In our daily lives, we often hear the news of divorce from couples. These couples have loved each other and have had many good times together. However, over time, there was a rift in the relationship, which eventually led to a divorce. So, what is the root cause of divorce between husband and wife?Many people will think that it is because of personality discord, but in fact, this is not the most fundamental reason. This article will ** Three root causes of divorce between couples.
1. Lack of effective communication.
Communication is a crucial part of a couple's relationship. In married life, it is inevitable that there will be disagreements and contradictions between husband and wife. If both parties are unable to communicate effectively, problems can accumulate and eventually lead to a breakdown of the relationship. Couples who lack effective communication often have the following problems:
1.Difficulty in building consensus: The inability of both parties to understand each other's perspectives and needs leads to a growing distance between them.
2.Serious emotionality: When encountering problems, it is easy to get excited, quarrel, and even have a cold war, which hurts the feelings.
3.Difficulty in resolving conflicts: Both sides are unwilling to listen to each other and are unable to come up with constructive solutions.
Therefore, to maintain a good relationship between husband and wife, it is necessary to establish an effective communication mechanism. Learn to listen and express your own views and needs, respect each other's opinions, find common ground, and build consensus.
2. Lack of common life goals and values.
In addition to getting along in daily life, couples also need to have common life goals and values. If there is a disagreement between the parties on these aspects, it will lead to a gradual estrangement of the marital relationship. For example, one party pursues career success, while the other party is more focused on the stability of family life;Or there are huge differences between the two sides in terms of consumption concepts, educating children, etc. These differences can make it increasingly difficult for couples to understand and support each other, and the relationship will naturally suffer.
In order to maintain a good relationship as a couple, both parties should always ** and clarify their shared life goals and values. On this basis, support and encourage each other to work together to achieve these goals. If you find that you have different goals and values, you should communicate openly and honestly to find a solution or adjust your expectations.
Third, the conflict cannot be properly handled.
Couples will inevitably have quarrels and conflicts, and the key is how to deal with them. If the two sides fail to properly handle the conflict, it will lead to emotional damage and even serious problems such as the Cold War and violence. Couples who are unable to properly handle conflict often have the following problems:
1.Attack each other's weaknesses: In an argument, both parties tend to attack each other's weaknesses rather than solving the problem on a case-by-case basis.
2.Reluctance to compromise: Neither side is willing to compromise, resulting in conflicts that cannot be properly resolved.
3.Emotional out-of-control: When encountering conflict, it is easy to lose control of emotions and even violent behavior.
Therefore, couples should learn to deal with conflicts properly. First of all, learn to control your emotions and not let the argument escalate into aggression and injury. Second, we should respect the other person's views and feelings, and solve the problem on a case-by-case basis. Finally, both sides should look for common solutions instead of sticking to their own positions. By properly managing conflicts, the relationship between husband and wife can be more stable and harmonious.
To sum up, the root cause of divorce between couples is not personality discord, but a lack of effective communication, shared life goals and values, and an inability to properly handle conflicts. In order to maintain a good relationship between husband and wife, both parties should pay attention to the development and improvement of these three aspects. Only in this way can the marriage relationship be more stable, harmonious and happy.