Eating and sleeping is indispensable for people, when they are very young, they sleep with their parents, and when they get married, they sleep in the same bed, inseparable, and in old age, they often sleep in separate beds.
Now, with the continuous change of people's ideological concepts, it is unbelievable to many young people that they choose to sleep in separate beds after entering middle age, that is, between the legal age of 35 and 60.
I have a female fan, whose pseudonym is Chen Lian, who is only 45 years old this year, and she said that she has been sharing a bed with her husband for 8 years, and she enjoys this way of sleeping in separate rooms and beds.
Chen Lian said this:
Winters in mountain towns in northern Guangdong are also cold. Today is past nine o'clock in the morning on Sunday, and I am still lying alone on the large bed, covered with a quilt and a duvet, very warm and comfortable.
It was raining lightly outside, no, it was sleet, the north wind was blowing "whoosh", it looked very cold, and there were a few times when I wanted to get up early to cook breakfast and clean, but I couldn't get up, and it was so comfortable to lie in the warm quilt.
At this moment, I am alone at home, my husband is a salesman in the unit, I went on a business trip a few days ago, I only have one daughter, who has gone to college, and she can only come back during the winter and summer vacations.
When I was tired of sleeping, I put on a cotton coat, leaned on the back of the bed, meditated, and recalled the bits and pieces of the twenty years after marriage.
My husband and I shared the bed, not because of the two of us, but because of a little quarrel and quarrel, everyone is young and vigorous, should not back down, I was angry, so I moved to the guest room to sleep.
In any case, it is impossible to say that the thirties slept in separate beds because of quarrels, and looking back now, it is indeed irrational and reckless.
But at that time, our relationship was really stiff, and I was exhausted and adopted an attitude of avoiding the Cold War.
During the day, the two of them were silent when they ate together, and it was not particularly embarrassing to have children, but at night, they slept in the same bed, back to back, and felt very depressed and uncomfortable.
After being married for so many years, only I know the ups and downs, and my husband is a salesman in the unit, and he often travels on business, and it is a long-distance business trip, and all the burdens of the family are on me.
I am a hospital leader who often has to work night shifts, not only to do housework, but also to take care of the children's life and Xi. I'm a bit of a cleanliness addict, I have endless housework every day, and I don't sleep well at night.
And her husband is away on a long-term business trip, and he still seems a little uncomfortable when he comes home, not because he is lazy, but because he can't do well.
Every time he does housework, I have to check it before I can rest assured, and on this point, we often quarrel, saying that he is annoyed, and he simply stands by and ignores any housework.
Calm down, I did talk a little more and was a little mean to him, but my personality was too strong, and the tension between the couple has not been eased.
Until the tenth year of our marriage, it was also because of a trivial matter, we quarreled again in bed at night, and it was the most fierce one, and I was so angry that night I slammed the door and moved to sleep in the next room.
At the beginning, my husband had some opinions, saying that he would split the bed at such a young age, and the crisis was everywhere, and the bed was distracted, and the marriage existed in name only, and I was stubborn and uncompromising.
I am a very strong woman in my bones, and my colleagues in the unit ridiculed me for not needing a man's woman, of course, referring to my style of life and work attitude.
My husband was very cold to me after the bed separation. I ignored it and went my own way. I'm used to being independent, and after work, I hang out and shop alone, I feel very comfortable, very enjoyable, and very comfortable.
The lack of verbal communication has led to physical isolation, to be precise, sleeping in separate rooms, and our married life is much less than before.
In addition, my husband has a relatively weak personality, and he has always been obsessed with sleeping in separate beds.
We both had some emotional suspicion of each other, and he also suspected that I was having an affair with the dean, and I suspected that he had another woman outside.
Sleeping in separate beds, the husband felt that it hurt his self-esteem. He rarely offers requests for conjugal life, and he's punishing me, that's what I thought.
We've been ten years since we were a minute, and we'll never be able to go back to the past.
Looking back now, I was a bit arbitrary, too self-conscious, and didn't take into account his feelings, but neither of us wanted to relive old dreams from the past.
Life is short, everyone will have their own way of life, sleeping in separate beds, there is no right or wrong in itself, as long as you don't hurt each other and feel comfortable, it doesn't matter.
In my opinion, marriage is the heart of two people of the opposite sex. However, there are many couples nowadays who, for various reasons, have no love, and their family relationship is barely maintained, and they live as if they were strangers, which is really undesirable.