Any choice we make means that the choice meets a certain need. From a practical point of view, this need may mean position, income, etc., but in fact, it is ultimately to meet our most essential psychological needs.
When a person is faced with a choice, he often has two psychological needs: the need for safety and the need for self-actualization.
If a person has a high sense of inner security and confidence in himself, then he is more inclined to pursue self-realization, because he subconsciously sees a picture of the future that is full of light and hope, so he is less likely to get entangled.
If a person lacks inner security, then when faced with a choice, he will first choose to make sure that he is safe, and at the same time, he is also attracted by the need for self-actualization, but he is worried that he is not safe. So I was caught between "fear" and "want", and I was undecided.
However, insecure people will eventually prefer to choose "safety", because safety is more important than self-actualization, and it is closely related to the subconscious "death anxiety". Therefore, when many people are faced with the "goal", it is not that they do not want it, but they dare not want it. His inner fear limits his pursuit and achievement of his goals.