The initial reason for the broken dreams in many people's hearts often stems from the fact that parents are too good for their children's future and too ideal, and they tell their children that as long as they work hard, they can make a profit, however, such promises are often difficult to fulfill. How far a child can go depends not on the future portrayed by their parents, but more on their own wishes and efforts. The god that was planted in the hearts of children when they were young would be terrible if they had not been killed in adulthood.
In the United States, many African-American children who do not have enough to eat are told that they are angels from an early age. However, it is clear to everyone that no one really thinks they are angels. Many children have dreams of being ** when they are young, but there are too few people who really become **. The purpose of praising children is to give them the will to move forward on their own, not just to exaggerate their affirmation and not spend energy on nurturing them.
In contrast, it's a good idea not to allow children to wear superhero or princess and prince costumes, and to tell them that the world is not their own design, and that everything in the future is up to them.
It's a bit of a contradiction for adults to make their children believe in superheroes while not believing in them themselves. The reason for this is largely due to the frustration of adults themselves.
The growth of most of us is a process of constant frustration. In contrast, real-life superheroes like Jack Ma and Elon Musk, although they have also suffered setbacks, have generally gone from one victory to another, which has allowed them to remain ambitious.
Therefore, instead of directly "killing" the superhero in the child's heart, it is better to let their dreams continue for a while longer.
We often say that failure is the mother of success, but in my opinion, this statement is at most 10% true. There are often many reasons for failure, and the number of paths to success is extremely small.
Knowing that "1+1 is not equal to 3" is not the same as knowing that "1+1 is equal to 2", because in addition to 3 is not the answer......Neither. For those who are only satisfied with not failing, the lesson of failure can prevent them from making the same mistakes;But for those who want to succeed, the lessons of failure are far less important than the experience of success.
A person who often fails will Xi inertia failure, on the contrary, success is the mother of success. Failure is easy, but success comes with a lot of difficulties. There are lessons to be learned from failures, but they are simply too inefficient.
What's worse is that too many failures will make people lose courage, and the Monkey King will be farther and farther away from this. Compared to the little experience gained, the harm of failure is far greater than we think. Although it is difficult for people to succeed in one thing, they should always try to avoid failure so that they can suffer less setbacks.
For parents, one way to keep children from failing is to set a realistic goal while giving them room for imagination, rather than just drawing a pie and ignoring it.
For example, when applying to college, parents interfere too much in their children's choices, and the result is often the oppositeBut setting a high goal for your child and not helping them guard against obvious mistakes that lead to failure often doesn't turn out well. After one or two setbacks, some of the best children lose the courage to pursue the opportunities and positions they have to apply for, and that frustration makes them give up on their superheroes prematurely.
In the end, most people will give up the Monkey King in their hearts and fail to become a superhero, which is normal. It's good that we just accept it.
Mortals have mortal happiness, superheroes may not all end well, everyone's personality is different, and forcing yourself to do things that are difficult to do may not be happy.
For young people, instead of always thinking about Monkey King or Superman in their hearts, it is better to do something practical and let these superheroes live in their hearts for a longer time.
For adults, instead of telling children the story of Monkey King first and then "killing" the hero in their hearts, it is better to recall their mentality back then, do something practical, and let themselves gain confidence from success.
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