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When chasing the drama, there was a paragraph that I didn't understand very well, An Jie's nephews were all burned, and the eldest brother and sister-in-law asked her to ask Jiang Defu for help, and even An Xin felt that she should go, after all, this is a life-threatening matter.
An Jie went, but saw Jiang Defu turn around and leave again, and when he came back, the eldest brother thought that people refused to help, or didn't find it, but An Jie said that she couldn't open her mouth, which was really unreasonable.
That's the nephew who gets along with him day and night, and now he needs to save his life urgently, besides, even the eldest brother and sister-in-law can see that Jiang Defu is a good person, and An Jie himself knows that Jiang Defu will not use this matter to blackmail her or something.
At this time, An Jie was [bourgeois ideology].Or is it [human nature]?
reminds me of the case around me, when I encounter this situation, even if I kneel down to the doctor, stuff red envelopes, go to the Internet to pull down my face and crowdfund, or even ask for help to donate blood everywhere, I will do my best to help solve it.
Face, compared with life, everyone can tell which is more important and which is more important, why is An Jie so indistinguishable?
Let's take a look at this [can't open your mouth], what is behind it?
1.As soon as I turned my face with someone, I went to ask for someone.
An Jie didn't contact him in a fit of anger when he knew that Jiang Defu was divorced, thinking that he was a **.
A few of my customers have completely turned against their mother-in-law, the reason is nothing more than the conflict between the confinement period or with the child, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live separately, each has its own cross, and the well water does not interfere with the river water.
But when he insisted on old age, he still turned his face, only one, and the rest resumed contact with his mother-in-law.
A few even begged their mother-in-law to take the child, so they resumed contact.
After experiencing turning his face and begging for someone, he can understand the taste, he really can't open his mouth, even if he asks his husband to pass the word, he has to return the favor.
2.After asking for help, how can you repay this favor.
An Jie didn't think about how to repay this favor, since he didn't plan to associate with others, what would he do to repay this favor?
Treat yourself to dinner and be like a friendIt's like resuming contact. What if Jiang Defu feels that there is hope to catch up with him again and fight to the death?
The eldest brother said that he begged, his face was worthless, An Jie finally went by him, everyone knows that this favor still has to be returned by An Jie in the end, Jiang Defu is helping something, everyone knows it, obviously.
Jiang Defu will not let An Jie return anything, he will not use this to control An Jie's family.
But, [people who don't want to reciprocate are the hardest to repay], aren't they?
is as selfish as An Jie, hesitating on major matters, but in the end, in view of family affection and morality, the one who still made the right choice is a realistic and normal person.
Writing this, I no longer doubt An Jie's character. She knew that her eldest brother went to find Jiang Defu, and in the end she came to repay the favor, if she was selfish to the end, she would not let her family go.
There is a case in the news where the father needed a kidney replacement, and only his only son was matched with him, but the son refused to donate the kidney.
The reason for using it is: the kidney is not like the liver, it has the ability to regenerate, one less is one less, and I don't want to live a crippled life in the future.
The mother supported her son instead.
In other words, An Jie didn't fail to distinguish which was more important, and she didn't care about her nephew's life, she just made a choice that was a little more difficult.
How to save your nephew without causing trouble for yourself, how to have a better way, this is the thinking of normal people.
Now, after all kinds of righteous and courageous actions, after the endless cases of falling ill, the mainstream values of society preach that they should act bravely without hurting themselves.
Of course, this is not the same thing as An Jie saving his nephew.
I think if An Jie's family knows more PLA people's liberation officers, his family will not let An Jie go to Jiang Defu for help.
What was the bourgeois ideology of that era?It is the exploitation of other people's things for self-enjoyment.
An Jie can't open his mouth, and he can't exploit anyone.
Some people say that it is because she doesn't look down on Jiang Defu, so she can't open her mouth. But the plot is that the two of them have actually been dating back and forth, An Jie's impression of Jiang Defu has changed, but An Jie can't accept the divorce, and Gana is gone.
Therefore, [can't open your mouth] is a normal human nature.
In real life, if we encounter such a situation, how can we [open our mouths]?Not only do not cause trouble for yourself, but also save people.
Here we have to thank us for being born in a good era, the benefits of the Internet will be revealed, and the problem will be solved by publishing a [help post] on the Internet.
So if it is a problem that the Internet can't solve, and we need to ask for someone who has just refused, how can we overcome this obstacle in our hearts?
The method I use is [cheeky], as long as I am not embarrassed, it is others who are embarrassed.
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