What is really effective management?
As the old saying goes, "Mourning is greater than the death of the heart", and the old saying "Dead pigs are not afraid of boiling water". In fact, they all mean the same, that is, if a person's heart is dead, then the external stimuli will no longer have any effect. No matter what you know, how you move, how you guide, he will not move.
In the management of the class, he is a smelly and hard stone, he can't move it if he wants to, and he stinks when he wants to bypass him. I want to close my eyes and can't see, but I hear the buzzing sound again, and from time to time, some classmates will come to complain about what's wrong, what's wrong with so-and-so, what's wrong with so-and-so.
At this time, there is often a feeling that the tiger has no way to eat.
At this time, you should find ways to discover his hobbies and interests, through his family, through his friends, through his activities, through his behavior, to collect his information, to discover his hobbies and interests, and then find a foothold for your management.
To help him establish a goal, which can be long, short, big, small, and not necessarily learning. But this goal must have touched him and moved his heart.
Specifically, we can collect as much material as possible from his words and deeds, hobbies, etc.
When interviewing him, try to use specific examples in detail as much as possible, list his shining points as much as possible, and make him want to be a certain kind of person as much as possible.
When he wants to become a certain kind of person, he slowly enumerates the standard conditions to become a certain kind of person. The standard should not be too high, and it should even be deliberately narrowed down. If you want him to feel like he can jump, he may be able to reach it. Then subdivide this standard or condition into years, semesters, months, and so on. and then implement it into the usual behavior habits
At this time, pay attention to the requirements must not be too high, for example, if you want to talk about grades, then you can usually score 20 points, then you need a maximum of 25 or 30 points at this time;Usually he has to speak in every class, you help him set a goal, don't talk when the teacher is lecturing, whenever he wants to speak, you can practice calligraphy and read books. Practicing calligraphy, reading books, etc., is also related to the conditions of a certain kind of person he wants to become.
No matter what, we always try to make him feel that he can be a useful person, that he can meet the standard of a certain kind of person. Slowly, he has this pursuit, and the management of discipline will be much more effective. Even if he violates discipline, don't beat him to death with a stick, communicate with him well, and correct him well.
In short, truly effective management is to help students set goals. 