What is Advance?What is a refund?
"Advance" is not always courageous, and "retreat" is not blindly backwards.
There is a saying that the gap between people is better than cognition.
What is the biggest manifestation of the cognitive gap?
Shortsighted. Many people only look at the immediate interests, only care about the immediate gains and losses, and only care about the immediate honor and disgrace.
This creates low cognition.
So, we will see that those who are highly cognitive tend to make the opposite choice of the average person.
However, under the influence of collective values or the indoctrination of circle cultural thoughts, everyone has a fixed thinking and narrow cognition, but they are still very confident that they are right, and those who are contrary to their own views are wrong, and they are wise and the other party is stupid.
Sometimes, I am also reflecting on the fact that I have seen through this matter, am I really seeing through the essence or my self-righteousness?
Later, I slowly understood that most people are self-righteous, and as a person learns more and more, he will unconsciously become more and more stubborn.
In order not to let myself go down this path, I often ask myself: what if the other person is reasonable?
I tried to argue my own and the other person's point of view in a few ways, and all in all, I kept a relatively open mind.
When you see a person who is very adamant about a point of view, you will think that this person is very confident and resolute.
Maybe so, because he considers other situations in some ways.
Maybe not, just because he's narrow-minded.
I often say: we must do things according to the law, and we must do things according to the law.
But the law of things is not clear to everyone, otherwise there would not be so much suffering.
What you insist on is not necessarily right, and what you oppose is not necessarily wrong.
For example, retreat is not necessarily a step backwards, and it does not necessarily mean compromise. Progress, not necessarily forward, does not necessarily mean persistence.
I'll give you another example:
The husband and wife quarreled, the man and woman insisted on their own words, the two sides were deadlocked, and the air around them fell into a freezing point.
After a while, the man apologized and said what he had done wrong, justified, sincere, and sincere.
The woman was deeply impressed by this, and then her mood improved.
So, do men lose in terms of behavior and results?
Some people will say: what is right and wrong between husband and wife?
Yes, one body and two phases, different expectations, husband and wife arguing about right and wrong is the biggest mistake.
Therefore, the concession of men is the progress of their relationship.
A short-term concession or a long-term harmony, which is more beneficial?
Those who are good at retreating can advance, and the good is great.
Sun Tzu's Art of War: Retreat is advance.
Is there really any obvious criterion for "advancing" and "retreating"?
Tao Te Ching: The name can be named, not the constant name.
The name is not static.
At this point, there are many things that need not be said.
Fan Zhongyan said: Give a taste of the heart of the ancient benevolence.
I have also explored Lao Tzu's state of mind when he wrote the Tao Te Ching, and there are even times when I can feel the different emotions of the author between the lines.
At that time, I thought people were cute.
So, when we have a beautiful, lovely, and happy state of mind, and then look at the so-called "advance" and "retreat", how big is the gap between them?And what's the difference?
For those who have light in their hearts, there is no point in "retreating" and "advancing", because what leads must be beautiful.
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