Written by Qin Tuofu.
If a person doesn't like your circle of friends for a long time, doesn't contact you to say hello, and suddenly likes you one day, and even writes a comment or **your text or**, then this person must have something to find you.
Not long ago, a micro-friend who has known me for many years liked several articles in the circle of friends I had sent before, gave me a thumbs up, and transferred the articles to his circle of friends. I had a hunch that he must have something to do with me. Because before, he never liked the circle of friends I sent, let alone **, and there was no other form of contact, I almost can't remember that there is such a micro-friend.
Sure enough, about an hour later, he took the initiative to chat with me privately, first saying hello to me, and then cautiously asking me if I had time, he wanted to ask me for help. I politely replied: Say it. He told me in his voice that he had been deceived by hundreds of thousands of people and wanted to ask me to help make this matter public, so as to avoid more people being deceived, and he especially emphasized that this matter is very harmful to society. I asked him to provide me with the relevant evidence. As a result, he sent me a large stack of things, and I looked at them carefully, and none of them could be used as evidence. I told him that the things you provided didn't work, and I couldn't help you. She ignored me, not even a basic courtesy reply.
There are quite a few similar things. After a netizen added me through my friend's WeChat group, he hadn't even met in person, and he didn't usually communicate much, but he asked me for help whenever he had something, such as his children going to school and he wanted to change jobs. Later, as soon as I saw him like and write comments to me, I knew he had something to do with me. Once, I couldn't help but ask him, we haven't even seen each other, we don't know each other, why do you come to me whenever you have something?He asked me confidently: I saw on the Internet, don't you like to help the people?
Yes, there are indeed reports on the Internet about my previous appeal for and presiding over justice for the weak and ordinary people, and I am a warm-hearted person with a sense of justice. I still see people who have been helped by me in Douyin from time to time to leave messages to me to express my gratitude, in fact, the people I have helped, some I can't remember, but they still remember me, at that moment I felt a warm current in my heart, the only reward they gave me was every ** like, one did not fall, I understand that they are expressing their gratitude to me in this way, which is far beyond the meaning of the likes themselves. But the aforementioned micro-friend gave me a thumbs up, and it completely changed its taste, obviously using it, and its purpose and utilitarianism were too strong. If he really needs my help, and I have the ability to help him, I can't use such a vulgar method, let alone think that I need to help him. Think about it, what does it have to do with me if his child goes to school and he wants to change jobs?Is it a requirement that I have to help him?
There is also a kind of people, although they know each other, they usually don't interact with each other, and they don't even want to say hello in person, but when they encounter something, they come to the door, shake hands and greet each other, and are very affectionate, like old friends who have been reunited for a long time. After the thing is done, they go back to the past, they don't communicate with each other, and they don't like or comment on the circle of friends, so they don't see it. What's more, he usually looks down on people like us at all, but when he needs help after the incident, he comes to beg us to do justice for him. I was also polite at the time, and said, "How can I help you?"”
In reality, there are not a few people who hold this point of view, thinking that they are fine, why should I show favor to you?When something comes to you, I can bow my head in front of you, say hello, and pat the horse. This is typical utilitarian thinking. There is an old saying that "if you don't burn incense, you will hold Buddha's feet temporarily", how can there be so many things in the world that can be done by temporarily holding Buddha's feet?Interpersonal relationships are formed by accumulation over time, freezing three feet is not a day's cold, unless your social status is very high, big-name celebrities, powerful and powerful, you can not care about the usual maintenance of interpersonal relationships, you can find someone to deal with something temporarily, because you have this capital and ability, you can call the wind and rain. However, the vast majority of people do not have this capital and ability, and still rely on the accumulation of network resources and the maintenance of relationships.
Personally, I don't think that posting on Moments is not to get likes and comments from others, but just personal interest or for record. But if a person treats likes or comments as a gesture or a gift in exchange for his own needs, he is very wrong and too vulgar. If a like or ** can be exchanged for help from others, then this like or ** is too expensive, and other people's help is too cheap!To be honest, people who have never given me a thumbs up, or even people who have never met before, have something to do with me, as long as I can help within my ability, I will try my best to help, but this circle friend suddenly likes me in exchange for my help to him, which really makes people feel unpleasant.
In fact, maintaining interpersonal relationships is not complicated, just heart-to-heart and sincere treatment!
(The author is a senior **person, **writer, and new** operation planner).