Lili and I have been together for five years, and last year we finally entered the palace of marriage. We were table mates in high school and have always maintained a close bond. I come from a wealthy family, and both parents work within the system.
When we got married, my parents made a 50% down payment, and together with 40% of our parents, we bought a new house of 100 square meters. We have a happy life after marriage, and we are the ideal partners for each other.
Recently, my father called me **, and his tone was a little hesitant: "Son, your mother has not been in good health recently. I thought about it, should I move in with you?
Anyway, your house is big, and there's an empty room. We can help with housekeeping, cooking, and taking care of your life. What do you think?I was a little embarrassed and whispered, "Dad, this, I need to discuss this with Lili, she may feel that she needs some personal space." ”
My father said in ** that he and his mother would like to be closer to us because they are not in good health right now. Hearing the news, I was a little annoyed, and after hanging up, Lili asked me with concern what happened.
I explained that my father offered to move in with us in order to take care of our lives. I told him first that I wanted to discuss it with Lili. Hearing the news, Lili immediately frowned, saying that the couple living in our house may make our private space small, and if we quarrel, we may need to endure a little.
I tried to convince Lili that our parents were older and not in the same physical condition as they used to be. Perhaps we could consider having them move in with us, after all, their care and support for us was unparalleled.
But Lili is obviously not interested in this, she thinks that the difference in life Xi will cause us a lot of stress, and the house is our own down payment, they have helped us a lot, there should be no other requirements.
I tried to convince Lili, but she had clearly decided, and she turned around and went to the kitchen to cook, leaving me alone on the couch, very upset. I understand Lili's point, after all, this is her home.
But I also have a responsibility to my parents, who were so nice to me, and now the body is declining again. And they did fund the house, and I was a little guilty.
When my mother called, she said in a cautious tone: "Son, have you considered your father's advice?"We just want to be close to you so that if something happens, someone can take care of you. ”
Feeling a little embarrassed, I replied, "Mom, Lili and I are still discussing this, and it may take some time for her to come to terms with this fact." "After hanging up, I felt a mess in my heart.
I can understand Lili's concerns, and I can understand my parents' thoughts. Although they financed our house, moving in with us did have an impact on both sides.
My dear, I understand your thoughts. But my parents are indeed old and not as healthy as before, and they hope to spend more time with us. Why don't we let them move here for the time being, and if they really can't get along, we'll think of other ways?"I cautiously made this suggestion to Lili.
Then try again. Although Lili was very upset when she heard this, she didn't say anything.
After two months, the parents' condition did not improve, and they expressed their desire to be able to live with us for a long time. Lili was adamantly opposed this time, insisting that they had to find other places to live on their own.
I was very embarrassed and my parents were very sad. The three of us were at a stalemate, and the atmosphere became very tense. I approached Lili and said to her sincerely, "They are my parents, and now that they are aging, we have a responsibility to take care of them."
Do you have any ideas?"I respect them, but as a hostess, I also have my own way of life. Have you ever considered my feelings?”
Lili fell silent and I continued, "I understand that as a hostess, maintaining your own living space and Xi is a legitimate need. But our parents have also made great contributions and sacrifices for us, and we should also repay virtue with virtue. ”
Don't worry, I totally understand. I quickly reassured, "We can start by designing the parents' rooms individually to make sure they have their own space;."We install another bathroom to reduce the trouble of queuing to use;In response to my dad's snoring problem, I ordered an anti-snoring device in the hope of improving the situation.
I will communicate with my parents again and try to reduce the inconsistencies in my life. Do you think these methods work?Lili pondered for a while and nodded: "These ideas are good, try them, I hope to gradually find a balance for everyone to get along."
As long as we can be considerate and tolerant of each other and communicate more, I think we can still become a harmonious family in the end. "I was extremely relieved to hear Lili say that.
We discussed and raised these opinions with our parents, who were understanding and cooperative. After a period of running-in, everyone finally found the rhythm of getting along.
My parents have our own space to move around, and Lili and I have retained our two-person world. My parents started to go back to their hometown for a few days a week, so that we could all have some freedom.
In this way, in mutual understanding and tolerance, we slowly survived the most difficult period and became a harmonious and warm family. When I saw that my parents were getting better and full of energy, I was very relieved that we had made the right choice.
Lili is also much more relaxed, and often smiles when chatting with her parents. I often reflect on myself that understanding, tolerance and compromise are the cornerstones of all relationships in life.
Everyone has their own difficulties, as long as you feel the thoughts of the people around you, most of the conflicts can be resolved. ”
I hurriedly waved my hand and said no, "Dad, Mom, you can keep your own house, that is your savings and retirement security." We have already received a lot of help from you in buying a house, and we can no longer take up your resources.
The father insisted: "Son, you and Lili have just gotten married, and the financial pressure is high, and we will be relieved if you sell us the old house." Anyway, when we get old, you'll take us over to live, and you won't let their parents be wronged, right?”
I'm a little struggling, and to be honest, the extra money can really ease the stress on our mortgage. But my parents' retirement also needs to be taken into account, and I can't accept that they are in trouble because of this.
Lili continued: "Dad, I understand your kindness, but we have already made you worry too much about buying a house. Your retirement life also needs to be considered, this house can't be sold, you keep it well, and let me know if you need anything in the future. ”
My father was a little disappointed, and my mother advised him: "Wife, my daughter is right, we have a sense of security in keeping the house." Their young couple has just begun, and the days are still long, and they understand things and will not ignore us. ”
I quickly answered: "Mom is absolutely right. Keep your own house, and if you need anything, just ask us, and we will take care of you and will never let you suffer.
Please rest assured!After hearing this, my father thought about it and finally nodded and said, "That's okay, listen to you, I'll keep the house for the time being." You young people have to think about it yourself, and your body is the most important thing. ”
Lili and I breathed a sigh of relief, and we both assured our parents that they could rest assured that we would take care of their food and daily life during the month. The retirement of parents must also be taken into account.
This little thing made me see Lili's carefulness and maturity. She thinks not only about our family, but also for my parents. I am sincerely grateful to Lili for her understanding and tolerance.
At the same time, it is also noted that in the new life, we must learn to live independently and not rely too much on our parents. After these run-ins, we finally found the balance of getting along and became a harmonious family.
I have also grown a lot in the process, and I have a more mature and stable view of life and relationships. This is an unforgettable memory in our new life. In this way, the days passed peacefully, and our family of four gradually found the rhythm of life.
When Lili and I are busy, we also spend time with our parents and go out for a walk on weekends. The physical condition of the parents is also getting better and better, and they often laugh and say that they want to live a long life and witness our children start a family.
I sat on the edge of the bed, holding my father's hand, his eyes full of strength and determination. I told him, "Dad, I have found the best doctors, and they will do their best to ** your illness and will never put you in any danger." ”
The father smiled slightly and said calmly: "Child, life is like this, there is life and there is old age, there is old age and there is illness, and there is illness and death. I'll be fine, you don't have to worry too much. ”
I couldn't hold back my tears and choked up and said, "No, Dad, you're going to get better!".Our family will be together forever!"I couldn't stop crying, and my father looked at me with love and care in his eyes.
At this time, Lili also rushed to the hospital, holding her father's hand tightly, tears wetting the sheets.
After the successful operation, the whole family waited nervously outside the ward, and the father was sent back to the intensive care unit for further observation. We took turns staying at the bedside and praying silently. Lili's eyes were red and swollen, which made me feel very distressed.
Finally, a month later, my father's condition improved. After another examination, the doctor said that the tumor may have been controlled and my father was recovering well. My mother was ecstatic, and Lili and I were relieved, smiling at each other.
I shook Lili's hand and said to her sincerely, "Honey, this time has been difficult, but with your company and support, I can persevere." You not only take care of my parents, but you also care for me at all times and make me feel your kindness and tolerance.
I'm so lucky to have a wife like you. Lili looked at me tenderly, with tears in her eyes, and nodded softly.
This father's illness made the couple deeply experience the ups and downs of life, and also knew and cherished each other more deeply. In the midst of difficulties and pains, we united as one and became the most solid backing for each other.
At the same time, I also understood that one day our parents will leave us, and we must learn to be independent and take on the burden of the family. Thanks to our parents for giving us such a wonderful start in life, we will definitely protect this warm home and go through the ups and downs of life together.
After my father's condition improved, Lili and I decided to transfer him to a general ward to continue**. Every day after work, we would go to the hospital to chat with my father, share interesting things about the day, and bring some of his favorite foods.
My father's mood is also getting better and better, and he often laughs and jokes with us. One day, my father suddenly said, "Son, it is really a blessing for you and Lili that I can live until now."
I may not have much time left, and you must have a good time for the rest of the day. I held my father's hand tightly, tears in my eyes, "Dad, you will definitely **, we still have a lot of time to spend together in the future." ”
Beside us, my father slowly closed his eyes. Lili and I burst into tears, holding our father's hand and being silent for a long time. Finally, my father left us, my mother cried bitterly, and although Lili and I were mentally prepared, we still couldn't accept this cruel reality.
We returned to our hometown with my father's ashes and had a simple and solemn funeral. Mom couldn't cry anymore, I hugged her softly and whispered in her ear: "Mom, you must take care of your body, we will always be by your side." ”
Walking out of the funeral home, I led Lili and her mother to walk slowly, looking into the distance. At this moment, I suddenly felt the weight of life, and the fragility of life made me feel extremely frightened.
Lili quietly held my hand, which brought me infinite strength.
I understand that the death of my father has caused a lot of stress for us as a couple and has increased our family responsibilities. From now on, we will take on the responsibility of taking care of our mother's life and making her feel the warmth of the family.
Luckily, we have each other and don't feel lonely on the road of life. I trust Lili and I believe in our future. The death of my father had a profound impact on our family.
Mom became silent and burst into tears all day. Lili and I did our best to be there for her, but her knots were still hard to heal. One day, my mother suddenly said to me, "Son, your father is gone, and now I am so lonely by myself."
When you have children, you will understand what it is like to be a parent. You must come home and see me often. ”
Holding Mom's hand, I said firmly, "Mom, I know you miss Dad so much now and feel very lonely. I will come back often to accompany you and will not make you feel lonely.
Rest assured. Mom nodded slowly, tears streaming down her cheeks again. Lili gently wiped away her tears and said softly, "Mom, with us with you, you won't feel lonely."
We are your family. "I am very grateful to Lili for these words, which gave my mother a great relief. Since then, we've spent as much time as possible with our mom, taking her out for a walk and eating her favorite foods.
Mom's mood may have eased a bit. However, as time went on, my mom started to offer to move in with us. I looked very embarrassed, and Lili immediately said, "Mom, we will come back to see you often, and it is better for you to live in a familiar environment."
Moving is inconvenient for your age. I also quickly echoed: "Yes, Mom, Lili and I will come to see you often, you can live here, so many years of memories, don't leave easily."
Mother's face immediately became ugly, and she choked up and said, "I only have two relatives left, you husband and wife, don't you even want me, a hard-working old mother?"”
Lili and I both panicked and hurriedly coaxed our mother. This incident became a new point of conflict between us husband and wife. I understand my mother's loneliness, but moving in with us is bound to have a big impact on us.
Mom has lost her dad, and now we have to push her away again"Lili and I argued. "But we just got married and needed our own lives, and we couldn't afford such a responsibility. ”
Lili was also very embarrassed. My husband and I discussed this issue repeatedly, but we were never able to reach an agreement. This also creates a certain distance between us.
I was worried about it that day, and Lili suddenly said to me, "Honey, let's calm down and think about it, my mother needs love very much now, and we have the responsibility to take care of her feelings."
As a son, you don't want your mother to be lonely, do you?I nodded, and Lili said, "Then we'll give in for the time being and let my mother move in with us." We were able to rearrange the room and give mom her own space.
We love her and will definitely be able to overcome difficulties and give her warmth. What do you say?"I'm ecstatic, this is my beloved Lili, always so understanding. I hugged Lili with emotion, and we regained our understanding.
Love overcomes all obstacles, and we don't make mom feel lonely!