"Behind the rejection is to teach the children the true meaning of kindness and independence in life. "
In this world, family affection is irreplaceable, and children are the most precious existence in the lives of parents.
Sometimes, however, what children ask of their parents may not be so simple, and when they ask for two or more things, should we meet them without reservation?
Or should it be carefully considered, because if you satisfy them, you may lose more?
When your children come to you and sincerely express their strong needs for two things, we, as parents, inevitably feel conflicted in our hearts.
We know that we want the best for our children, and that they will have no shortcomings or regrets.
However, life has taught us that sometimes it is not always wise to meet children's requests.
In the final analysis, there are two things that your children ask you for, if you refuse them, and if you give them, you will become enemies.
1. Are we really helping our children when we meet their needs?
Are we indulging and indulging children's unrealistic desires?Difficulties and setbacks are inevitable on the road of life, but if we just blindly meet all the needs of children, then they may lack the ability to think independently and face difficulties. We need to reflect on whether we should guide them to learn to make trade-offs, know how to cherish and strive for them, rather than blindly taking.
In today's society, children grow up in an increasingly advantageous environment, and they live in an environment of material abundance from an early age, and it is easy to have unrealistic desires. If we blindly meet their needs and do not let them face any difficulties and setbacks, then they may lack the ability to think independently and solve problems. Such children may suffer blows and setbacks in their future lives because they are unable to adapt to the complexities and challenges of society.
Therefore, we should guide our children to learn to make trade-offs. Let them understand what is really important and what is secondary. At the same time, we should also let them know how to cherish what they have and work hard for it. We should not just meet their needs, but develop their independent thinking and problem-solving skills.
In addition, we need to teach children how to deal with difficulties and setbacks. Difficulties and setbacks in life are inevitable, but if we can face them with the right mindset, then we will be able to learn from them and continue to grow and improve. Therefore, we should encourage children to maintain a positive mindset in the face of difficulties and setbacks, and look for solutions to problems, rather than running away or giving up.
Second, satisfying too many demands of children may make them overly dependent
They may think that their parents will not hesitate to meet them as long as they ask for it, and this dependence may make them unable to survive independently in society. To some extent, this is also a kind of irresponsibility for their future development.
More importantly, when we meet all of our children's requests, are we really helping them build healthy relationships?Perhaps, excessive satisfaction will make them selfish and ungrateful, and the establishment of interpersonal relationships requires not only taking, but also knowing how to give and share. A person who has not learned how to receive and give back may appear isolated in society in the future.
In addition, if we always meet our children's demands and do not let them learn how to solve problems on their own, then they may lack the ability to face difficulties and challenges in the future. In a competitive society, this ability is very important. A person who is unable to solve problems on his own is likely to be eliminated by society.
3. We must recognize that life is not always easy, and that rejecting certain requests from our children does not mean that we do not care about them.
Instead, when we reject their requests, it may be out of deep concern for their future. We want them to grow into independent, autonomous individuals who learn how to face life's challenges and difficulties. As a result, we have made some smart choices to help them adjust to life better.
When we refuse their demands, we are also teaching them the true meaning of life. We tell them that not everything in life will work out and that sometimes we need to learn to accept reality and look for opportunities and growth from it. We teach them to face difficulties with courage, rather than running away or blindly demanding.
In this way, we help them develop the right outlook on life and values. We make them understand that life's challenges and difficulties are the norm and that facing them is an opportunity to grow. We want them to learn to think independently, make their own decisions, and take responsibility for themselves.
Of course, this does not mean that we have to fully meet all their requirements. Instead, we should give them the right challenges and constraints at the right time to help them grow better. We want them to understand the reasons behind our decision and appreciate our good intentions.
Emotional Message:
In this complex and complex world, as parents, we need to find a balance between satisfaction and rejection. This is not an indifference to the children, but a sign of responsibility to them. On the road to educating our children, we need to have the courage to make some seemingly difficult decisions, because we want them to grow up, not to be submissive. Perhaps, when we refuse certain requests at first, our children may become angry or even feel that their parents do not care enough for them. However, truly mature children will understand that in the rejection of their parents, there is the deepest love for them, in order to give them a better future.
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