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There are five brothers and sisters, I am the third, two older brothers and two younger sisters.
In the past, the family conditions were not good, and my brother did not marry until he was 33 years old, which became a big problem in the family. Later, after his father borrowed money to renovate the house, someone else introduced his sister-in-law to his brother.
My sister-in-law has four girls and a younger brother. The sister-in-law is the eldest in the family, and the younger brother is going to school outside, and the sister-in-law is worried about the family, so the marriage has also been delayed.
The two older young people fell in love, met twice, and with the matchmaker's clever mouth, they quickly decided to get married. My brother is 33 years old and my sister-in-law is 29 years old.
The year after they got married, a nephew was born. For our family, this is the first child, and the eldest grandson that our parents look forward to day and night.
From top to bottom in the family, they love this child. At that time, my two younger sisters were already married, and I didn't get married because I worked in a factory.
When my sister-in-law gave birth to a nephew, it was my sister-in-law's confinement with my mother. I used my salary to buy my sister-in-law two plates of eggs, ten catties of jujubes and three catties of longan.
My sister-in-law's milk is very good, my nephew eats chubby, his arms and legs are like lotus roots, and my sister-in-law is white, I always praise my nephew like a doll on a New Year's painting.
At that time, my parents were happy, because I was not married, and I lived at home, I loved the house and Wu, and after work, I went to see my nephew, held him in my arms and coaxed him, and let my sister-in-law rest.
Gradually, when my nephew is older, and when my brother and sister-in-law are busy, I happen to have time again, so I often take my nephew to the county park to play on weekends. I would often buy him sugar gourds or sticky tooth candy.
This child was very close to me when he was young, and every time I came home, it was like a dog skin plaster, sticking to me, and I walked to**He followed**.
Sometimes my mother jokes: You go and be your aunt's son, and there is good food and fun.
My nephew innocently said to me: Okay, okay, I am willing to be my aunt's son.
I scratched this kid's nose and looked at him with a smile and said: My aunt doesn't have a son, but my aunt treats you better than her own son.
My mother said angrily: It's all a family, but you have a problem with the child. I half-jokingly blamed my mother: I am good enough for your eldest grandson, but I don't like it well, and my son may not be so good!
After all, my brother and sister-in-law are in the countryside, and I later bought an urban hukou and became a regular worker, and I must earn more than my brother and sister-in-law on a monthly salary.
So, intentionally or unintentionally, my nephew's New Year's clothes, usual toys, and even sometimes school tuition and miscellaneous expenses are all paid by my aunt.
After my nephew graduated from primary school, my sister-in-law came to me and said that she wanted my nephew to study in a middle school in the county, so she transferred my nephew's household registration to our family's household registration book.
I agreed at the time, and I was happy that if my nephew studied well, it would be my best for the family. My nephew lived in our house for 6 years, three years in junior high school and three years in high school.
When my nephew went to school, he had to go out to school at 6 a.m. every morning for morning study, and I got up at half past five every day to cook for him. Because there is no canteen in junior high school, the canteen of the unit is not so early.
Sometimes I worked overtime at night, and when I got off work at 90 o'clock, I asked my husband to pick up my nephew from school. He always said that he could come back alone, and I was always uneasy, so my nephew was in junior high school for three years, and my husband and I were always picking him up.
To say that my dedication to my nephew is really no worse than that of our girl. When my nephew was in junior high school, my daughter was just over four years old, because the two of us had to go to work, and our daughter was placed at her mother-in-law's house in the countryside.
That is, in the years when my nephew went to school, I couldn't control my own daughter, and I picked up my nephew every day, caring about my nephew's schooling.
My nephew came from the countryside to study, and I was always afraid that he would have an inferiority complex because of the gap between him and the children in the county, so I bought his clothes and shoes, and the child was in adolescence, and he had to buy two sets of clothes every quarter.
Not to mention that sometimes my nephew can't come home from school, and I wash the clothes he changes from the inside out. I can't say enough about how good I am to this kid for three days and three nights.
Later, when my nephew went to high school, we took my daughter to my side, and I Xi was used to asking my nephew what he ate every time I cooked, and sometimes my daughter would angrily say that I was biased, saying that my nephew was my son, and she might have picked it up from outside.
Every time I pretend to be angry and glare at my daughter, I actually feel that my daughter is right, because in the 6 years of getting along, whether it is from life XiXi Xi habits or learning habits, I have always looked at my nephew and I am taking care of him.
After graduating from high school, he was admitted to a major university, and when he got the admission letter, the whole family was very happy.
I was even happier than anyone else, and even burst into tears, feeling that my own efforts in the past 6 years had not been in vain, and because of my nephew's successful entrance examination, I felt worthy of my family.
Before my nephew went to college, we sat down as a family for a meal, and everyone at the dinner table was beaming, and no one poured a glass of wine when we were in a good mood.
The son of the second brother's family asked his nephew, "Cousin, who do you want to give this first glass of wine toast?"
I was happy in my heart, thinking that this must be for me, after all, my aunt has paid for 6 years. Unexpectedly, my nephew's answer disappointed me.
The nephew raised his glass and faced his brother and sister-in-law, and said, "The first glass of wine is to my parents, thank you for allowing me to go to school, so that I can have a chance to be admitted to university."
The second cup of wine my nephew said to respect my parents, and it was not until the third glass of wine that my nephew said that he wanted to honor my aunt. I felt very uncomfortable, and I had to keep a smile on my face.
I thought to myself that I had been getting up early and greedy for night for 6 years, cooking for my nephew for 6 years, and washing clothes for 6 years, and this child still felt that his parents were important.
At that moment, I suddenly remembered an old saying: children must raise themselves, and the land must be cultivated by themselves.
Although the atmosphere of the meal that day was very good, I just had a pimple in my heart, and I didn't dare to tell my husband when I went back, for fear that he would complain about me.
Because my nephew was actually able to live on campus when he was in high school, I insisted on letting him live at home, cooking and doing laundry, and taking care of him like a son.
My husband is dissatisfied and can't do anything, so I can only swallow this grievance myself.
I gave 1,000 yuan before my nephew went to school, in fact, I prepared 3,000 yuan before, but after my nephew toasted, I only gave 1,000 yuan, and I originally wanted to give 500 yuan, but after thinking about it, I still forgot it, so I gave 1,000 yuan.
I didn't expect my sister-in-law to say in front of my sister that my aunt was stingy and only gave my nephew 1,000 yuan. I had to pretend I didn't hear.
It's just that I didn't expect that in the face of blood, sometimes it is like a joke to pay like me.
A few years ago, my mother died of illness, and my father's pension became a problem, and the two of them lived by themselves before. My father either went to the eldest brother's house or the second brother's house alone.
The second brother meant that the two families took turns to be a family for a month, but the sister-in-law disagreed, saying that since they were responsible for taking care of the old man, our girls would have to pay for the three girls, each family had 1,000 yuan a month, which was regarded as the father's food and care expenses.
The sister-in-law's words are too unreasonable, and the girls in the countryside do not inherit the family's property, and there is no rule for giving money to their sons to support the elderly, and the two younger sisters have in-laws to support, so they refused.
I had to tell my brothers that my sister's family conditions are limited, and I can join, and my two brothers will add me for four months, so that everyone can be more relaxed.
But my sister-in-law was unwilling, saying that the old man wanted to go to their house, and we as girls had to pay, and if we didn't pay, we didn't want to go to their house.
I asked my father to go to the county seat with me, but my father was unwilling, saying that he could live by himself. We couldn't rest assured, so we went to the eldest brother and sister-in-law with the second brother again, hoping to get them through.
On the day we went, my nephew was also at home, and as soon as I saw my nephew at home, I thought that my child had graduated from college and must be more sensible than my brother and sister-in-law.
I said to my nephew: Your grandfather is old and should live in his son's house, and your two little aunts have limited conditions at home, so I will take care of your grandfather with your father and uncle. You persuade your mother, ** there is a reason why a son does not support his father.
Unexpectedly, as soon as the nephew opened his mouth, he said: Auntie, the law stipulates that daughters-in-law have no obligation to support their in-laws, but your girls have the obligation to support their parents.
Supporting my grandfather, my aunt should pay for it, why do you blame my mother. It's you who are messing around, and you don't want to support my grandfather!
The nephew was directly stunned as soon as he opened the **, and he didn't believe that this was what the nephew said, I said: You were raised by your grandparents, and your grandfather spent money to build this house.
After your aunt got married, your grandparents neither gave money nor took care of children, so you can't always pick up honest people to bully you when you do things.
That day, we talked and quarreled again, and my nephew not only didn't help, but even followed my sister-in-law to mess around. I realized that my sister-in-law gave birth to me, and I was so good to him, people turned to their mother after all.
Since then, my second brother and I have taken turns supporting our father, and as for the eldest brother, they have cut off contact with us. Looking back now, it's not like raising a white-eyed wolf.
That's why the old saying goes: children must raise themselves, and the land must be cultivated by themselves, which is not wrong at all. This is human nature, don't be too nice to your siblings' children, it's easy to get hurt!