I now walk every day when I pick up my kids. On the one hand, it's cold, and it's uncomfortable to ride an electric car in the wind. On the one hand, I want to take my children to exercise and play on the way. On our way home, we pass a vegetable patch. This vegetable field used to be an empty land, which was cleared out by people in the nearby community, but now it is green, which is very good. Some time ago, it was the season to dig sweet potatoes. Several families planted sweet potatoes in the vegetable fields, and after they were dug up, only a few small pieces of loess remained. The child runs up to play with it. They saw that there were still some small sweet potatoes left, and one day they had a good harvest and found many small sweet potatoes. The child should take it home and eat it steamed.
In the evening, my husband said what he was going to do. I said eat, this is a child's childhood. In recent times, the radish has grown lush again. People here love to grow carrots. In the supermarket, white radishes are sold a lot.
One day, the child was playing on the edge of a turnip field, and after a while he showed me a turnip, which was not big and a little deflated. The child said he picked it up on the edge of the vegetable patch. You want me to take it home and cook it. I put it in a bag. When I got home, I forgot about it, and later the radish was thrown away as garbage. The child thought of this radish and asked me why I hadn't burned it yet. I said oops, I'm sorry I forgot. The child said it was okay, I would pick it up next time. The second time, the child went to play on the edge of the turnip field, but there were no turnips.
The child is reluctant to give up. Wander on the edge of the turnip field. Later, they played in the sand on the edge of the turnip field. I looked at my phone from afar. After a while, the child pulled me over, and there were two turnips lying on the edge of the vegetable patch, quite large and fresh.
And on the edge of the turnip field, there are traces of freshly pulled turnips.
At first glance, this "modus operandi" is really not very clever. The child said, "Mom, let's take it home and stir-fry."
I can't tell you through it. Only one "yes" was answered.
Last night, I made a plate of shredded radish. Do it with your child. This turnip has been sitting in our house for two days. During the process, I talked to the child about these two turnips. I said this radish is quite tender, but it's a little dry. Because there are no poles. The radish you pick up will easily dry up without the radish vegetables on it. But in the morning, if we go to the morning market to buy turnips, it will be very fresh, and we can stay a little longer.
We also talked about how my grandmother's radishes were all white, and we went home and plucked a lot of turnips, and whether the white radish was tender or the carrot was tender, and that the radish was suitable for making sour radish, and so on.
Why don't I just poke the child's behavior?
Because I trust children, I won't have a moral problem because I pluck someone else's turnip. At the same time, I don't think the child's behavior is "stealing". It's just a want"Make a plate of turnips".Requirementsdriven. And I told him that there were actually many such carrots in the morning market, so he naturally knew that he could go and buy them directly. (Because we don't usually see this carrot in the supermarket, we haven't bought carrots either).
When I saw the radish, I remembered that when I was a child, I would herd cattle and when I was very thirsty, I would go to other people's fields to pick a watermelon to eat. I also picked big watermelons with my friends and shared them together. Whichever piece of land is closer, which is our goal. But this does not prevent us from growing up to be a quality person. I'm sure a lot of people have had similar experiences.
At this point, I want to make it clear that I am not advocating condoning children to steal. It's about trusting your child's nature and not being bad. Don't label your child casually.
If a child often steals, it must be a manifestation of something else, such as a need that is often not met. Or the act of "stealing" is reinforced. When you face your child's behavior with a positive attitude, you will find that not only will you not be angry, but you will also find your child a little cute.
Of course, sorry to the owner of the turnip field for missing two turnips. 