Everyone'sIn loveThere are different steps and progressions in the process, some focus on feeling, others on reason. In particular, there are different perceptions and trade-offs when it comes to deciding on issues such as relationship affirmation, intimacy, or having a relationship. This article will introduce a girl inIn loveAn involuntary intimate encounter in the process caused regret and confusion. Through this story, we can think about the importance of will and respect in intimate relationships.
The girl has always insisted on her willingness to maintain intimate contact, but her boyfriend often tests her and tries to change her mind. Under the soft grinding and hard bubble of her boyfriend, the girl had a relationship after losing her psychological preparation, and regretted it deeply. Although the boyfriend apologized and promised not to force her to do anything she didn't want to do in the future, the girl still felt that her boyfriend didn't really care about her feelings. Although the girl understands that she likes her boyfriend, does not reject physical contact, and in fact expects intimacy, she feels uncomfortable and confused about it when she is not mentally prepared for it, feeling that her boyfriend is unilaterally pushing progress and undermining her principles.
Such a sexual experience, even if it is not through violent control and coercion of the girl, is the boyfriend using his status power to make demands. The boyfriend tries to convince his girlfriend for various reasons that it is the girl's duty to meet her boyfriend's needs;Coupled with soft grinding and hard bubbles, promises and promises, overwhelmingly convince the girl when she relaxes her guard. This is especially common among young girls, who tend to make hasty decisions when they hear sweet words from their boyfriends. This is how there are people around me who spend the first time, although they do not see sexual experiences as precious and undeliverable, but the first time does not leave good memories, but is full of grievances and remorse.
For adults, sex itself is good, and the development of a relationship should be the result of the natural desires of both parties. If both parties agree, it is natural to confirm the relationship and have a relationship. As I got older, I learned that it was a shame to be embarrassed to refuse. No matter where we go, we should listen to our inner voice. If we really don't want to, girls should learn to say no;If the first feels uncomfortable, we should stick to the principle. Otherwise, whenever we think about it in the future, we will feel sick and regretful. Because just giving in because your boyfriend is soft and hard will bring a lot of bad consequences to yourself.
A male friend of mine said that he would deliberately slow down the pace of a girl he liked for fear of making a bad impression on her. Of course, everyone's situation is different, and I can understand the boys who take the initiative to make progress in the relationship. After all, young people all have some sexual urges, and it's normal to crave intimacy with someone they like. However, it is not possible to make demands or demands solely on the basis of the identity of the other party, or to do so on various grounds such as insecurityMoral kidnapping。Everyone has their own rhythm, and when we like someone, we should respect the other person's wishes, and the person who really cares about you not only cares about their own comfort, but also about your feelings.