Recently, there was a theft case in Shanghai, involving a 26-year-old man, Wu Xiaoming (pseudonym). Wu Xiaoming conspired with others to burglary and stole his aunt's high-end liquor. However, Wu Xiaoming was lucky, thinking that his family would shoulder the responsibility for the theft on his behalf, after all, he was still an adult. This time, however, he miscalculated. Wu Xiaoming's aunt, Ms. Wu, resolutely pursued his criminal responsibility and called the police to arrest him and his accomplices.
This case has provoked reflection on excessive spoiling in family education. Wu Xiaoming fell into the Xi of gambling and theft because of the doting of his family. The 26-year-old Wu Xiaoming has already had three previous theft convictions, and his father turned a blind eye to his mistakes, causing his Xi to gradually deepen. In this theft, Wu Xiaoming lost a lot of money gambling and owed a huge amount of debt, and in order to make up for the loss, he decided to carry out the theft.
This kind of mistake in family education has led to Wu Xiaoming's wrong behavior constantly aggravating, and even made him a habitual offender. His parents blindly protected him, so that he made some bad friends, and then embarked on the road of crime. The consequences of this kind of doting and indulgence are immeasurable, not only hurting Wu Xiaoming's personal growth, but also bringing a negative impact on society.
Wu Xiaoming's case is a wake-up call that excessive spoiling is a stifling of a child's future. When parents spoil their children too much, do not allow them to make mistakes, and do not give them proper pressure, they are actually restricting their children's growth space and making them lose their invincible motivation and tenacity.
Excessive spoiling will make children lose their correct values and moral bottom line. Because they always live in a protected environment, they do not face difficulties and setbacks, nor do they have the opportunity to recognize and understand the complexities of society, and they cannot learn from their experiences. Once faced with setbacks and difficulties, they tend to fall unprepared into confusion and helplessness.
At the same time, over-spoiling can also make children feel dependent, thinking that their family members can take care of everything for them. This dependency mentality hinders their ability to develop independently and sense of responsibility. When Wu Xiaoming felt that he would be protected by his family and would not be prosecuted by the law, his desire to commit crimes became more and more unscrupulous, and he went astray into the road of breaking the law and committing crimes.
Excessive spoiling also leads to a lack of correct self-awareness and self-management skills. They are unable to control their desires and emotions well and are prone to pursue instant gratification and pleasure, which leads to the occurrence of some undesirable behaviors. Just as Wu Xiaoming resorted to theft in order to satisfy his desire to gamble, for him, as long as he can solve the immediate dilemma, the consequences are not important.
Therefore, for parents, it is necessary to educate their children in moderation, neither too spoiling, nor too harsh. It is necessary to give children moderate pressure and frustration, and let them overcome difficulties through their own efforts, so as to cultivate their independence and ability to resist frustration. At the same time, it is also necessary to correct children's wrong behaviors in a timely manner and guide them to establish correct values and moral concepts.
Through this case and thinking about the phenomenon of excessive spoiling, I realized the importance and influence of family education. As parents or parents, we cannot only see the short-term benefits in the near future and ignore the impact on the future development of our children.
I used to be in an overly spoiled environment, and I used to live a carefree life under the care of my family. However, when I left my family and entered society, I realized the difference between people and the cruelty of life. I had to adapt and deal with the challenges and re-establish my value system.
This case made me deeply realize that as parents or parents, we must lead by example and give our children the right education and guidance. They should not be overly spoiled, but should learn to think independently and manage themselves, and cultivate their sense of responsibility and legitimate pressure tolerance.
In addition, I realized the complexity and difficulty of homeschooling. Every family has its own characteristics and confusions, and how to balance the growth needs of children and the cultivation of social values is a problem that needs to be deeply thought about and explored.
Finally, I hope that every family can pay attention to their children's growth and give them appropriate guidance and support. Only in this way can we cultivate generations of people in the new era who are responsible and responsible.