I don't like parties, I prefer to stay alone at home;
It seems that there are a lot of friends, but there are only one or two who really make friends, and more of them are just superficial relationships, because there has never been a conflict;
A relationship will be in my heart for a long time, so long that I don't know how to get out;
It takes a long time to get used to a new environment;
In the face of leadership, he is always at a loss;
Speaking in public, his face was as red as freshly cooked prawns.
That's who I am!Although I have been a front-line salesperson for nearly 20 years, I am an introvert through and through, and I have always been in a state of self-consumption. I was fortunate enough to come across this book, which made me reacquaint myself with myself.
I'm sorry, I might be allergic to people
Wu Mian. As a psychological counselor and co-founder of Mushroom Psychology, Mr. Wu Mian has been committed to the popularization of psychology and has created more than 1,000 psychological articles with a total of 2 million words, of which some have been read 100,000+. In his new book, he not only paints a detailed portrait of introverts, but also deeply analyzes the problems encountered by introverts in the fields of socialization, intimacy, and the workplace, and gives practical solutions.
I saw someone on the Internet say that this kind of book is like chicken soup, and when you drink it, you will be energetic, and you will forget it all after two days. I would say that this book is for introverts who are troubled by internal friction, if you are an introvert but live a consistent life, there is no need to read this book.
And people like me, in the process of reading it, will feel a deep resonance and regret that they didn't come across it earlier, if they saw this book 20 years ago:
I don't choose to enter the sales industry as soon as I graduate, but I accept who I really am and choose a career path that can better play to my strengths
I won't choose a bitter crush, but I will have the courage to get close to the male god I once thought of, even if I can't harvest love, but at least I have a youth without regrets;
I will not let myself endure all the time, always be wronged, and always be a bystander, but will let myself learn to lose my temper, will screen the people close to me, and I am in charge of my circle of friends;
I will not drop the chain as soon as I encounter a problem that needs to communicate with the leader, but I will try to learn to communicate with the leader and show myself appropriately at work
I don't compete with myself, I always want to be a little more extroverted and gregarious, but I accept my personality and allow life to unfold at my own pace
I will know that introversion is a personality and has its own unique strengths, without having to force myself to change.
Although time has long passed, even after reading this book today, in addition to the feeling of seeing each other late, I still have a feeling that I am fortunate to have met it.
It's like planting a tree, the best time is ten years ago, followed by the present. The same is true for encountering this book.
In the last part of the book, the author gives a roadmap for the life of an introvert, although I can only look back and review before middle age, but here I find the direction of the future - midlife transformation, embark on the path of self-consistency, until the realization of the true self.
I like one of the author's metaphors in the book: if the relationship between extroverts and the outside world is like fish and water, then the relationship between introverts and the outside world is like frogs and water. We are frogs, and we don't have to turn ourselves into fish. The frog's unique advantage is that 70% of the world's successful people are introverts.
Here are the advantages that make us unique to ourselves as frogs:
Good at self-awareness, deep thinking, easy to form a state of flow.
It has a strong shielding power.
Strong sense of responsibility and reliable.
Strong affinity. It is suitable for work that requires deep thinking and creativity (creativity is the core skill in the AI era).
Let me be a thinking frog!