"Children are a mirror of parents, and most of the excellent students have excellent parents behind them, and there are usually problem parents behind the problem children. ”
The first time I saw this book, I was attracted by the titles of the author who is a doctor from Tsinghua University, studied under Professor Yan Ning, a famous teacher from the High School Affiliated to the National People's Congress, and Haidian Mother
In the eyes of such a volume of Haidian, such a famous school, and such an excellent teacher, what are the parents behind the outstanding students?
There is also a little muttering, in such a top-notch background, will the cultivation secrets of these excellent children be suitable for most of our ordinary families?
After reading it carefully, I found that this book is really suitable for all mothers!
First of all, this book answers the deep anxiety of many parents:
My child's grades are not as good as others;Children are addicted to mobile games;Parent-child relationship is strained;Worried that their children will not be able to go to a good university or find a good job......These educational problems that plague parents can find solutions in them.
Secondly, the author starts from years of educational observation, combining theory + case:
Not only can it tell you how to solve the problem, but it can also analyze the cause of the problem and the underlying philosophy behind the educational method. While solving the "technique", it also allows you to understand the "Tao" and fundamentally improve the ability of family education.
It seems to me that it is important that the author tells all moms to be a better version of themselves:
From loving yourself well, and the balance between life and work, to emotional management, energy management and time management, to creating a harmonious relationship between husband and wife, etc., to help mothers realize themselves and harvest a happy family.
Without further ado, let's take a look at these 7 good parenting guides
1.Exploring first and then focusing is one of the easiest paths to success.
Behind the success of the child is the open-minded attitude of the parents.
Encourage children to explore freely, so that children can understand what they like, what they can do, and what they want to do after continuous experimentation, and only then can they persistently and firmly choose what they like.
Dig deep into this matter and grow into a truly excellent person.
2.Develop a strategic family plan.
For example, determine the vision of the family, and what kind of children we want to raise.
This allows us to plan and vision when we deviate from course, and help us get back on track to our final destination.
When faced with confusion, we know that instead of asking others how to do it, we ask what our own hearts should do.
3.Correct your own educational perceptions.
Children who do not do homework, do not pay attention in class, and love to play mobile games are all the results of their behavior.
Correcting behavior, forcing children to do homework, and enrolling children in make-up classes are very limited.
Wise parents will analyze the motivations behind these behaviors, change their children's motivations, and meet their children's psychological needs, so as to completely solve their children's behavioral problems.
4.Adopt a kind and firm approach to education.
You can use three kinds of thinking to remind yourself -
Long-term thinking: If what happened today was placed in the long years of my child's growth in the future, would I still be angry now?Is this still that important?
Bottom line thinking: If the child is lying in the hospital bed now, will I still care about today?
Empathy: I ask my children every day how their grades are, and if they come back and ask me how my work is, will I be happy?
5.It's hard to manage a child, no matter how difficult it is for a child.
We need to eliminate things that the child is completely incapable of doing, and in the things that the child has the ability to make decisions, we must let him make his own decisions, let him try and bear the results of his own choices.
6.Raising a good child starts with being yourself.
Whether you have children or not, don't forget to be yourself and don't forget your original dream. Our efforts are felt by children, and when children see us working hard, they will work hard as long as we stick to our original dreams.
7.Involve dad in parenting.
Father's involvement in parenting can greatly promote the development of children's personality, language development, and emotional stability. Mothers should encourage and respect the way fathers take care of their babies, and let go of their husbands' freedom to take up babies, so that they will be more active and active in parenting.
Written on the back -
Raising children is not a simple thing, smart parents know how to only do 60 points, not 100 points to over-control the child, depriving the child of growth space, not like 0 points parents, ignoring the child, so that the child can not feel love and security.
It is important that parents love themselves well, strive to be the best version of themselves, bravely pursue their dreams, and lead by example to be a role model for their children, and their children will also understand the meaning of hard work and dreams subtly.