Ah, this person is a mother,
Ah, this person is Mom,
This man gave me life and gave me a home.
Back then, Geng Weihua's "Mother" touched countless people, but few people knew that the original singer of this song was actually Yan Weiwen.
Geng Weihua, who has shown his demeanor on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala 8 times and sang songs such as "Green Military Uniform", "Loving Mother", and "Still Home Warmth", is not only a military singer, but also has an unforgettable marriage experience.
In that experience, he was chased by fans for two years before entering the palace of marriage, but in the end he still failed to make it to the end, and this marriage hurt him deeply. Geng Weihua, who is now 51 years old, is still single, but his singing voice is still touching.
In 1970, Geng Weihua was born in a cadre family in Zhou Village, Zibo, Shandong Province, and he was the youngest of four children.
When he was six years old, his father moved the family to Jiangsu due to a job transfer, where he spent a happy childhood.
As the youngest child in the family, Geng Weihua is undoubtedly the most favored in the family, but he is also the most troublesome one in the family.
In the first decade of the last century, the Chinese people generally advocated cultural Xi, and families with good family conditions would let their children receive education.
At that time, Geng Weihua's brothers and sisters were admitted to prestigious universities with excellent results, which made the two elders of the Geng family feel very relieved and did not worry about their academic Xi.
However, when Geng Weihua came here, the second elder encountered difficulties.
Geng Weihua lacked interest in Xi, and his grades were always at the bottom of his class. After graduating from junior high school, he resolutely did not want to go to school again, but he had a soft spot for ** and studied violin Xi for six years.
Geng's father saw that his son had no interest in learning Xi, so he decided to let him work in the factory. He used his connections to find Geng Weihua a job in factories and mines, mainly in trade unions, and was responsible for organizing workers' amateur cultural activities.
Geng Weihua's love for ** has always been the same, and he decided to pursue his ** dream again. He bought several textbooks from the Shanghai Theater Academy, but found that the music theory knowledge in the books was professional, and he didn't understand many professional terms at all.
In order to realize his "** dream", he decided to secretly go to Shanghai and Xi learn vocal music for more than a year at his own expense.
After Geng Weihua returned from his studies, he happened to be recruiting the soldier performance team of the Lianyungang Military Subdivision of the Nanjing Military Region, and he immediately seized the opportunity to sign up for the examination. During the interview, the best knowledge he learned in Shanghai came in handy, and with a song "Three Gorges Love", he was successfully admitted to the army and became a PLA literary and artistic soldier.
A few years later, Geng Weihua was admitted to the Second Artillery Art Troupe of the Chinese People's Liberation Army with his talent and became a soloist in the troupe. In 1997, he was also fortunate to appear on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala, and sang "Wind and Fire Once" with Lu Jihong, Li Danyang and others.
Geng Weihua's handsome looks and beautiful singing voice have made him an idol for many people. However, among the many fans, there is a girl named Zheng Jia, who changed Geng Weihua's life.
In 1998, Geng Weihua held a performance in Xi'an, and Zheng Jia, who was studying in college in Xi'an at the time, couldn't wait to rush to the scene to cheer for his idol after learning the news.
After seeing Geng Weihua himself, Zheng Jia was so excited that she stomped her feet and shouted for Geng Weihua in the audience.
After the performance, she quietly slipped backstage and found Geng Weihua. As a star chaser, she asked Geng Weihua for autographs, group photos and ***
Geng Weihua agreed to her requests one by one, but for Geng Weihua, this is just a regular interaction between idols and fans.
However, in Zheng Jia's view, this is proof of her quest for a response.
After the performance, Geng Weihua immediately embarked on a journey back to Beijing. Soon after returning to Beijing, he received a special letter. For idols, it is common to receive letters from fans.
On that day, Geng Weihua, as usual, took out many letters sent by fans from the letter picker. Among them, there was a letter written with a brush that aroused his curiosity.
After opening the letter, Geng Weihua was shocked that the letter was eleven pages long, and the whole text was written in small letters with a brush. This unique way of writing made Geng Weihua can't help but want to continue reading.
Geng Weihua opened the letter, but put it down after only reading a few lines. He discovers that the letter is not an ordinary fan letter, but an affectionate confession letter.
The letter sent by Zheng Jia sank into the sea and decided to go to Beijing alone to find Geng Weihua. After Geng Weihua learned about it, out of love for the strange girl who had just arrived, he invited Zheng Jia to dinner.
At the dinner table, Geng Weihua expressed to Zheng Jia the huge gap between himself and her, hoping that she could look at it rationally, and suggested that she go home as soon as possible. Although Geng Weihua has tried his best to solve the problem, Zheng Jia still insists on not giving up.
Geng Weihua always received letters from her, but he never opened them. Every once in a while, she would go to Beijing to see him, and although at first he would meet her out of politeness, but then he felt that she came too often and decided to firmly refuse her.
Geng Weihua specially instructed the security guards not to let the young girl in if they came to him. Zheng Jia visited again, but was told by the security guard that Geng Weihua was not at home. It was pouring rain in the sky, Zheng Jia was waiting at the door, but Geng Weihua never appeared.
The security guard looked at her so pitifully and couldn't help revealing the truth and persuaded her to give up. Zheng Jia knew in her heart that two years had not made any progress in the relationship between the two, which had always been her wishful thinking.
Zheng Jia's departure made Geng Weihua suddenly realize that he had already fallen in love with her. However, he understands that he is irretrievable and can only accept this cruel truth.
From then on, Geng Weihua began to face life alone, although his heart was full of pain, he knew that this was a process he had to go through.
After clarifying his intentions, Geng Weihua picked up ** and dialed Zheng Jia's number. After connecting, he said sincerely: "I want to marry you, are you willing to be my wife?"
When Zheng Jia heard this, she was a little surprised, and then asked a little nervously: "Are you sure you made a mistake?" Geng Weihua looked at ** firmly, and said seriously: "No, it's you, are you willing to be my wife?"
The idol who has been pursuing for two years took the initiative to propose to himself, how could he miss such an opportunity? So, the two quickly went to register their marriage and entered the palace of marriage.
The love story of a pair of lovers is like a romantic idol drama, however, just as the plot of an idol drama does not always have a happy ending, love in reality does not always have a happy ending.
Geng Weihua and Zheng Jia are more than ten years apart, but the love between them is full of sweetness and happiness. After getting married, Geng Weihua took great care of Zheng Jia, took the initiative to hand over the salary card to her, and took on the responsibility of cooking and housework.
He often said, "Although she chased me for two years, I am willing to spend the rest of my life to repay her love." ”
Zheng Jia and Geng Weihua have been married for many years, and Zheng Jia has rarely gone to the kitchen. Even sometimes, Zheng Jia will order. After getting off work, Geng Weihua will go to the supermarket to buy all the ingredients according to the dishes Zheng Jia wants to eat today, and then go home and cook them for Zheng Jia himself.
The two have spent many sweet and happy times together.
Happiness is not always long-lasting. As time passed, due to the difference in the growth environment and the times, the contradictions between the two increased day by day. Born into a wealthy urban family, Zheng Jia did not have a deep understanding of money, spendthrift in school, and often went to high-end shopping malls.
Once, she took a fancy to a brand-name dress in the mall and thought it was very suitable for Geng Weihua, so she directly used his credit card to buy it. After Geng Weihua went home, Zheng Jia happily gave him clothes to wear.
As the old saying goes, "people rely on clothes, horses rely on saddles", and this 8,000 yuan big-name dress does look very handsome after wearing it.
Geng Weihua looked at himself in the mirror and smiled with satisfaction. However, when he learned that the dress was actually priced at 8,000 yuan, he was shocked and his face became serious.
Although the dress was very beautiful, the money was enough to buy a dozen pieces of clothing that he usually wears. He immediately took off his clothes and said coldly to Zheng Jia: "Don't buy such expensive clothes in the future."
Although he did not express his displeasure directly, his attitude suggests that he was indeed angry.
Conflicts occur from time to time in daily life, and as time goes by, there are more and more disputes between the two. often quarrels over trivial matters in life, and sometimes Geng Weihua comes home a little late for work reasons, Zheng Jia will complain and have an argument with him.
Sometimes the two of them are emotional, and they will even say "if you can get by, if you can't, you can divorce". Geng Weihua believes that it is impossible for husband and wife to have no disputes, these words are just said in anger and cannot be taken seriously.
Zheng Jia and Geng Weihua have divergent views on marriage. Geng Weihua thought that they could resolve the conflict through communication, while Zheng Jia felt that their quarrels would become more and more, so she filed for divorce.
When Geng Weihua heard this, he was slightly stunned, then smiled and said, "Don't be kidding, what about divorce?" But Zheng Jia's expression was serious, without a hint of joke.
Geng Weihua saw that Zheng Jia was serious this time, so he hurriedly said: "If we get divorced, won't this family be broken?" What about the child? But Zheng Jia had made up her mind, and Geng Weihua couldn't change her decision by saying anything, so she just said lightly: "Go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to go through the formalities as soon as possible."
Geng Weihua has repeatedly tried to save his marriage with Zheng Jia, and even made concessions for the happiness of his family and children, but Zheng Jia has always insisted on his own views and is unwilling to change his decision to divorce, which makes his friends around him feel helpless.
Geng Weihua's marriage with his wife Zheng Jia has reached an irreparable point, and they finally chose to divorce. On the day of the divorce, Geng Weihua returned home and couldn't help but shed tears when he looked at the photo album with his wife for many years.
He couldn't understand why his once beloved wife and their happiness ended in divorce. Although he has made many efforts for the sake of his family and daughter, he has not been able to reverse this ending.
For the whole afternoon, Geng Weihua stayed in the room, his face haggard, and his eyes were full of red bloodshots. The aunt at home saw him listless and asked what was going on.
However, Geng Weihua was not willing to mention the pain in his heart, but shook his head lightly and said, "It's okay." ”
The aunt noticed that he was depressed and silently observed. She told him that she had seen his daughter sitting at the door of his room this afternoon, crying all the time. The aunt tried to ask the child what had happened, but the child did not speak.
At night, Geng Weihua walked into his daughter's room and saw her sitting alone on the bed crying. He immediately hugged his daughter, and the two of them cried bitterly together.
Geng Weihua wept bitterly and fell into a long silence with his daughter. However, this turn of events brought his heart closer to his daughter, and he decided to take care of her more attentively.
Although there is an aunt who cooks at home, Geng Weihua still insists on getting up early every day and cooking for his daughter to prepare breakfast.
As a father, Geng Weihua deeply understands the importance of motherhood when his daughter grows up, so he never prevents his children from seeing their mother. Regarding the content of the conversation between mother and daughter, Geng Weihua never asks questions and respects the privacy of the child.
Even after the divorce, he never spoke ill of his ex-wife in front of his children, because he knew that the children had the ability to judge right and wrong, and he believed that she would gradually understand as he grew up.
He respects his daughter's ideas and does not impose his own views on her, because he believes that children have their own thinking and decision-making.
In the show, some people are curious about whether Geng Weihua will consider finding another companion to cope with the loneliness of old age. However, Geng Weihua said that he did not have any thoughts about remarrying, because all his thoughts are now on his daughter.
He thinks that now that the child is still young, when the child goes to college, if he needs to think about this issue, he will also consider his daughter's feelings first. Therefore, now the focus of his life is only his daughter.
At the end of the show, Geng Weihua said affectionately that now his daughter has become the center of gravity of his life, and all decisions will be made with her as the first consideration.
Geng Weihua's life is full of affection and perseverance. He has a clear attitude towards feelings, and once he is in love, he will give his all without hesitation. He was in love with fans for two years, but finally chose to marry her and spend the rest of his life paying off his debts.
After many years of divorce, he closed off his emotions and focused on his beloved singing and his daughter. Today, all that is left in his world is ** and his little princess.