In this life, people can't live too seriously, and they can't live too confused. If you live too seriously, you will easily tire yourself, and if you live too confused, you will easily hurt yourself. Therefore, in life, it is okay to be confused about small things, but you must not be confused about big things.
The first big thing that can't be confused is marriage.
Marriage is a major event in life, which is the consensus of almost all people in ancient and modern times. Since ancient times, getting married, having children, and starting a family have always been regarded as the most important things in life, and they must be completed.
Marriage connects two people who are not related by blood, and two people who had nothing to do with each other decades ago will have to live under one roof for the rest of their lives because they have entered the palace of marriage. Who would dare to say that such an important thing is insignificant?
It is precisely because marriage is such an important thing, so it can change a person's fate to a large extent, some people have become better because of marriage, and some people have been ruined because of marriage, and even buried their lives and lives, so they must not be confused in the matter of marriage, and the mentality of getting by is absolutely undesirable.
If you find that you and your partner are not suitable after getting married, it is best not to force it to run in. Adults have to choose, not educate or change others, let alone change themselves to cooperate with others.
As the saying goes, small changes can be made, but huge changes are almost impossible.
People are always Xi of agreeing with their own ideas, and it is difficult to empathize with others, understand others, and think for others at all times, which is not a matter of selfishness or selflessness, but human nature.
If a marriage needs to be maintained by endurance and acting skills, then the rest is only a superficial peace, and two people who are really in a marriage will not be happy.
The second big thing that should not be confused is money.
It is said that money can make ghosts grind, money is not omnipotent, but without money it is absolutely impossible. Therefore, in the area of money, we must calculate the accounts clearly, and there can be no confused accounts, let alone suffer losses, otherwise there will only be more troubles at that time.
It is said that talking about money hurts feelings, so don't mention money casually when it is not necessary, whether it is with friends, family, colleagues, or even strangers. Sometimes when walking on the road, the money is exposed, and people passing by may be interested in seeing it, let alone the people who are familiar with it.
Therefore, when you have money, you must keep a low profile, take care of your property soberly and rationally, and don't spend money and borrow money in a daze, otherwise you will always regret it.
The third big thing that can't be confused is interpersonal relationships.
It is very difficult for people to live in this world without any human relationships. From birth, you have a family that you can't choose from, then relatives who spin off, then friends, classmates, co-workers, and sometimes even strangers.
In the area of interpersonal relationships, regardless of near or far, you must remember not to easily forgive people who have hurt or betrayed you. Betrayal, like cheating, has only zero and countless times, so don't be confused, don't bow your head and don't speak, don't adopt a negative attitude of turning a blind eye, this silent connivance will only make the person who hurt you worse.
The relationship that should be broken should be broken neatly, and procrastination will only cause more trouble. Sometimes everything is fine, but it is only when you meet bad people that you will harm yourself for a lifetime.
Therefore, in the face of complex interpersonal relationships, you must have your own considerations and judgments, and don't let a moment of confusion hurt you for a lifetime.