Looking at myself from the perspective of a third person, I will look at my daily behavior like a melon eater.
What do you think?It's about imagining what you're doing from a third-person perspective, is it driven by emotions, or is it doing something interesting?
Look at yourself like a melon-eating crowd, what to see?
What does it mean to be emotionally motivated?
Emotions, the little blackboard knocks on the point, let's remember the word emotion.
Now we are often driven by fear and anxiety. By creating a tense atmosphere, such as limited-time offers, limited quantities**, etc., to stimulate consumers' desire to buy.
For example, can you outperform inflation?One sentence triggers anxiety, and it turns out that you want his interest, and he asks for your principal.
Some people's barometers of mood are handed over to others. Then such emotions are easy to be driven by others.
In this case, it is because there is no stability in the inside.
I can't encourage myself, and I desperately need to be recognized by others. The key is the standard recognized by others, whether it is suitable for yourself
I used to have a classmate in high school who wanted everyone to like him and show favor to everyone everywhere, but she lived a humble life.
There is a friend who he can't be alone, he is very afraid of being quiet, as long as he is alone, he will run out, he will go to party with others, he will go to eat with others, he will communicate with others. The crowd was full of voices, and he was particularly satisfied.
Learning to look at ourselves from a third-person perspective can help us detach ourselves from our emotions.
Something happened today, I saw my pitch go up, the anger came up, and then I walked away and left that environment.
Learn to use the perspective of a third person, when I look at myself from a high altitude, to see if I am driven by emotions, I will observe that my emotions come fromAm I being brought to the beat?Then I went over and took a look, oh, I see.
In this way, it is possible to avoid daily life, and actions are driven by emotions.
We were like an acrobat every day with seven or eight plates in our hands, and then we were trying not to let those plates fall off.
If we don't look at ourselves from a third-person perspective, then we're playing this and this acrobatic all the time, and we're having a good time.
If we can stop and look at ourselves, then we can also give ourselves a chance to care for ourselves.
Doing something interesting can also go a long way in avoiding anxiety.
In the book "Why Didn't the Psychiatrist Tell Me", it is said that spiritual pursuit can stimulate energy, not only provide meaning to life, but also help directly solve anxiety problems, because it can bring people qualities such as peace of mind, self-esteem, faith and unconditional love.
Didn't I say earlier that it was because of some trivial matters, and then I had some communication difficulties with others, I looked at it from the perspective of the people who eat melons.
It's a trivial matter, but this time my unpleasantness didn't last long. Because I'm doing something that I like, and then it's funny, it helps me to quickly get out of this emotion, the daily trivialities.
What's interesting?Take, for example, this article I'm writing right now. For example, I organize a group of friends I have made outside of work so that we can encourage and support each other. Isn't this "making something out of nothing", with unlimited creativity?
Since I was a child, I didn't like to be famous, and I liked to be a little transparent. Since I joined a writing camp last year and started writing publicly, I have been writing little by little, and there are many people around me who write, and I feel that I have come to a coffee bar, full of people, but I feel quiet and safe. I don't want any hits, my level is not a top player, I write freely, I live in the human realm, and there is no carriage and horses.
Well, that's where I'm now, every day when I have time, I'm busy doing what I like, and I don't notice the messy plates, I'm happy.