As the saying goes, "sons-in-law don't go to the grave, go to the grave to insult the ancestors" means that the son-in-law should not go to his wife's relatives to sweep the grave. This saying has been circulated among the people for a long time and is widely recognized in many places. Why shouldn't a son-in-law go to the grave of his wife's relatives?On the one hand, this may have something to do with the ancient perception of women's status. In the pastSocial, the status of women is relatively low, and they are even regarded as outsiders. And the son-in-law went to the grave of his wife's relatives as an outsider, which is a little inappropriate. On the other hand, the ancients believed that the graves of their ancestors had a protective effect on the peace and happiness of the family. If the son-in-law goes to the grave of his wife's relative, it may be considered "robbed."Feng Shui", that is, the destruction of the wife's relative's houseFeng Shui。Of course, it should be noted here that if the son-in-law isDoor-to-door son-in-law, that is, it has becomeFamily membersThis statement does not apply.
Family membersThe relationship between us is important, and respect for the wife's relatives and traditional Xi is something we should consider. Of course, with the changes of the times, the improvement of women's status and the change of family concept, this view has gradually changed.
Old age refers to people over 80 years of age. The lifespan of ancient people was relatively short, and it was considered very old at the age of 80 years and above. The ancient elderly were frailLack of yang energy, going to the grave may cause physical discomfort. The same thing,Pregnant womenand children under the age of 3 should also try to avoid going to the grave. Pregnant womenBodyLack of yang energyIt may be right to participate in the labor of going to the graveFetusto cause adverse effects. And children have more yang energy and psychic ability, so it is not recommended that they participate in grave activities so as not to be frightened.
We should respect the elderly and children and care about their physical healthMental health。Avoiding the participation of the elderly and children in grave activities is a sign of care and respect for them.
Everyone has their own natal year, which is the year of the phase. According to ancient superstitious beliefs, the natal year was considered noGeelyof the year, representedFortuneNot good. Therefore, a person with a natal year should try to avoid going to the grave so as not to affect themselvesFortune。This is because the grave represents the weight of the yin energy, and the person in the natal year should go to the place where the yang energy is strong.
Modern manThe understanding of fate has changed, but some people still believe in superstition and follow this tradition. Whether or not we follow this statement, the most important thing is that we respect the beliefs and Xi of others and do not criticize or criticize their behavioral choices.
Closing Remarks: These TraditionsCultureThe existence has certain historical origins andSocialbackground, but with the development of the times, our ideas are also changing. The idea of equality between men and women has improved the status of women, and changes in family values have also led to more equal roles in marriage. Therefore, whether it is a son-in-law's grave or other taboos, it is necessary to make appropriate adjustments according to the development of the times.
The most important thing is that whether we go to the grave or not, filial piety and love for our parents have always been values that we should adhere to. There are more ways to express our thoughts and nostalgia for our deceased loved ones, such as treating our parents well and taking care of them before they diedlifeand health. That's all that matters, isn't it?
InQingming FestivalOn this special day, let us miss our deceased relatives and inherit the family's heritageCultureand values. Whether we follow traditional taboos or not, we should pay homage and remembrance from our hearts and connect with our loved ones. I wish the deceased loved ones rest in peace, and I also wish that those of us who are alive can cherish the people in front of us and live each day well.