The wife gives 7,000 per month, 2,500 to her parents, and 3,500 to her younger brother, but does not give her son 800 tuition
Five years ago, Ma Chen and Hu Yue tied the knot, and now they have a 3-year-old son. However, Ma Chen never realized that in the heart of his wife Hu Yue, he and his son did not occupy an important position, and the only people in the family who were valued were her parents and younger brother.
My son is about to enter kindergarten, and the tuition fee is as high as 800 yuan, and I heard that it is to purchase professional picture books and toys so that children can integrate learning in play.
One night, when Ma Chen came home from work, his wife unceremoniously said to her son: "Go with your father to ask for money, and you will have to pay the tuition tomorrow." ”
Ma Chen walked to the bedroom to change clothes, and his son followed him, pleading: "Dad, Dad, give money to the baby, and I have to pay the tuition tomorrow." ”
Ma Chen gently hugged his son and responded: "The baby is so good, let's go to my mother and ask for money." ”
As soon as he went out, Hu Yue was busy cooking in the kitchen, while Ma Chen took his son to wash and tidy up the housework.
During the dinner together, Hu Yue suddenly said: "Ma Chen, my son told you, the kindergarten tuition fee is 800 yuan, and I have to pay it tomorrow, you transfer the money to me." ”
Ma Chen looked at Hu Yue suspiciously: "You earn 7,000 a month, why can't you pay 800 for your son's tuition?"”
Hu Yue responded indifferently: "Of course, you are responsible for your son's expenses, why are you looking for me?"”
Ma Chen questioned: "What about the money you earn?"I will give you the expenses of the family, and I will also pay for the children's tuition. ”
Hu Yue said confidently: "I spend the money I earn by myself, you don't care about me." ”
At this time, Ma Chen noticed that Hu Yue's mobile phone was on the side, and took it without hesitation. He remembered that the password of the two mobile phones was his son's birthday, but he didn't know if it had been changed.
He enters the same password and the phone is unlocked. He checked Hu Yue's WeChat transfer records and found that she transferred the 7,000 yuan she earned to her mother 2,500 yuan and her brother 3,500 yuan, and the remaining 1,000 yuan was scattered with red envelopes.
Ma Chen was in pain and found that in his wife's heart, he and his son had no weight at all. What made him even more frustrating was that even her own son was not in her care.
Hu Yue realized Ma Chen's gaze, and said confidently: "I can give the money I earn, I can give it to whoever I want, don't interfere." ”
Ma Chen was deeply disappointed and said firmly: "If you keep doing this, let's divorce." I can't live my whole life with a woman who doesn't have me and my son in her heart. ”
Hu Yue unceremoniously proposed: Okay, the house and car belong to me, the children belong to you, and I agree to divorce.
Ma Chen unexpectedly found out that Hu Yue was so shameless, and she had become so greedy for marriage, which made him feel unbelievable.
Before marriage, the house and car were Ma Chen's personal property, but Hu Yue did not hesitate to ask for these properties, and even directly gave up his responsibility to the children. This made Ma Chen deeply feel her indifference and selfishness.
Ma Chen is currently 32 years old and works as a technical supervisor in a company with a monthly income of 15,000 yuan.
Five years ago, when he was 27 years old, he was introduced to Hu Yue. When they met for the first time, Hu Yue's delicate appearance, fair skin and smile with two dimples deeply attracted Ma Chen. She didn't look like a 26-year-old girl, more like she had just graduated from college.
Ma Chen has a good impression of Hu Yue, and when the two get along, every time he gives a gift, she will give it back.
With Valentine's Day approaching, Ma Chen consulted a female colleague and decided to buy a special gift for Hu Yue. In the end, he spent more than 10,000 yuan to buy a diamond necklace. He booked a romantic restaurant in advance and prepared to spend a romantic time with Hu Yue.
After work, Ma Chen drove to pick up Hu Yue and bought a bouquet of pink roses. On that day, Hu Yue wore a lake blue dress, which looked pure and charming.
The two walked hand in hand to the restaurant, Hu Yue held a pink rose, and his face was flushed. Ma Chen's feelings for her became deeper and deeper.
After ordering, Ma Chen took out the carefully prepared gift and handed it to Hu Yue. Hu Yue took the gift, looked at it, and said, "This is too valuable, I can't accept it." ”
Ma Chen said with a smile: "Yue Yue, we have been together for a while, and I came with the mood of getting married." If you want to, take it. ”
He continued: "Yue Yue, every time I give you a gift, you will return the gift, but this time I hope you don't return the gift. You only have a salary of 6,000 yuan a month, and if you save money and return the gift, you will have no money. Listen to me, okay?”
Hu Yue smiled and blushed when he heard this, and said, "I'm 26 years old, of course, I'm in the mood to get married." ”
After speaking, Hu Yue took out the necklace and asked Ma Chen to help her put it on. Ma Chen understood that the two had the same heart, and the marriage became a future plan discussed by the two.
After dinner, the two walked down the street hand in hand, and Hu Yue kept a happy mood, sharing some trivial matters of the family.
Hu Yue's family is located in a small remote county town, and his parents are ordinary workers. She is the eldest in the family and has a younger brother. Although Hu Yue's parents have always been kind to her, her mother often stressed that she is the eldest in the family and must help the family and take care of her younger brother in the future, because the younger brother suffered a lot of troubles due to household registration problems when he was a child.
At that time, Ma Chen felt that what Hu Yue's mother said was very strange. The younger brother's inability to register can only show that Hu Yue's parents violated the family planning policy, so what does it have to do with Hu Yue?However, looking at Hu Yue's expression of approval, he didn't say anything. It was Tanabata that day, and he didn't want to spoil the atmosphere, just laughed and listened.
Hu Yue has always worked hard, excellent academic performance, after the college entrance examination, he was successfully admitted to a key university in the provincial capital, and signed a good company after graduation, with a monthly salary of 6,000 yuan.
She often returns gifts to Ma Chen, this is because her mother told her that girls should maintain their self-esteem when they are in love, and they should not always think about taking advantage.
After the Tanabata Festival, the two began to think about getting married.
Ma Chen is a local, and his parents bought him a three-bedroom house before he graduated, especially to prepare for marriage. He has been living here for several years and only needs to be renovated according to Hu Yue's tastes.
And the car was purchased by himself, and the loan has long been paid off.
Therefore, neither the house nor the car is a problem. Now it is only necessary to consider the bride price and other marriage expenses of the Hu Yue family.
The two parents chatted happily when they met, and Hu Yue's mother was satisfied when she heard that she had a house and a car.
Ma Chen's mother said: "The two children are not young, and we also hope that they will get married as soon as possible." How did you give the bride price over there?”
Hu Yue's mother and father glanced at each other and said, "Our girls who have similar conditions to our family Hu Yue generally ask for a bride price of about 200,000 yuan when they get married. Then our family wants 1880,000, what do you think?”
Ma Chen's mother felt that the bride price was a bit high, but it was really not easy to raise a girl, plus the girl spent money when she was in her parents' house, and now she is a member of her mother-in-law's family, so she felt that this amount was still reasonable, and agreed without hesitation.
Ma Chen's father is a civil servant, his mother is a businessman, and the family conditions are quite good. Ma Chen also earned a lot of money after graduation, which was enough to pay for the bride price and wedding.
At that time, Ma Chen only thought about getting married as soon as possible, and didn't care too much about other things.
Soon, the two families agreed on a wedding date. When Ma Chen was 28 years old, they finally ushered in their wedding.
After marriage, the two lived very happily. Every day after work, Ma Chen went to pick her up, and then went home together to buy groceries. She is responsible for cooking, he is responsible for other household chores, the two cooperate tacitly, and life is full of warmth.
At that time, Ma Chen's monthly salary was about 13,000 yuan, and he took out 5,000 yuan for his family, and the lives of the two were basically enough.
Regarding Hu Yue's salary, Ma Chen said to her: "Your money can be saved, after all, we will have children soon, and the cost will be higher at that time, and there will be more places to use the money." ”
Hu Yue's expression was a little strange at that time, but Ma Chen didn't notice it. In fact, at that time, most of Hu Yue's salary was used to support his family. She gives her parents 3,000 yuan a month, and her younger brother has just graduated from college, so he needs an additional subsidy of 2,000 yuan, so the remaining 1,000 yuan is barely enough for herself. Fortunately, there is Ma Chen's more home, otherwise she would feel embarrassed.
Even though she heard Ma Chen's suggestion, she didn't say much. After all, she thinks that the money she earns should be at her disposal.
Ma Chen had never heard of a wife giving her entire salary to her mother's family, so he never took the initiative to ask or think about it.
He often listens to female colleagues chatting, and they are always looking forward to getting more money from their mother's family to support their small family. Especially after having children, they are more eager to provide a better life for their children.
He thinks that his wife must have the same idea, after all, she has become the head of the family and should work hard for the small family.
The days passed in a misunderstanding. In the second year after marriage, his wife became pregnant, and Ma Chen was very happy because he was about to become a father.
However, Hu Yue reacted very strongly after becoming pregnant, lost her appetite, vomited whatever she ate, and turned worrisomely pale. Ma Chen suggested: "Yue Yue, or you should consider resigning, I don't know how long this situation will last, and I will definitely not be able to take that long to ask for leave." ”
Hu Yue is also aware of this problem. Her job is one occupation and one position, and it is not feasible to take frequent leave. So, she had no choice but to resign.
At home, her physical condition did not improve. Ma Chen wanted to ask his mother to come over and take care of Hu Yue, but Hu Yue was unwilling. She was worried that she would feel uncomfortable, and she was afraid of causing conflicts between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
In the end, in desperation, Ma Chen sent Hu Yue back to her home and asked her parents-in-law to help take care of her. Indeed, her mother-in-law made her a sauerkraut noodle that she had loved since she was a child, and it worked, Hu Yue's morning sickness disappeared, and everyone breathed a sigh of relief.
After spending a week at her house, Ma Chen had to go back to work, after all, it was impossible for both of them to have no income.
When leaving, he gave his mother-in-law 5,000 yuan and Hu Yue 5,000 yuan, asking her to buy whatever she wanted, and also thanked her mother-in-law for taking care of Hu Yue.
Hu Yue lived in her mother's house for several months, and Ma Chen told her to go home, but she was unwilling.
Hu Yue said: "I want to live at home, when you go to work, I am the only one left at home, and here, at least my mother accompanies me, and my mother cooks food for me." ”
Ma Chen knew that his mother-in-law was retired and could take care of Hu Yue at home, so he didn't force it, but just gave Hu Yue 5,000 yuan every month to let her not wronged herself.
It wasn't until Hu Yue was 8 months pregnant that she was willing to go home, and Ma Chen went to pick her up. During this time, he would visit her when he had time, stay at his house for a day or two, and then rush to work early in the morning.
When he saw her, he felt that her belly was big again, and carefully helped her into the car and adjusted the seat to make her more comfortable.
When leaving, Ma Chen gave his mother-in-law another 5,000 yuan to thank her for taking care of Hu Yue during this time.
After returning home, Hu Yue still didn't want his mother-in-law to come to the house, and Ma Chen couldn't stay at home all the time, he had to go to work.
In the end, Hu Yue repeatedly assured her that she was okay alone, and Ma Chen breathed a sigh of relief.
Every night after work, he hurried home to buy vegetables and cook. However, Hu Yue always felt that what he did was not delicious, and in the end he came to assist, which made the relationship between the two more intimate.
When Hu Yue was about to give birth, his mother-in-law came in a hurry, and his mother often came to the house to check on the situation before going back.
One day, Ma Chen was still at work, and his mother called him ** and urgently informed him to hurry up and ask for leave to go to the hospital, because Hu Yue was about to give birth.
He was taken aback, after all, there were still more than 10 days before the due date, how could it be so sudden?He quickly asked for leave and hurried to the hospital.
When he arrived, Hu Yue had already entered the delivery room, and what made him a little angry was that Hu Yue felt wrong in the morning, so he didn't tell him, but went to the hospital with his mother.
On the contrary, his mother bought some delicious food at noon, and when she was sent to the hospital, she found that there was no one at home.
Ma Chen said angrily: "Mom, why didn't you tell me when you came to the hospital?"I could have come earlier. ”
The mother-in-law defended: "I don't think you can help a woman give birth, there is no need for you to ask for leave, I think you will know after work." ”
Ma Chen said angrily: "Mom, Hu Yue is my wife, I am the father of this child, she gave birth to me and I was not present, do you think it is appropriate?"”
At this time, his mother also arrived, grabbed Ma Chen, and persuaded him to be quiet.
Hu Yue gave birth to a boy safely, and the family felt very cute when they looked at this wrinkled little guy, but Ma Chen thought in his heart: "Who does this child look like, he looks too ugly." ”
Despite this, he just thought about it in his heart and did not dare to say it. However, his mother knew what he was thinking at a glance and said, "Newborn children are like this, you will know in a few days." ”
Ma Chen was a little embarrassed, but after all, this was his child, and no matter what, he would love him well.
After Hu Yue was discharged from the hospital and went home, her mother-in-law and mother took care of her together, her mother-in-law helped take care of the children, her mother cooked, and Ma Chen went to work again.
After the full moon, the mother-in-law went home, and the mother also drove away, and Hu Yue arranged for a long time during this time to make time for himself.
Every day, Hu Yue takes care of the children at home alone, and Ma Chen contributes 5,000 yuan per month for family expenses. Since all the child's belongings are purchased by his mother, and the food in the house is regularly delivered by his mother, the family expenses are not very large.
After returning home, Ma Chen was responsible for taking care of the children, and Hu Yue was responsible for cooking. After dinner, Ma Chen cleaned up the dishes and chopsticks and started to wash clothes again. He felt that it was very hard for Hu Yue to take care of the children alone, but no matter what it was, as long as he could do it, he was willing to do it.
The days passed quickly, and in the blink of an eye his son was over two years old, and his brother-in-law was about to get married.
Hu Yue: Husband, my brother is getting married, there is no marriage room, the woman does not agree, can we help him make some down payment?
Ma Chen: Oh, how much do you think is appropriate?
Hu Yue: Husband, I understand that I have never had a job, and it is very hard for the family to rely on you alone to make money. But I wonder if I can get together 100,000 yuan?
Ma Chen thought about it for a while, 100,000 yuan was still a lot of money for him, but considering that his brother-in-law really needed a large amount of money this time, he finally agreed. However, it is inevitable that there is some discomfort in my heart.
Hu Yue happily looked at his promise: Husband, you are really good. Don't worry, I'll be sure to live a good life in the future.
Ma Chen transferred 100,000 yuan to Hu Yue, although he was distressed, he also understood that this was to help his family. However, such help made him feel uncomfortable in his heart.
The child is almost 3 years old, and one day Ma Chen received Hu Yue's ** when he went to work. He thought it was about bringing something after work at night, but he didn't expect Hu Yue to say eagerly: Husband, can you transfer 3,500 yuan to me?I'm in a hurry.
Ma Chen wondered if something would happen, and hurriedly asked: Yue Yue, where are you?What happened?Do I need to rush over?
Hu Yue: It's not a big deal, husband, it's just that I have to pay off the mortgage for my younger brother, and the family doesn't have enough money.
Ma Chen was taken aback and asked: For so long, you have been helping your brother pay off the mortgage?Is this with my money?
Hu Yue replied calmly: Yes, my brother's salary is too low, and just paying off the mortgage is not enough for living expenses. Of course I'm going to help him.
Ma Chen was angry: "Hu Yue, he is your younger brother, not your son." Am I obligated to use my money to help your brother pay off his mortgage?Do you think it's easy for me to go to work and earn money?”
When Hu Yue heard this, he was also angry and didn't say anything more. After returning home in the evening, the two fell silent.
A month later, Hu Yue sent his child to kindergarten and started his own work. Ma Chen was pleased, believing that this would allow her to reintegrate into social life.
Ma Chen asked, "Yueyue, how is your new job?"”
Hu Yue replied: "It's good, I met a senior sister during the interview, and in the end, the work content is similar to before, and the monthly salary is 7,000 yuan." ”
Ma Chen was happy for her. But even though Hu Yue started working, Ma Chen still gave her 5,000 yuan a month for her family. He believes that it is appropriate for a man to earn money to support his family.
However, when she was asked to pay 800 yuan for her son, Hu Yue was unwilling, which shocked and disappointed Ma Chen.
Hu Yue usually doesn't spend money at home, and he hasn't complained. But for the child's expenses, he thinks that as a biological mother, why is Hu Yue unwilling to contribute 800 yuan?
Up to now, his mother is responsible for the milk powder that the child drinks and the clothes he wears, and Hu Yue has never worried about these things. However, now it is only 800 yuan, and she is unwilling to pay. Does she really think of herself as the mother of her baby?
After the two quarreled, Hu Yue filed for divorce, demanding a house, a car and children. This made Ma Chen's heart feel cold.
Ma Chen walked out of the house with his young son in his arms and decided to take the child back to his parents' house. His heart was in turmoil, and he didn't have a clear answer to whether he wanted a divorce, and he was also thinking about how to make his wife Hu Yue think more about his small family.
After arriving at his parents' house, Ma Chen was still in a restless mood, and his parents curiously asked him what had happened, so he told his parents about the family conflicts one by one, hoping that they would come up with ideas.
After hearing this, the father asked, "You don't want a divorce, do you?"”
Ma Chen: "Yes, Dad, you see that the baby is only 3 years old, and I can't bear to let him not have a complete home." But I don't want to be burdened by her brother's family all the time, I've already paid a down payment of 100,000, and she's still greedily asking her to pay off the mortgage, I really don't know what she's thinking. ”
Father: "Maybe it has something to do with her family education, maybe it's because her mother instilled this idea from a young age. Come to think of it, how could she suddenly understand?”
Ma Chen pulled his hair irritably, and his father continued: "Actually, it's simple, doesn't she just think your salary is high now?"It's no problem to support a family, you spend all the money, and when the family has no money to eat, she should wake up. ”
Father: "Or if you spend all her money and you are in charge of the household, she won't be so willful." From next month, all the expenses of the child will also be borne by you, and your mother and I will not ask. ”
Ma Chen was confused after hearing this, and said, "Dad, can you explain it clearly?"I don't really want to think about that right now. ”
The father reprimanded him a few words and said: "In the current situation, the best way is to buy a house in the name of the baby, and then take out a loan in Hu Yue's name, so that her salary can be used to repay the loan, and you can make up for it if it is not enough." ”
Ma Chen said hesitantly: "But, Dad, I don't have that much money for a down payment." You know the current housing prices, in our area, the down payment needs more than 1 million, not as cheap as her brother bought in a small county. ”
Father: "I'll settle the down payment with your mother, after all, it's to buy a house for our grandson, and we, as grandparents, can't ignore it." Just pay the mortgage as a couple. ”
Father: "If she doesn't agree, you don't have to take care of the family anymore, and you don't have to worry about the children's expenses." You have a chance to go out and study, why don't you apply to study?”
Ma Chen listened to his father's advice and felt that it was very reasonable, and he decided to discuss this matter with Hu Yue as soon as possible. In his opinion, buying a house seems to be the most suitable solution at the moment.
After getting off work the next day, Ma Chen picked up the child, still in a restless mood. Hu Yue had already started cooking, and after seeing Ma Chen, he asked, "Why didn't the baby go to kindergarten today?"You know that this is a bad habit for the baby, and it is not easy to change it in the future. ”
Ma Chen smiled: "It's really not easy, I thought you only had your parents and younger brother in your heart, but I didn't expect there to be a baby." ”
Hu Yue responded dissatisfiedly: "Don't be so mean when you speak, the baby was born to me, can I not care?"The money was spent, and I just asked you for 800, which is too much, right?”
Ma Chen: "Since you also have a baby in your heart, that's just right, I have something I want to discuss." Parents said that now that housing prices are getting higher and higher, consider buying a house for the baby, and it will not be so hard in the future. ”
Hu Yue was puzzled: "Buy a house for the baby?."It's not about writing the baby's name, is it?”
Ma Chen: "Of course not, I have already consulted, because we need a loan, so we can't use the baby's name directly, and we need to add both of us." ”
Hu Yue made a difficulty: "Where did the down payment come from?"”
Ma Chen: "The down payment is a gift from my grandparents, and we only need to pay off the mortgage." I have thought about it, and now the most suitable thing is to take out a loan in your name, doesn't your company have a housing provident fund?”
Hu Yue was moved when he heard this, and sighed that the job he was looking for was really good, with a high salary and a provident fund. She originally planned to wait for herself to buy a house when she had money, but after being scolded by her mother, it seems much more cost-effective to buy a house for her son now.
Hu Yue thought of the huge down payment, which was her savings for more than ten years. It would be a fool not to agree, so I agreed without hesitation.
At this time, Ma Chen's father had already arranged everything and found someone to take care of the house everywhere. The house was a lot cheaper, but in order to avoid being dissuaded by Hu Yue's family, his father decided to let them sign the contract the next day.
That night, Ma Chen and his son kept clinging to Hu Yue, preventing her from having time to contact her family. The next day, they went straight to the sales hall and confirmed that they had selected a house, and they were satisfied with the house type and location. The son's grandparents also came to make the down payment in person, and then signed an agreement to use Hu Yue's provident fund to take out a loan, and the repayment was deducted from her salary card.
It's true that sometimes the green channel can really make things easier. Loans are usually not approved so quickly, but it is possible to get them done within a month.
After the loan is approved, in addition to her provident fund, the monthly repayment will be almost 10,000. Ma Chen transferred 2,000 to her in advance every month for bank deductions.
During this time, Hu Yue was very busy, buying houses, applying for loans and other things, plus busy work. When she came home in the evening, the child clinged to her, making her almost forget to contact her family.
It wasn't until she received her mother's ** asking why she hadn't repaid her brother's mortgage that she was stunned. When she was happy to get a down payment of more than 1 million, she completely forgot about these things and was worried that her in-laws would regret it.
A little embarrassed, he said, "Mom, I can help my brother repay the loan this month, and I have to let him repay it himself next month." ”
Mom was upset: "What's wrong again?".Don't you know that your brother is only 6500 a month, how can he have the money to pay off the mortgage, and your sister treats him like this?Have you forgotten how I taught you as a child?”
Hu Yue defended: "Mom, after I graduated, I almost always spent the least amount of money on myself, and gave the rest to my family. You didn't give me a cent of the bride price, and I also gave 100,000 yuan for my brother to buy a house, and I paid off the mortgage for such a long time, I think I have done enough. ”
Her mother was even more angry, so she could only say: "Then you can take out a loan in Ma Chen's name, isn't his salary higher than yours?"”
Hu Yue explained: "Mom, didn't I say it?I have a CPF and it is more cost-effective to borrow in my name. Mom, I'll give it to you this month, don't look for me next month, I don't have any money for you for the time being, anyway, you have a pension, my dad is still working, and the family is not out of money. ”
After Hu Yue hung up, her mother broke the teacup in anger. She didn't expect the Ma Chen family to come up with this idea, which made her completely unaware of it, and she was angry in her heart. The money of 6,000 per month was gone, and she felt a pain in her heart.
Ma Chen feels that life is very good, and Hu Yue is now responsible for his son's expenses. The monthly household of 5,000 yuan is the result of her frugality, which can maintain her son's living standard.
She even began to be careful about her budgeting, even saving money on groceries. Although sometimes she feels guilty, but in desperation, she can't leave such a day, does she really want a divorce?
Hu Yue inquired, she couldn't get anything when she got a divorce, and divorce was not a wise choice for her situation. She also can't bear to give up her baby.
In order not to treat her too much, Ma Chen gave her an extra 2,000 every holiday, so that she could spend a good holiday for her parents.
Hu Yue wanted to deduct some money, but it was not much every month, and she felt a little angry.
Ma Chen looked at her and felt that she was like a child, so he gave her an extra 1,500 yuan a month, and he no longer asked whether the money was for her own expenses or for her parents.
Hu Yue was very happy to see that he finally had some leftover in his hand. She didn't dare to give it all to her parents, for fear that one day she would have no money at all.
Ma Chen was even happier to see her like this. It turns out that this is the best way to deal with the Fudi Demon. Although the life of each month is meticulous, the family lives in harmony and beauty, which is the happiest thing.
Marriage needs to be managed, and it needs wisdom. As long as the husband and wife have common concerns, as long as they work hard, they will always find a way to solve those conflicts. After all, a person will make you understand that you can't live without him. Perhaps love is not passion, not nostalgia, but the precipitation of years and becoming a part of life. In the quiet years, there is always a chicken feather, but this is the real life.