1. It's too easy to trust people.
The real workplace environment is not as good as you think, and it is certainly not as bad as you think. If you look at the world around you with kindness every day and find that they are all kind faces, then everyone will also see a simple you, who do you bully?
The real world is full of all kinds of desires and conflicts, and conflicts of interest are always rare in the workplace, and the results of your work, your mistakes, or your words can become the target of attack.
2. Excessive pleasing to others.
If you often show cowardice, over-tolerance, and don't dare to respond to other people's comments or verbal attacks in time. There is a saying: pick soft persimmons and pinch them. It is said that this state of low self-esteem manifests itself in relationships as a very depressed, low-value, and insecure state of pain.
Herbert Schulman points out: "The time when man is most at the mercy of others is often when he is excessively pleasing others. This famous saying warns us that if we are overly pleasing others, we will lose our independence and respect, and we should focus on our own needs and bottom line.
3. Lack of independent thinking.
At work, if you don't think independently and always go with the flow, then others may not care about your opinions and ideas. In the long run, you may become a transparent person in the workplace. When you have a problem, you won't think to ask for your opinion.
In teamwork, if your point of view is not fully supported, then your colleagues will not be able to accept your point of view and will not take you seriously.
4. Lack of professional knowledge and skills.
At work, even if it is the simplest work content, you must have your own set of professional thinking after a long time, what are the risks and loopholes, only to achieve refinement in your own profession, colleagues will trust you, rely on you, and respect you. Otherwise, give people an unreliable image, then the leader will not rely on you at work, and colleagues will be even more distrustful and lead to bullying you.
Kazuo Inamori said a few words to reveal the essence of interpersonal relationships in the workplace: "The people who bully you come because of your weakness;People who appreciate you come because of your self-confidence;People who don't care about you come because of your inferiority;Those who love you come from your self-love;The people you meet are attracted by your energy, and whoever you are, you will meet. ”