Sometimes, when we want to express certain points strongly, or put forward opinions that are contrary to those of the other person, it is easy to become obsessive, and even the tone of voice can become condescending.
However, the more such statements and attitudes are made, the more likely it is to arouse the resentment of the other party, and naturally the easier it is to deviate from our purpose.
The more you want to express your opinion, the more you need to calm down, and you must be on the inside and calm on the outside.
What we need to say is that we don't intend to dismiss you entirely, and we understand your feelings.
Once you convince others that your views are calm and objective, then the easier it will be for your opinions and suggestions to be accepted by others.
I know the risks of smoking, but why can't I make up my mind to quit?
If you say such aggressive words, then the other person will definitely think that you are nosy, even if you don't say it.
If I could do it, I would have done it a long time ago.
At times like these, we can subtly use sentence structures like "indeed" to help us convey more calm and objective emotions.
It's true that quitting smoking is really hard.
I myself failed many times before I finally succeeded.
However, smoking does harm health.
People who smoke should make up their minds to quit smoking.
Using a sentence pattern like "indeed" can help us express our empathy for the other person.
If we can also attach some objective views and opinions, we will be more able to gain the understanding and recognition of others.
So, when you want to really convince the other person, use sentences like "of course" and "indeed" to take into account the feelings of the other person, so that your proposal is more likely to be accepted by the other party.