her family. The most difficult thing for parents to accept was that their daughter married into Germany without their knowledge.
The mother was so angry that she was admitted to the hospital. The daughter's explanation was that her husband was more than 20 years older than her, and she was worried that once the truth was told, it would be difficult for her parents to accept it. However, can such a reason be hidden from parents?
When the parents asked their daughters to take care of their old age, they didn't expect their daughter's answer to make them even more chilling. The daughter said that all Germans live their own lives and do not interfere with each other.
At that moment, the old father realized that he had raised an ignorant one"White-eyed wolf", tearfully sighed:"Maybe I shouldn't have sent my daughter abroad, because although studying abroad has broadened her horizons, it has also made her forget the true nature of her family. "
Why do many students change their personalities so much after studying abroad?Are there pros or cons to studying abroad?Nowadays, this situation that plagues the elderly is not uncommon. With the improvement of living standards, many parents choose to send their children to study abroad, but many students hardly keep in touch with their parents after studying abroad, and even some fundamental changes have occurred.
The main reason for this is that the change in the living environment has caused profound changes in thinking. The Western way of thinking is very different from ours in that it emphasizes independent thinking, which leads students to leave the protection of their parents and live independently at a very young age.
Traditional Chinese culture emphasizes the continuous care of parents for their children, and even if the children grow up, they will always be children in the eyes of their parents. Filial piety is particularly important in traditional Chinese concepts.
When students study abroad, they tend to embrace a wide variety of ideas and perceptions, both positive and negative. Even if it's a bad idea, they will think that everything abroad is better than at home. Gradually, there will be some small changes in their hearts, which will eventually affect their relationship with their parents as well.
Studying abroad can be a positive experience, but different students are affected differently. At this time, parents should pay attention to the patriotic education of students, so that they can deeply realize the importance of this country to themselves.
It is not right for parents and the state to work hard to educate their children and expect their children to be far away from their homeland when they go abroad. In essence, students who are too admiring foreigners may be because they do not have firm convictions in their hearts and do not have a deep understanding of the spirit of patriotism.
Otherwise, even if you have lived in several countries and cultures, you should not do anything that will make your parents sad.
Conclusion. Our parents sent us to study abroad in the hope that we could have a better development. But if we forget our roots, these students may not be able to become truly qualified Chinese, which is even more disappointing for our parents.
The situation described by this father is incomprehensible to the Chinese people, to say the least. Whether it is from the perspective of national righteousness or from the perspective of a small personal family, it is a mystery how a person who can even abandon himself completes so many years of study and reads so many books.
Not just this one student, but all students should deeply reflect on the meaning of our learning and our responsibilities as children. Honoring one's parents is a matter of course and should not wait"Children want to educate, and parents can't wait"The day he repented.
In the process of educating their children, parents should also pay attention to setting an example so that their children can learn to respect and honor their parents. Pampering is a good thing, but being overly pampered is not advisable.
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