Brotherhood and sisterhood: the precious light of affection.
Introduction. 
Huang Zongyi once said: "Between flesh and blood, a little more vigorous, a little more nature, right and wrong don't have to be too clear." "Siblings spend time with each other as children and have a deep bond. The fights and quarrels when I was a child have become precious memories. Even when they are bullied, siblings will immediately stick together and protect each other. However, as they grow older, the affection between siblings gradually fades. What is the reason behind this kind of estrangement between siblings in middle age?
1.Alienation comes with distance.
As they reach adulthood, everyone begins to pursue their dreams and ideals in life. The creation of distance makes the contact between siblings gradually decrease. Maybe it's because of the relocation, or maybe it's because of the needs of work, which leads to the geographical distance between siblings. Such a distance makes the brothers and sisters who could play and laugh at will begin to be alienated in their thoughts. Without in-depth communication for a long time, what was once unrestrained has turned into a nervous, even tentative interaction. Although I was thinking about the other person in my heart, I was silent because I didn't understand the current situation of the other party and was afraid of saying the wrong thing. Time is lengthened, the distance widens, and family affection gradually fades. Even if we see each other occasionally, I find that because of the change in my living environment, I can't talk as much as I did when I was a child.
2.Family management is the focus.
Entering middle age, everyone needs to face various businesses in life. Especially after getting married, the management of the family becomes the top priority in life. Siblings need to put more effort into their respective families. Children's upbringing, education, and family chores all make people have no time to take care of them. Gradually, the time spent socializing decreased, and intercourse with relatives became rare. Even if you live in the same building and unit, relatives may not be able to greet each other. The once deep affection between siblings has become indifferent under the pressure of the family. Relatives and neighbors who used to come and go may not even be able to exchange a simple greeting now.
3.Personal factors lead to a decrease in contact.
As we get older, we become more diverse. The siblings are all going through their respective middle ages. The pressure of career, the academic problems of children, and the exhaustion of marriage make individuals exhausted. In this case, the bond between siblings gradually diminishes and becomes commonplace. Time is limited, energy is limited, and more attention is shifted to family and own life. In middle age, people often feel that their lives are complicated enough that they no longer want to spend too much time dealing with other relationships. The limited free time is more often used to rest and keep your mind calm.
4.Contradictions and conflicts deepen the estrangement between hearts.
In the long river of life, it is impossible to avoid friction and quarrels between husband and wife. And between siblings, there will also be conflicts. If these contradictions are not handled properly, they can easily lead to spiritual estrangement. The root cause of conflict may come from disagreements, misunderstandings, or even unequal family resources. Because of the family's preference for one child, other siblings may develop jealousy and resentment. Such psychological contradictions and conflicts, accumulated over a long period of time, will cause the relationship between siblings to become more and more indifferent. People in middle age are no longer as easy to forgive and forget as they were when they were children, and the knots in their hearts are becoming more and more difficult to solve.
5.Family affection is precious and needs to be managed carefully.
When you reach middle age, you should manage the relationship between brothers and sisters with heart, because this is one of the most precious emotions in the world. There is a cloud in the "Book of Songs": "Those who remember the present are like brothers." "When people reach middle age, they feel more and more the preciousness of flesh and blood. Although money, fame and fortune are important, the warmth and sense of security that can be transmitted between people cannot be replaced by money. The enemy of family affection is not time, but the desire and greed in the human heart. Be kind to your brothers and sisters, care for each other, and keep in touch. As long as you give sincerely, the relationship between brothers and sisters will not fade. In middle age, try to find your original intention, and you will find that the best companionship for a person is still siblings. Cherish this family relationship and make life more complete.
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