1. Harsh criticism and denial will not make you progress, but will only make you feel powerless and anxious. Encouragement and affirmation can make you energetic and move forward steadily.
2. A person who is determined enough will know what he is going to do and will not change because of the expectations of others.
3. Say to yourself, "I love you even if I fail", instead of saying to yourself, "I believe you will succeed". The same is true for loved ones.
4. If in a relationship, the other person is sad and angry because you can't satisfy his desires. Remember, you don't have any responsibility for this. If you feel guilty about compromising because of this, you will become a tool for the other person to satisfy their desires.
5. There will always be someone who will wrap their desires with "weak, helpless and pitiful", and then let you satisfy him. You have to learn to say no.
6. Everyone may have excessive desires, and this must be his own responsibility.
7. You can choose to listen to those opinions that are "for your own good" or you can choose not to listen. This kind of openness is also needed towards others. Otherwise, "for your good" will become a kind of "psychological kidnapping".
8. Life is to do more things that make you feel good and see more people who make you feel happy.
9. The most intimate relationship also needs to allow for the existence of conflict, but do not forget that each other's original intention and goal are for the good of each other, otherwise it is likely to lead the conflict to an unmanageable situation.
10. You can do anything, but please don't label yourself as a "perfect person", otherwise you will feel very depressed.
11. When you are sad and sad, you don't have to force yourself to laugh, otherwise laughter will become a disguise. Everyone has sad times, but remember that it will pass.
12. When you feel uncomfortable with the way others treat you, think about whether you will treat others in this way. If the answer is no, then you can ask**.
13. Only by accepting your own ordinariness and imperfection can you free yourself from the "mantra of bondage" that you must succeed. Let go of the obsession that you have to succeed so that you can enjoy the process itself.
14. You can love and care for someone, but you can never be responsible for all his desires.
15. Sincerity is the most energy-efficient way of communication, simply and directly say your feelings, your needs, and the other party can also directly choose to refuse or accept. This is the so-called Ming people do not speak dark words.
16. If you feel that it is difficult to move an inch, you should examine your heart and whether you are carrying too many burdens. These burdens may be imposed by oneself or by others.