22 life choices in the wilderness
Text |Spring dawn.
Life is a wilderness, not a track. I'm sure you're not unfamiliar with this sentence. I don't know when the "wilderness theory of life" began to spread on a large scale on the Internet. Search for the words "life is wilderness" on major platforms, and a bunch of experience sharing will immediately pop up.
gapOne year to study abroad", "35+ decided to travel the world", "Self-taught piano and guitar, I made people live in the wilderness"...Jumping experiences like this are all over the place, dazzling those who are on track.
At the same time, it is not difficult to find that behind these enviable lives there are huge sunk costs, such as giving up five insurances and one housing fund, and changing life Xi. Therefore, the wilderness of the other is always separated from the lives of ordinary people by an electronic screen.
How do ordinary people carve out their own wilderness in their daily lives?
The book "We Were Born Warm and Free" that I introduce to you today may inspire you. This book is a blockbuster new work by Li Chengyuan, the creator, and the cumulative amount of the original documentary "Thirty, and Standing" is as high as 1700 million, with 32 million likes.
As a producer, Li Chengyuan observes the growth of ordinary people from a unique perspective, and uses 22 stories to show 22 ordinary but unusual wilderness lives. Nowadays, the images are condensed into words, so that all kinds of life can be vividly put on the paper, and it can leave room for imagination and awaken the youthful memories of countless people.
1. Allow all things to pass through themselves
In contrast to the open-minded outlook on life represented by the wilderness, there is a mental state of "internal friction". Especially in the past two years, internal friction has become the most popular Internet disease.
Even if there are many triggers for internal friction, the core of it is just self-competition in the face of a gap.
How to relieve this competitive emotion and separate internal friction from life. In the first part of the book, the author tells us about the self-reconstruction of five "non-internal friction" people after experiencing the gap.
Xiao Fei, who was once a young man, tasted a little sweetness given to him by the society during the novice protection period of the fledgling, and laid a small world with his down-to-earth character and efficient and reliable strength. However, in the process of expanding his career territory, problems followed, and the once hot-blooded teenager collapsed and suffered from pathogenic depression.
Wrestling with the black dog of depression has been the theme of Xiaofei's life for a long time. When the author meets him again, Xiaofei has completed the reconstruction of himself in the dark, facing business with both the wisdom of a businessman and the lean of a craftsman. Regarding the ups and downs of life, Xiaofei's attitude is only two words - acceptance.
Accept your imperfections, accept your inadequacy. ”
In addition to Xiao Fei, this book also tells the stories of Brother Shuang, who is troubled by hair loss, Chen Zheng, who is distressed by a house, Xiao Wu, who wants to hold a performance in a band but can't do it, and Hua Hua, who has a touching love.
After a thousand sails, these people who have experienced a huge gap have nothing more than a message to themselves when they were young
Please accept, please be happy, please be free, please cherish.
Second, people who do not have ideals are not sad
New Pants sings in "People Without Ideals Don't Be Sad": But the dreams you once had have become blurry and invisible, and those battles for ideals are only for money.
In reality, many people were poked in the backbone by this song, and Lao Li was one of them. Xu is his experience has a certain dramatic typicality, and the first person interviewed by Li Chengyuan for the original documentary "Thirty, and Standing" is Lao Li.
Lao Li once served as the vice president of the student union, and he was full of energy and high spirits when he was a student. However, repeated setbacks in his business led him to restrain his ambitions. As an idealist, Lao Li later worked in the glamorous film and television industry in the eyes of outsiders. In the dead of night, he accompanies wine with a pragmatic plan, whispering in the concerned eyes of his friends, but he no longer sees the passion of his youth.
After the twists and turns, Lao Li did not usher in a high ascension, but his life took a sharp turn. The film and television industry has entered a cold winter, and the dust of the times has fallen on him. The story is thicker, but Lao Li is overwhelmed. Reality slashes at himself, and Lao Li has no other way but to find a way out in a steep life to avoid becoming a cliff faller.
As for ideals, he said, "Ideals, there really are no ideals." ”
There are many people like Lao Li in the book, who mistook the rockery for a distant view when they had not seen the world, and finally let reality tear out huge cracks. In order to survive in the cracks, they turn their anxiety into a needle in their hands, sewing up their lives again and again, real and hectic. I never thought that this messy life was not the future I hoped for.
3. Abandon the track and go into the wilderness
To say that the content of the book is most in line with the current wilderness view of life, many netizens nominated the two parts of "Life has no standard answer" and "See yourself clearly and see the road clearly".
Take Pan Pan in the book, working in a bank, from childhood to adulthood, he was "someone else's child". Pan Pan's life is straight, and there is no fork in the road, but he is such a person who is out of control in middle age.
She jumped out of the shackles of the track and ran into the wilderness of life. Since then, you may think that Pan Pan is going to embark on the road of the heroine's cool text, but unfortunately the skinny feeling of reality makes him roar angrily, "Life, I have endured you for a long time!".The girl was downcast. But if you want her to give up, it will never be possible, after all, galloping in the wilderness, how can she not get dirt on her body.
The only answer is never in the past track, but on unexplored territory. It's like the vast wilderness in "Zelda", there is only one ultimate boss, and the game can be ended after the game, but there are still many players who "don't do their jobs", chasing the meteors that happen to pass by, chatting with NPCs, and sharpening themselves into an authentic Internet chef on the way to fight the boss.
Isn't that what we imagine life in the wilderness?Driven by love, he made a decision that seemed to others to be "hot in the head", and then the danger was not enough for outsiders, and it was internalized into the wind and rain in his heart, drenching everyone with dreams, but never giving up.
But isn't that life? So be bold and do it, there is never a standard answer to life.
Fourth, the heroism of inheritance
There is only one kind of heroism in the world, that is, after seeing the truth of life, you still love life. ”
This quote by Romain Rolland is widely circulated, and there is no shortage of such heroism in this book, but what is even more impressive is the inheritance of "heroism".
The author's grandfather, Zhang Jinshan, loves martial arts and often teaches for free in the park, and the most serious one is an American girl, Xiaobao. When love meets knowledge, grandpa's martial arts soul is completely ignited. He took Xiaobao to participate in the martial arts competition and won the championship, and the master and apprentice were also invited to perform martial arts in the local area.
There is no feast in the world, in ancient times, apprentices went down the mountain after learning, and now Xiaobao wants to return to the United States due to work reasons. However, the friendship between master and apprentice has not been diluted by the Pacific Ocean, Xiaobao often calls across the ocean**, and dances with knives and guns on the other end, which is very serious.
However, the elderly grandfather passed away before the apprentice returned to China. Since then, Xiaobao, who is far away on the other side of the ocean, has not given up his love for martial arts, and began to teach children martial arts in his spare time, and opened a martial arts gym, and the plaque reads "Jinshanmen" three big characters.
We have heard too many stories about love, and when love is integrated into life, it tempers a unique heroism, just like grandpa and Xiaobao, who find love in the life of Jiji camp, pass on the torch, light the lighthouse above the wilderness, and illuminate more possibilities.
The 22 stories have different touches, and it is difficult to explain them in one article. We can't apply the template of another person's life, but the moment we close the book, we will be glad that we see more choices in life.
You may still be torn between the orbit and the wilderness at this time, but just as the title of the book "We Are Born Passionate and Free" conveys the concept, even if the choices within the personal radius are limited, as long as you have a warm and free heart, wherever you go is the wilderness.