In many cases, we parents should let the child finish the words, which can have an unexpected educational effect, and only by letting the child finish the words can the door to the exchange of ideas be opened, so as to easily enter the child's heart.
We are glad for the girl, her innocent and kind outpouring is because her mother gave her the opportunity to finish speaking. In real life, it is found that many parents have made such mistakes to a greater or lesser extent. According to a survey by a school, more than 70% of parents admit that they do not have the patience to listen to their children. When the child encounters a problem, when he tells his parents, the parents will interrupt the child if they are not satisfied, reprimanding them at the lightest, and scolding them at the worst, and the child can only swallow the words back, but when they arrive, they often find that it is not at all what they think.
Parents do not let their children finish their sentences, often out of the following psychology:
The first point is that I feel that children are not sensible and it is not their turn to speak.
The second point is that if you don't listen to your child's explanation, you always think that your child is making excuses.
The third point is that the child's words touched on his own sore spots, making him feel faceless.
The negative effects of parents not having the patience to listen to their children after they finish what they have to say, while parents impose their joys and sorrows on their children, are obvious in the long run.
1) The child's right to speak is not respected by the parents, and the confrontation with the parents will occur, resulting in mutual distrust between the two parties, and the communication will become difficult and the distance between the child will become more and more distant.
2) Children do not get the attention of their parents, they can only hide their own thoughts in their hearts, and it is difficult for parents to know what their children are thinking. Children will slowly Xi silence, too lazy to talk and communicate with their parents, and remain silent in the face of grievances.
3) If parents do not let their children finish speaking, their children's self-expression ability will gradually decrease, so that they will have inferiority complex, which is very detrimental to children's growth and life.
There are actually many benefits for children to tell their parents about their inner feelings:
1) An excellent opportunity to improve AUO's ability and enhance social communication skills.
2) Improve children's intelligence and emotional intelligence.
3) Improve your child's self-confidence.
Once we deprive children of this opportunity, children's expression skills will naturally not be improved, and there will be difficulties in expression in social interactions, which is easy to produce inferiority complex and self-confidence. And a person who lacks self-confidence will find it difficult to become a successful person in the future. I guess it's also what parents don't want to see.
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