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Think twice before speaking, and it is easy to hurt people if you don't choose what you say
Hurting others verbally is sometimes just an unintentional act on our part, and what we think is nothing can cause some harm in the ears of others.
Silence may not be in your heart, but it's easy to mess up relationships. However, it is difficult for people to think twice about every word they say. Only through continuous practice, continuous summarization and exercise, can we grasp properly and put away freely when speaking.
Can you speak?"In the face of such a question, you must smile disdainfully, as long as you are a normal person, who can't speak?In fact, speaking is a very advanced art. Everyone can speak, but some people always speak without consideration, and they don't choose what to say, and often after venting, they only care about their own happiness and don't care about the life and death of others.
Let's start with a few jokes about unscrupulous words:
A shaved master's house was robbed. The next day, he sighed as he shaved someone's head. The master replied, "Our house was robbed by robbers last night, and now that I think about it, I should only shave my head for the robbers for a year." When his patron heard this, he was very upset and drove him away in anger. The master who invited him asked, "There was a master who served you before, why did you change the villain?"The master told him the reason for the change of master. The master listened, nodded and said, "He doesn't choose what he says, he really smashes his own job." ”
At the birthday banquet, the guests said the word "longevity" in the same language. One person said "Shougao Pengzu", one said "Shoubi Nanshan", and the third person said "Blessed as sin". The guests said: "This is not only unlucky, but also the words are not right, you should be fined three glasses of wine, and another thing is good." The man drank the wine and said, "It is not a death to die." The crowd said angrily: "Birthday banquet, how can you speak without going through your brain." The man repented and said, "Die, die." ”
There was one person for a treat, and three of the four guests arrived first. The master waited anxiously, and said casually: "Alas, the one who should have come has not yet come." When a guest heard this, he was unhappy: "Shouldn't I have come?""Say goodbye and go. The master was anxious and said, "The one who shouldn't have gone has gone again." The second guest was also angry: "Am I the one who should go and don't go?".After saying that, he turned around and left. The host smiled wryly and said to one of the remaining guests, "They misunderstood, but I didn't mean they ......The third guest was even more uncomfortable when he heard it: "It's not about them, it's about me." The host's words were not finished, and the last guest was gone.
Although it is a joke, such mistakes are not uncommon in life, and if we speak without thinking, it can hurt people's happiness and lead to embarrassing scenes between people. Therefore, when speaking, you must pay attention to the occasion, object, and atmosphere of speaking, and you need to think twice before speaking. For example, some people go to the vegetable market and ask the meat seller: "Master, how do you sell your meat?"Or the restaurant waiter puts on a plate of sausages and says, "Sir, this is your intestines." "We must be careful to avoid such low-level mistakes.
Some people "talk about people when they see people, and talk about ghosts when they see ghosts", and many people learn Xi this way. It's obviously like this, but some people just say it's like that. What you say one second, you change your words the next. Turning with the wind like this, watching people cook, insincerely, and deceiving themselves. **The "chameleon" written by the writer Chekhov is so "tired" that he keeps talking to himself, which is a typical negative teaching material.
The skill of speaking must be learned Xi, but we must also adhere to the principle and not refer to the deer as the horse. If you speak against your will, then the skill becomes evil. Cui Yongyuan said it well: "If we learn to speak in the world, when we use alcohol to soak our experience, and when we proudly appreciate our own skill, we also lose a lot of real things, which are important to us." ”
If you don't stick to principles when you speak, what you lose is personality.
Talking is very simple for children, just say whatever they want. Only adults find it a problem. The adults are thoughtful, thoughtful, and know how to weigh and play, but the children don't have so many worries in their minds. So, what if we really want to say it, like a fish in the throat, not vomiting and unhappy, but we don't know how to say it appropriately?Cui Yongyuan came up with an idea: say whatever you want, just like the German coach Schlapner said to the Chinese footballers: "If you don't know where to kick the ball, kick it into the opponent's goal!"”
It's easy and effective, and it's a great way to avoid hurting others, but it's only temporary. If you want to really say good things and avoid hurting others, you must be attentive, cultivate the ability and skills to say good things, and say them naturally, and when you really can't say them, you would rather choose to be silent.