The so-called dilemma of life is sometimes a shackle set by oneself.
We're never going to do everything when we think of it
Regarding anxiety, I have heard the most heart-wrenching and true-hearted sentence: "The biggest anxiety is that you are old and as poor as when you were young".
When it comes to anxiety, we are more or less named: body anxiety, appearance anxiety, emotional anxiety, marriage anxiety, unemployment anxiety, and circle of friends anxiety. There's an anxiety for you.
The ** of anxiety is the goal we want to achieve, and the gap with the status quo is too big to reach.
Instead of being anxious, it is better to act, and action is the best formula for anxiety.
Tsinghua professor Peng Kaiping once said: All anxiety, wandering, and fear can only be solved through action. Lying in bed, hiding in the house, thinking nonsense, there is no meaning and no effect. ”
Only by taking action can we keep trying, making mistakes, adjusting, and moving forward, so that we will not be coerced by anxiety.
My favorite blogger Li Ziqi, when she was doing ** in the early days, no one pointed out, so she groped a little bit;No one followed, so she carried a tripod alone, tossing back and forth up and down the mountain, repeatedly adjusting the angle and trying.
With this neatness of "just do it", she used her own strength to create a new short ** field - ancient food.
If you decide to do something, don't worry about whether it's worth it. No one can count the whole process as complete, not even Zhuge Liang and Jiang Ziya, let alone you.
Not afraid of failure, in order to use it for action
Grandma Moses said, "The first thing that ages in life is not the appearance, but the courage to move forward." ”
Teacher Yu Minhong, an "old man" who has walked on the verge of collapse countless times, can still "set off at the age of 60 and return as a teenager." ”
Grandma Moses, who began painting at the age of 58, rose to prominence at the age of 78, was awarded the "American Women's Global Club Award" at the age of 89, and was received by Truman.
What else are you afraid of?
There is only one life in life, can it be that when you are dying, you will think back on your long life, and you have had many good wishes, but in the end you have not done any of them?
All masters are born in action.
A well-known writer in China once came to the school to give a lecture, and the topic of the lecture was about creation and writing.
In the Q&A session, a student asked: How can ordinary people become the best family?
The answer given by the writer is simple: today you go back to the dormitory, turn on the computer, click on something called a word document, and then type down the first word, and you are already at home.
How to become a **home?The answer is simple: it's not about the method, it's about the action.
The loneliest time will shape the strongest self. If your life is already in a state of confusion, then, go boldly and move forward.
Everyone who is really strong has to go through a period of time when no one helps and no one supports. Everything is supported by oneself, and all emotions are known only to oneself. But as long as you grit your teeth and get through, everything will be different.
Find the direction and set a goal
Many times, we have too many choices, too many ideas, but we have limited energy, so the brain will fall into a state of confusion.
Find a piece of paper and fold it vertically in half;
Write down the things you want to accomplish at the top of the paper and sort them in order of importance or not
Write what time was done on the left (a separate line for each thing), and write down the completion on the right
A daily list of things to do needs to be reviewed before bedtime.
You may ask: will you make yourself very rigid by making your plan so rigid?
No, the purpose of this planning is not to strictly follow the plan, but just to keep yourself aware. If you deviate during the operation, you'll be able to quickly pull yourself back on track after dealing with the temporary mission.
The environment gives, but the courage must be accumulated over many years of experience.
Find the meaning of life, settle your heart, and slowly change for the better in your time zone.
You will find that age will bring us anxiety, but it will also bring us courage, and it will also bring us confidence.