There is such a well-known joke: a person saw a child eating ice cream on the side of the road in winter, and said to the child: Children, on such a cold day, eating ice cream is not good for your health.
The child did not raise his head and said: My grandmother lived to be 104 years old.
Passers-by were surprised and asked, "Did you eat ice cream?"
The child said, "No, my grandmother never meddles with things."
Feng Tang said when he participated in a variety show: Everything in the world, a large part of things, in the final analysis, are two things, one is "about my", and the other is "about your".And 80% of our troubles in life can also be solved by the above two things, including the workplace. 01.Nosy young manLast week, a small incident happened in our office: there was a production plant that was misoperated, resulting in deviations in the overall production data and abnormal material requirements.
This was originally a normal thing in a manufacturing enterprise, but because of the "nosyness" of colleague A, it became known to everyone in the entire office building"News"。
This matter originally had nothing to do with colleague A, but he couldn't sit still after hearing that the colleague in charge of procurement next door played ** to coordinate and deal with the abnormality.
He first ran to the edge of the purchasing colleague's seat, discussed the emergency with him loudly, and shouted loudly that the colleague who was connected with the factory had "repented" in the past.
Then he said to colleague B, who had just returned to his seat, to check, because of the divine operation of a colleague, the material demand was abnormal.
Finally, I called the contact person of the factory and asked him if he had got the materials
From beginning to end, in response to this sudden abnormality, in fact, the relevant colleagues dealt with it at the first time and tried their best to coordinate and make up for this human error.
In order to improve work efficiency, no one complained. On the contrary, it is colleague A, an outsider, who runs all over the field like a "conspicuous bag" and arches the fire everywhere.
When people, this little thing was successfully solved through a few ** communication, everyone was still working in an orderly manner, and no one said anything to colleague A.
This"Nosy"of young people don't know how to feel afterwards.
02.Good girls are always blaming themselvesThere is a particularly excellent girl next to me, who is highly educated and has achieved the position of department head within two years of graduation.
I was surprised when I mentioned that she had been seeing a psychiatrist recently, she usually seemed cheerful and optimistic, and she was also positive in life and work.
She said that she always came home at night, silently reflecting and blaming herself.
She just looks talkative and happy in the process of getting along with people, but after a person calms down, she always thinks about whether there was something inappropriate just now, whether colleagues don't like her, whether the praise words said by the leader are actually beating herself, etc.
No matter what happens every day, she will always silently deny herself in her heart, feeling that she is not good enough, and others must be dissatisfied.
But the truth is that the people around her who have been with her have a particularly high opinion of her and think she is particularly good.
After going to see a psychiatrist for a while, she saidIt turns out that after spending so much money, I understand one thing, that is, learn to be yourself, affirm yourself, and face people and things with an attitude of "none of your business".
03.Learn to do topic separation
There is such a concept in psychology called topic separation. This theory was put forward by the Austrian psychologist Alfred Adler, which means that in order to solve the problems of interpersonal relationships, it is necessary to distinguish between what is your subject and what is mine.To put it bluntly, it's about being yourself. Nosy. Just like the aforementioned colleague A, he always seems very busy in his daily work, there is almost no downtime during working hours, and if you look carefully at the eight hours, he picks up and calls dozens of times, and there are always endless things to communicate and abnormal problems that cannot be handled.
Later, the leader asked everyone to analyze their daily work and list what work they mainly did each day and how much time they spent on each day.
After an analysis, I found that he was so busy but did not do his job well, but made frequent mistakes, why?
It turned out that he had a problem with his work ideas, and he was always doing other people's work and neglecting his own job responsibilities.
This is because he did not clearly separate the subject of work, and did not distinguish between what he should do and what was the work of others, which he should not interfere in.
There is such an iron rule in the workplace that everyone will not bring to the surface: if you meddle in other people's affairs, others will not only not thank you, but also complain.
The workplace is a small society, everyone performs their own duties, and does what they should do well, so that the operation of the whole company can be balanced, and individuals can get real experience and growth. Dry goods in the workplace