Caring about other people's eyes is because they fundamentally think that others are more correct, smarter, and better.
In short, compared to others, I am nothing and nothing, at least in terms of socialization.
Of course, the core factor is not that you have an excessive inferiority complex.
It is that the foundation of "seeing the world" is too weak, which is commonly known as insufficient social experienceThe brain is not trained to make correct judgments and analyze comprehensively.
As for what to do?
Strengthen the practice of experience and self-confidenceImprove the chain of self-analysis, you will be inclined to trust your own judgment.
Originally, other people's eyes fell on **, and it had nothing to do with themselves.
Even if others are right and you are indeed wrong, it can only beThe different perspectives and levels of experience do not mean anything else
But ifI don't trust myself at all, I don't agree with my own value at all, and I often question myself in my heart, so other people's opinions are naturally correct.
You are naturally incorrect, and only others are right.
For such a soul that does not trust oneself at all, what others think of oneself is very important.
The reason for this psychology is probably that I heard such words too many times when I was a child
Look at that one, it's much better than you."
People are laughing at you, don't you know?”
Just like you, you only deserve to go when you grow up.
After listening to it a lot and being emphasized more times, I can't help but feel that I can't do it.
When the mind does not yet have the complete ability to analyze, the subconscious mind is only forced to accept and digest on the spot.
When self-denial becomes a fixed thinking, "caring about other people's opinions" has become inertia.
When we are ignorant of the world and people, when we see many things like a veil, we are often tripped up by small stones on the road of life.
The more times you plant your head, you will subconsciously feel that others are right - the blood bag on your head constantly proves this.
Many people attribute this to their own lack of intelligence and excellence, but they are not.
It's just inexperienced.
For example, in the unit-
1) When you encounter a problem at work, you want to come up with a good plan or solution.
However, if you don't have enough accumulation and experience, the result of rash action is usually failure.
They are more inclined to listen to others. Even if other people's are wrong, they are Xi to listening to others.
Because I don't have the ability to discriminate, I have to care about other people's opinions.
2) Completely out of sight of colleagues.
For example, colleagues see themselves as positive or negative, capable or stupid, and thoughtful or blind. I have no concept at all.
Everything depends on the attitude of the people around you when facing you to make a simple judgment.
In this way, I basically can't position myself, of course, I have to care about the opinions of the people around me.
Although I care about other people's opinions as the soul - the sin created by the guy who can't control myself, as long as I train well and guide carefully, I can slowly graduate.
"Character" is never a given.
For example, 1) when you perceive negative thoughts, immediately shout to stop;
2) Do some self-affirmation training regularly, no matter what, tell yourself that it is worth affirming, but it has not accumulated to a certain extent;
The denial of others is not necessarily correct, even if the other person is the person closest to you;
Reminiscing about the moments of accusation and denial in the past, try to soothe the injured self, the heart that is gradually grieving, and gently soothe it;
5) Exposure to psychology and the study of the development process of oneself and the "eyes of others".
Train regularly to build appropriate mental cues. Accumulate to a certain extent, justNo more subconsciously self-denial + no reason to affirm others.
At that time, you will be able to respect yourself gently and slowly get out of the eyes of others.
When we don't believe in ourselves, we tend to trust others too much.
With too little experience, we unconsciously lower our trust in ourselves.
This has nothing to do with IQ, it's just the inevitable result of a long experience.
Do self-confidence training, but also meet the challenges of life, and when you establish a basic understanding of yourself and the world, the "eyes of others" will fade out of judgment.
It's just that it's not a short + easy process. During this period, I not only had to experience the troubles of studying Xi, but also constantly meditated on my original intention in countless times of self-doubt.
After all, the character that cares about the human eye cannot be formed without going through countless days and nightsIt also takes a lot of strength to destroy it.
Only by loving one's own soul can one cultivate an objective heart.
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