My name is Li Mei and I am 31 years old. I have been married for 3 years, and my husband's name is Zhang Qiang, who is 5 years older than me. We met on a blind date. Life after marriage is quite dull, and occasionally I will quarrel over some trivial things, but in general, life is okay. My parents-in-law live in my hometown and come back to see us every year during the Chinese New Year. I used to think my in-laws were quite satisfied with me. It wasn't until last year that Zhang Qiang's brother-in-law, Wang Jun, returned to China after graduating from a doctorate abroad, and my life changed dramatically.
Wang Jun is 6 years younger than me, and he is only 25 this year. Listening to Zhang Qiang, Wang Jun's grades were very good when he was studying for a doctorate abroad, and his job search was also very smooth, so his in-laws valued him very much and felt that he was the pride of the family. Unexpectedly, just last month, my in-laws suddenly told us that they wanted Wang Jun to live in our house in the future, and asked me to take good care of Wang Jun like a son in the future, and to serve him when cooking and washing clothes. When I heard this request, I was stunned and thought that my in-laws were too much.
Zhang Qiang, did you hear your in-laws' request?How can this be, we have only been married for 3 years, why do you want to take in your brother-in-law and ask me to serve him every day?"That night, I discussed this matter with Zhang Qiang.
I know that's a bit too much to ask. But Wang Jun is my brother-in-law after all, and we should take care of him. Moreover, we can't directly refuse the request of our in-laws. Zhang Qiang said.
That can't let him live in our house!Serving a little uncle every day, can I agree?"I'm in a hurry.
I was very sad and felt that Zhang Qiang was not on my side at all. This family suddenly has an extra brother-in-law, and my position is in jeopardy. "Zhang Qiang, don't you really plan to agree to your in-laws' request?Don't forget, we are husband and wife now, and you should support me, not my in-laws!I said to Zhang Qiang with red eyes.
Meimei, calm down. I understand your feelings, but we can't directly refuse the in-laws' request. It's also important for them. If we observe the situation again, maybe after a while, things will turn around. Zhang Qiang persuaded me.
Is there a turnaround?I think it's only going to get worse!"I think Zhang Qiang is simply unreasonable.
Zhang Qiang sighed and said, "I understand your feelings, but Wang Jun is my brother-in-law after all. Let's do this first, and if there is anything inconvenient, we will discuss it. ”
I was so angry that I went straight back to my parents' house. As soon as my mother heard about this, she immediately scolded Zhang Qiang and her in-laws. "It's just too much!Meimei is only 31 years old, at the age of youth and beauty, how can she be allowed to serve a 25-year-old uncle!Zhang Qiang's kid even agreed, it's too unusual!”
I also felt that I was overreacting at the time, after all, Zhang Qiang would be very anxious if he ran away from home without saying hello. But when I thought of my in-laws' unreasonable demands and Zhang Qiang's attitude, I was very angry.
I was still angry when I heard this: "So what are you going to do now?".Do you want me to go back and be a nanny for your brother-in-law?”
No, Meimei, you listen to me after I finish speaking. I've had a serious talk with my in-laws. They couldn't imagine the impact on our lives as a couple. We all agreed that Wang Jun would still rent a house to live on his own and not move to our house. Don't worry, I won't let you be wronged again. Zhang Qiang looked at me seriously.
I was silent. Indeed, Zhang Qiang took the initiative to apologize to me and also talked to his in-laws, which made me feel that he seemed to be sincerely reflecting. "Then do you promise that you will stand by my side in the future in the major affairs of the family?"I'm still a little hesitant.
I promise. You are my wife, and we should be in the same boat, and we should discuss and decide together something. Zhang Qiang held my hand and said.
I finally nodded. Perhaps, our marriage just encountered a small storm and was able to get through it in the end. "Alright then, let's go home. I said to Zhang Qiang.
That night, Zhang Qiang saw that I was a little absent-minded, and took the initiative to come over and chat with me: "Meimei, do you still mind what happened before?".I know it wasn't easy for you. ”
I nodded, "Well, I do care a little. But I'm sure you'll change, let's take it one step at a time. ”
Thank you for your willingness to give me the opportunity. I will pay more attention to your feelings, and I will also talk to my in-laws again, so as not to let them ask too much. Zhang Qiang hugged me.
A few days later, my in-laws called** and said they wanted to come and see us. I'm still a little nervous, after all, my relationship with my in-laws will definitely be a little awkward after the last big fight.
On the day I came, my in-laws saw me and said with a smile: "Meimei, I'm really sorry last time, we didn't think it through for a while, and we asked too much." The most important thing is that you and Zhang Qiang have a good relationship. ”
I breathed a sigh of relief and responded politely, "This is a misunderstanding, I hope we can communicate more in the future." ”
In the evening, my in-laws offered to talk to me alone. I was a little nervous and didn't know what they were going to say.
Meimei, I'm really sorry this time, it's because we didn't think it through. The in-laws said.
I understand that you are in a hurry to let Wang Jun come back to live. But as elders, we should also consider the feelings of our young people. I said cautiously.
Yes, sometimes our older generation doesn't think well enough. If there is anything in the future, we will ask you and Zhang Qiang for their opinions first. The in-laws nodded.
That's good. Actually, I also like Wang Jun's little uncle. It's just that moving to our house all at once does take a process. I laughed.
This conversation eased my relationship with my in-laws. Zhang Qiang also began to pay more attention to my feelings, and often discussed family matters with me. I believe that with more communication between family members, we can get through this and rebuild trust.