The issue of building houses in rural areas has recently given rise to contradictions and strife within families. My family and I had some differences of opinion and opinion on this issue. As a woman, I should not have been obliged to participate in the construction of my mother's house, but because I was too enthusiastic about family affairs, I was not rewarded, but caused many misunderstandings and made me feel very cold!So, what's going on?Let me tell you about the self-description of the protagonist Yu Lihua.
In the past few days, my father has called ** to tell me that the neighbor is going to pay 100,000 yuan to buy our backyard. My brother and sister suggested that since everyone didn't plan to build a house, just promise the neighbors that it's okay to do itEarn pointsMoney. However, I feel really uncomfortable inside!However, my father believed that the countryside was our root and the last retreat for the croppers, and no matter what, our family should build a building in order to live in peace for a hundred years.
As a daughter, I really don't want to be a part of it. According to the traditional saying, a married daughter is like water spilled, and the affairs of the mother's family should be handled by the son. But the problem is with my younger siblings. They have been working in the county seat, their children are also going to school in the city, and they have been frugal in order to save money to buy a house. My father wanted to tear down the family's old house and build a three-story villa.
The younger siblings kept saying yes, but they were doing things behind their backs, always saying that they had no money. When it was urgent, the wife of the younger sister came forward and said, "My sister will pay for it, and we will pay for it." Although I am also my father's child, I am already married, and the people of my mother-in-law's family are not obliged to participate in the construction of my mother's house, not to mention that it is unreasonable to ask me to pay for it!But if I don't care, the backyard will be bought by the neighbors, and I don't think the 100,000 yuan is appropriate. So why bother asking me to pay, it's better to continue to work hard for my own interests. As a result, my family and I had an argument and a cold war!
My home is located in the coastal area, close to the county seat, and it takes less than 20 minutes to reach it by battery car. There is a cement road in front of the house, and there are buses passing by nearby, which is convenient to get to and from the county. The home is close to the side of the mountain and there is a small river next to it. Although it is mountainous, it is easy to draw a well. Usually, except for electricity and internet fees, you don't need to spend a penny. The home has three large tiled rooms, two side rooms, which are used as kitchens and utility rooms, and have yards in front and back. My father's idea was clear, to tear down the old house and build a building. He believes that the building can not only improve the living conditions of the family, but also create some economic benefits for the family. The father wanted to open a commissary on the first floor of the building to increase the family's income. Moreover, the building can also give the family a better living environment and make the family's life more comfortable. My father's idea was supported by his younger siblings, who also wanted a stable living environment.
I personally have a different idea about building a house. First of all, I think the current situation at home is actually acceptable. Although the old house is a little old, it can barely be used. Moreover, I am married to someone else, and I have been married for many years, so I am not obliged to participate in the affairs of my mother's family. I want to live my life, I want to live it simple and easy.
Secondly, I feel that it costs a lot of money to build a house, and our family is not financially well-off. My brother and sister's family have also been saving up to buy a house, and they haven't been able to help us enough. If I'm going to get involved in building a house, I'm going to need to put up some of my savings. I don't think it's reasonable to do that, and I want to save some money for emergencies. I hope that when I get married, I can have a savings of my own and not rely entirely on my husband. Therefore, I insisted that I did not want to contribute money to participate in the construction of the house.
This issue led to conflicts and disputes between me and my family. My father thought I had failed to fulfill my responsibilities as a daughter and refused to contribute to the family. They believe that I should be willing to contribute to the future and happiness of my family. And I feel that I am married and have my own family, and I should think about the future of myself and my children. I can't completely sacrifice myself for the sake of my family. This question made me feel very aggrieved and cold-hearted. I also understand my family's expectations, but I can't really meet all of their requests.
I think that family is a place of mutual understanding and support. Everyone has their own opinions and ideas, and each other's choices should be respected. Although we sometimes have disagreements, communicating sensibly will solve problemsCritical。I hope that my family will understand and support my choice, and that we can find a compromise that will be fulfilled for everyone.