Nowadays, the issue of the family of origin has attracted more and more people's attention. Although generations of ancestors have faced problems with the family of origin, why is this topic in the spotlight today?In the past few years, the hardships of life have made it a huge challenge to solve the problem of food and clothing, let alone talk about emotional needs. Nowadays, the abundance of material life has led people to pay attention to the real emotional needs of the heart.
Back in the seventies and eighties of the last century, that generation of parents had a relative consensus on the emotional problems of the parent-child relationship, and they were willing to face them openly and solve some emotional problems through communication. However, to this day, especially in the 90s of the 19th century, that is, more than 100 years ago, it would be simply whimsical if you proposed understanding, freedom and liberation to your parents. Hu Zongnan, born in the 90s of the 19th century, is a typical representative of this era, coming from a typical feudal family.
Hu Zongnan's family conditions were average, and his father was an ordinary teacher. However, after a conflict with his father, he was admitted to the Whampoa Military Academy by mistake, which started his brilliant life in the ** period. Although Hu Zongnan later held a high position and became the king of the northwest, the rift between him and his father was never bridged.
Hu Zongnan's personality is relatively perverse, and he does not accept traditional teaching methods. In those days, communication between father and son was relatively restrained, and his father's strict discipline of him led to an estrangement between them. The more profound reason is that Hu Zongnan fell in love with a classmate named Fang Aying in his early years. Their relationship was opposed by their father, because in those days, free love was seen as a great rebellion. His father even arranged a family affair for him, pressing him step by step, so that he could get married as soon as possible.
After breaking with his father, Hu Zongnan ran away from home and went to Guangdong. At the Whampoa Military Academy in Guangdong, he became acquainted with Lao Jiang, became one of the thirteen Taibao under Lao Jiang, and embarked on a military career. However, the rift with his father was not resolved in the process.
The rift between father and son made Hu Zongnan's personal life full of regrets. Despite being in a high position and being admired by people, he remained single in his love life until he was 51 years old and did not get married and have children. However, his father never reconciled with him, and the two never saw each other again.
With the passage of time, Hu Zongnan's father may have long since died, and he himself has flourished, but the grudge with his father has left an indelible mark. In Hu Zongnan's heart, there may be a dead knot that needs to be untied in person. Resentment takes time to resolve, and it takes both parties to give opportunities and understand each other. Family affection is a bond of blood, and no matter what, it always takes courage to resolve conflicts.