There is an old saying: "Idlers talk a lot, and everything runs out of their mouths." "When you meet someone who is too idle, you may have the kindness to help him, but you will often get into more trouble.
1.Time is wasted: Once idlers are idle, they tend to become complaining, and spending a lot of time with them. Whether it's the time you spend listening to their complaints, or the time you spend solving problems for them, your time will be wasted. Instead of providing useless help to an idler, it is better to spend your time on something more meaningful.
2.Motivation is killed: idlers often have no goal and motivation, they are Xi to relying on others to solve problems, and lack self-discipline and persistence. When you help them again and again, their motivation is weakened or even disappears altogether. You can't always make decisions and solve problems for others, or they will become dependent on you Xi inertia, and thus lose the opportunity to grow and learn Xi.
3.They don't cherish it: Idlers often don't have the results and experience of their own efforts, so it is difficult for them to cherish the efforts of others. When you put a lot of time and effort into them, you may only get a light thank you or even nothing in return. For people who are too idle, they will not tap into and value the contributions of others, but will only take them for granted.
4.No Value: Helping someone who is too idle will not have a positive impact on your image and value. The person you get along with may feel that you don't have your own opinions and are easy to be taken advantage of by others. And in the workplace, helping idlers too much can make you perceive as unprofessional and unpragmatic. On the contrary, if you focus on your goals and work, and demonstrate the ability to solve problems on your own, you will be more respected.
We all know that idlers are the most annoying. They are always doing nothing, doing nothing every day. When you see them sitting there bored to pass the time, you may feel pity and want to help them out and give them something to do.
However, things often don't go as smoothly as we think. Once you devote yourself to helping idlers, you will find that doing it is more like raising a lazy cat. They are Xi to being dependent on you, too lazy to do anything, but expecting you to give it their all for them.
And, there will never end to your help. No matter what you've done for them, they'll always have more to ask for. They don't know how to be grateful, they only care about taking. You will find yourself becoming their slaves, being dragged down by them, shackling your time and energy.
What's worse is that the laziness of idlers is easily contagious to you. Their negative attitude and idle lifestyle will creep into your life and make you lazy too. You will find it increasingly difficult to move and become an "inert fighter".
For the sake of our own development and happiness, we must learn to keep our distance and not easily help a person who is too idle. When you see them doing nothing, don't be soft-hearted and don't be fooled by their pitiful appearance. Believe me, they have their own ability to find things to do, they just don't have the will.
Of course, I'm not saying that we should turn a blind eye to the plight of others. We can provide some help and guidance appropriately, but we must adhere to one principle: help is limited, and self-help is the main thing. Our aim is to motivate them and allow them to find their own problem-solving skills instead of relying on others forever.
What I want to say is that when you become a person who is dragged down by idlers, don't be afraid to give up on them. Sometimes, in order to protect our own interests and happiness, we need to draw a line with such people decisively. Your time and energy are precious and should not be wasted on endless help to someone who is too idle.