6 effects that can see through human nature and make you an interpersonal master!

Mondo Social Updated on 2024-01-28

Understanding and applying psychological effects is like learning magic, which allows us to see through people's hearts and see into the world. It can help us better control our emotions, improve our emotional intelligence, and become a master of interpersonal communication.

1.The birdcage effect.

Summary: With a birdcage, people will unconsciously buy birds to fill it.

Imagine you receive a beautiful birdcage that you didn't plan to keep a bird, but as time goes on, your friends ask you, "What about your bird?""After you explained to no avail, you ended up buying a bird in order to meet everyone's expectations. At this point, the birdcage becomes a burden on your life, and you fall into the trouble of this thing that you didn't want in the first place.

Takeaway: Control your shopping desires and avoid meaningless purchases.

2.The Law of the Barrel.

Summary: The capacity of a barrel depends on the shortest plank.

The capacity of a barrel is determined not by the longest plank, but by the shortest one. This law is analogous to the problem of weak subjects in student achievement. If the grade in one subject is much lower than the others, like the shortest plank in the barrel, it will limit the improvement of the overall grade.

Takeaway: It's more important to make up for weaknesses than to highlight strengths.

3.The house demolition effect.

Summary: Achieve small goals by making big demands and then compromising them gradually.

The name "House Demolition Effect" may sound strange, but it's actually about a very practical psychological strategy. Mr. Lu Xun once mentioned this concept in his article, and he said metaphorically, if you want to open a skylight in a dark room, people may not agree. However, if you offer to tear down the entire roof, people will accept the small request to open the skylight.

Takeaway: Ask high in negotiations and then make gradual concessions in order to achieve realistic goals.

4.Kick the cat effect.

Summary: Negative emotions are transmitted along social hierarchies, affecting the weak.

The kick-in effect refers to the fact that when people are dissatisfied or frustrated, they tend to vent their negative emotions on the people or things around them, thus triggering a series of chain reactions. This law tells us that a person's emotional state has a direct impact on the people and environment around him. When we encounter setbacks or dissatisfaction, we must learn to adjust our emotions and avoid passing on our negative emotions to others, causing unnecessary contradictions and conflicts.

Takeaway: Manage your emotions to avoid creating a vicious cycle.

5.Broken window effect.

Summary: If undesirable phenomena are not corrected in time, people will be tempted to follow suit.

You were so tired one day that you insisted on exercising for about 80 days, thinking that you would take a break today and make up for it tomorrow ......Stay in that mindset for the next few days, and then there's probably no more, and you'll never see your eight-pack and waistline again, because you haven't been exercising since the day you rested. As Philip Zimbardo, a psychologist at Stanford University in the United States, said, "If one window is broken, if it is not repaired, it will lead to more broken windows, or even the entire building being demolished." Therefore, we must always be vigilant against our broken windows and correct them in time to prevent ourselves from falling into a vicious circle of broken window effect.

Enlightenment: Correct your mistakes in time to prevent yourself from falling into a vicious circle of broken windows.

6.Projection effect.

Summary: It is easy for people to project their thoughts and feelings onto others.

The so-called "projection effect" is to treat others with oneself, believing that if one has a certain characteristic, others will definitely have the same characteristics as oneself, and unconsciously impose one's own thoughts, feelings, and opinions on others, thinking that others are the same as oneself. For example, a good-hearted person will think that everyone else is good, and a calculating person will think that others are also calculating him. If you like a certain movie, you think that everyone should like it.

Takeaway: Learn to empathize and don't impose your thoughts and feelings on others.

I am Shirley Li, and I am constantly exploring on the road of growth, sharing with you my insights on personal improvement, self-discipline, and philosophy of life. If you like my content, please like and bookmark it. At the same time, if you still have any opinions, please leave a message in the comment area. Let's establish the right outlook on life and values together, and help you become better!

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