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Wu Qianyu married Shi Boxiong, the third generation of the rich, which sparked heated discussions. Shi Boxiong said that when the news of their love affair was announced, his father firmly told him that he would never agree to Wu Qianyu entering the Shi family.
But now the family thinks that Wu Qianyu is a very independent and excellent girl, and they are very blessed with them. Netizens are curious, how did Wu Qianyu, who has average family conditions, low education, and a bad reputation, do it?
I read a lot of her reports and interviews and found that she has a quality that all women should learn fromNever emotionally labor
Ex-boyfriend Lin Feng once said in an interview that he really loves a thousand words. **It is also often reported that Lin Feng bought a luxury house and a luxury car for Wu Qianyu, so Lin Feng was branded as an affectionate and rich person, while 19-year-old Wu Qianyu was branded as a woman.
After the two broke up, Lin Feng contemplated that he was PUA by Wu Qianyu on the show, which caused Wu Qianyu's reputation to fall into the abyss. But later a reporter said that when he was with Zhang Xinyue, he had not broken up with Wu Qianyu.
For a while, Lin Feng's split became hot news, but at this time, Wu Qianyu took the initiative to clarify for Lin Feng regardless of his previous suspicions, Zhang Xinyue was not a third party, she was not hurt, and she had never met a scumbag.
After being with Shi Boxiong, the Hong Kong media's report on Wu Qianyu's "fishing for girls" was even more serious, saying that she picked a rich son, and she never responded to this.
In order to defend her, Shi Boxiong confessed to her on social platforms, saying that Wu Qianyu is the most respected person in his life, and taught him how to strive for self-improvement, don't let the opinions of passers-by interfere with his respect for himself, and live his life with a happy and cheerful attitude.
This time on the variety show, Wu Qianyu also said bluntly that she doesn't care what others think of her, she only cares about how she lives. She is not with Lin Feng for money, nor is she with Shi Boxiong for money, she really loves Lin Feng and Shi Boxiong.
Also, she can talk about the management of property after marriage in front of Shi Boxiong on the show, and no matter how successful Shi Boxiong's career is and how rich the family is, she must take care of the baby with her, otherwise she will not have to talk about having a baby.
Netizens feel that her strength is really not pretended。Turning over her social platform, she actively decorates the house, shares food, works and studies enthusiastically, and always shows her most confident side in front of everyone. This sister really lives a positive life and rarely works emotionally.
Emotional laborThe term was first proposed by the American sociologist Hochschild in 1983, in addition to physical and mental labor, there is a third kind, emotional labor. When the emotional labor you put in is different from the emotions that the outside world demands on you, there will be pressure, and in the long run, you will feel tired and fall into huge consumption.
Wu Qianyu has also said it more than onceToo much sensitivity is a senseless self-depletion。Lin Daiyu in "Dream of Red Mansions" is a person who takes emotional labor to the extreme. Once she was resting in the house, she suddenly heard someone outside shouting: You little hooves, what are you?Running around in this courtyard all day long!
When Lin Daiyu heard such words, she sat down, thinking that the other party was saying that she should not stay in Jiafu, the more she thought about it, the more angry she became, and she actually cried until she had no strength and fainted. But in fact, others are not talking about her at all, and they are teaching their granddaughter to be too naughty.
The face is thick and deaf, he is not tired of living, he is in his heart for everything, and he is living to suffer。In fact, emotional labor has developed to this day, and I have also observed in women that it is not only tantrums and sensitivity, but also includes paying close attention to various information and planning a lot of things in advance, which often falls on the mother of a family, knowing what is in **, who needs what, grocery lists, family budgets, family activity arrangements, etc.
American writer Gemma Hartley, in the book "Women Are Not Nagging, We're Just Fed Up", usedEmotional laborThe term is used to describe the emotional value provided by caring for those around you, as well as the emotional exertion that arises from work and household chores.
Hartley saidBehind those moments of collapse in the family are emotional labor that is not taken seriously
That's why I advocate that women need to live a little more selfishly. Like Wu Qianyu, always put your own needs and feelings first, return to the self-focused value proposition, and tell yourself that the essence of any relationship is to get self-growth, and don't wronged yourself because you are afraid that others will be unhappy.
In fact, a very cruel truth in this world is that the less we care about others and the more we care about ourselves, the more we can control the initiative in life.
The future is not timed, go all out, and pursue results;When the dust settles, accept any result calmly, work less emotionally, and live a happier life.
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