In Zhang Ailing's "The First Incense", there are two girls who work at Mrs. Liang's house: the smart Jian'er and the straightforward Jian'er. Although they do the same job, their fate is very different.
With her wit and acumen, she got along well in Mrs. Liang's house. In contrast, Jian Jian was reprimanded and dismissed by Mrs. Liang for some mistakes. In fact, the problem with Kankan is that she lacks a clear understanding of her own behavior.
First of all, she speaks too bluntly and lacks basic emotional intelligence. When Ge Weilong first came to his aunt's house, he was in charge of reception. Wei Long, who was waiting in the living room, noticed that when Jian Jian and Jian Er talked in private, she did not shy away from the living, and even talked about their master, Mrs. Liang, behind her back. Her bold remarks show that she is a simple-minded girl with low emotional intelligence.
What's worse is that Jian'er also commented on Mrs. Liang in front of Jian'er, and then despised Jian'er's tendency to become inflammatory. Her words and actions apparently made Mrs. Liang disgusted her, and also prevented her from forming a deep friendship with Jian'er.
Overall, Kan's straightforward personality and lack of emotional intelligence made her difficult to handle relationships. She could neither get the respect of her master nor develop intimate relationships with her colleagues. In contrast, her ingenuity and shrewdness have made her successful at Mrs. Leung's house. Some people are always unwilling to be consistent with their bosses, and this kind of person can't do great things no matter how they are. You see, there are some people who think very highly of themselves, but they don't know how to respect their masters, and they don't understand their own identity and status. For example, this girl works in Mrs. Liang's house, but she doesn't know how to respect her master. Mrs. Liang was so good to her, but she took her master's kindness for granted, and even dared to contradict her master.
Such a person, no matter how talented he is, will find it difficult to make a difference in the workplace. Therefore, in the workplace, we must learn to be consistent with our superiors and respect their decisions in order to succeed in the workplace. On that moonlit night, the well-behaved girl silently followed her mother on her way home. In her heart, she has an illusory dream of love, a dream higher than the sky. She has a straightforward personality, strong as fire, and has her own calculations and expectations in her heart. In her heart, she deeply longed to be like Mrs. Liang, to find a rich man and live a comfortable life from now on.
So, she carried Mrs. Liang behind her back and quietly established a secret connection with the unruly rich son Qiao Qiqiao. However, she ignored Mrs. Liang's shrewd vision, how could the man she fancied be easy to really fall in love with others?Qiao Qiqiao's indifference and ruthlessness made Jian Jian finally understand his innocence.
When Mrs. Leung reproached her for her misconduct, she stubbornly retorted: "I have accommodated him so much, but he does not want me." It's not that I'm incapable, it's just that he doesn't deserve it. She blamed her failure on Mrs. Leung's obstruction. In an almost childish way, she exposes her secret with Georgie Kio in an attempt to confront Mrs. Leung.
The means of looking at it are simple and direct, but the mind is extremely delicate. It's just that, as a girl, she seems to have forgotten her duty. The confrontation with the main family made her lose her original status and trust. She dreams of changing her fate through marriage, but ignores the risks.
Facing Wei Long and Mrs. Liang, he was full of resentment: "I won't starve to death!."There are also substitutes. This time it's satisfying, my own flesh and blood, and my family lives. Her words were full of resentment and resentment towards Mrs. Leung. Compared with Jian'er, Jian'er is obviously a lot inferior. Her words are harsh and she doesn't know how to please others. She looks down on the servility of the child, but unconsciously shows similar qualities.
The fate of the eyes seems to have been predestined for a long time. As a maid, she always wants to follow the path of Mrs. Liang, which makes her lose her way. She stubbornly pursues her dreams, but never realizes that it is contrary to her identity and duty. In her relationship with Georgie Jo, she lost her dignity and trust. And her willful behavior made her lose her status in the Liang family.
In general, Jianjian's life is full of struggle and helplessness. As a girl, she has an unrealistic dream. Her stubbornness and willfulness have made her go farther and farther, but she has never seriously thought about her situation and identity. In such a situation, she could not escape the tragic end after all. Her problem is that she doesn't know how to back down when necessary, and she clings too much to personal freedom and stability.
We must admit that in the context of a specific era, if women know how to protect themselves and avoid useless struggles, they can often achieve a relatively stable life. However, Kan Kan did not think deeply about this. On the day her mother took her away, she immediately acted as if nothing had happened, even though she had just been coerced by Mrs. Liang. Her eyes were red and swollen from crying, her face was expressionless, and she was chewing peanuts in her mouth. This is a common problem for women: they don't know how to learn lessons and sum up experiences. Therefore, she is doomed.