As the old saying goes, "If there are three old people in the family, they are doomed to decay", and if there are three types of old people in the family, it is likely to decay overnight
When it comes to the elders in the family, there is a saying that is often mentioned: "There are three elders in the family, and they are doomed to decline". This quote reminds us that if there is a certain type of elderly person in the family, the family may face great challenges overnight.
Many people know that the saying "there is an old man in the family is like a treasure", implying that an elder in a family with kindness, wisdom, and values can bring harmony and happiness to the whole family. However, this phrase is sometimes misunderstood, believing that all elders bring good luck to the family. But in reality, not all old people can bring blessings. Those who are unreasonable, lack morals and moral character can bring misfortune and disaster to the family.
Many people have grown up learning to respect the elderly, so they always treat them with respect and without distinction. However, some elderly people have a bad nature. Getting along with such a person for a long time, even if it is an otherwise happy family, may be messed up due to the interference of the elderly, and even lead to the breakdown of family relationships. Especially the following three types of elderly people, if they are at home, they must be vigilant!
Some older people are very stubborn, they stick to their own ideas, they don't care about the feelings of others, and they even accuse their children of not following their wishes. This attitude makes communication difficult, and even though their children care about them, they turn a blind eye and are convinced that their point of view is correct. This situation is frustrating because even if you try your best to care, you can't open their hearts.
Other elderly people feel that their children should take on the responsibility of supporting them when they grow up, and think that this is a matter of course. They expect their children to provide financial support to ensure their own livelihood. This idea is not difficult to understand, especially for those elderly who have no other pension security. But, as with anything, moderation is key, and you shouldn't be overly reliant on your children for living expenses, constantly asking them for money.
It is an unavoidable reality that children need financial support to live outside. However, when they started a family, they also took on the responsibility of providing for their families. This means that all the money cannot be spent on the elderly. If the elderly cannot understand the child's situation and only cares about the money, this will only increase the burden on the child, and over time, it will plant the seeds of alienation in the child's heart. Sometimes, they may even want to cut ties with the elderly, as the elderly's inconsiderate behavior will only make the child feel more frustrated.
3. The elderly with a strong desire to control are also a challenge.
Some elderly people are very controlling, and with them you will only hear endless scolding and nagging. When encountering unsatisfactory things, they will use mean language to satirize people. Let's say a child who has worked hard for a whole week and finally finds time to visit them, only to get up a little late and be reprimanded mercilessly. Sometimes they even throw everything that the child brings out the door.
This kind of behavior is simply incomprehensible, and even worse, some elderly people will even publicize their children's private affairs everywhere, making their children lose face. These controlling elders keep an eye on their families and want to be the focus of their families. However, in the long run, this behavior will only make the family more and more distant from home, willing to escape the situation and seek a moment of peace.