The wife and the father must die one, and the woman will settle it in one sentence, and it has since become an idiom
History is a mirror of life, and life is the reproduction of history. What may seem like a contemporary dilemma has a striking resemblance across a long history. In an old story, a woman once faced the dilemma of losing two loved ones and had to make a choice.
She did not hesitate, but followed her mother's wise guidance and made a wise choice. This story has been passed down for thousands of years, and the wisdom behind it has been enshrined as a classic and has become a famous aphorism that has influenced people's lives and thoughts. Because of this, the stories and riddles of history and real life are worth thinking about.
During the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, Zheng Guo's eldest master Zizhong can be said to be a clear stream in the palace, he does not break the law and is loyal to Zheng Guo. However, such a clear stream usually incurs the wrath of the enemy, and Zizhong is no exception. Although he won the trust of Zhuang Gong and the love of the people, he also made many enemies.
Zizhong's daughter Yongji was born in a famous family, talented and beautiful, and finally married Yongjie, the son of the Yong family. Yongji and Yongtang respect each other like guests and live happily, but Yongji is facing one"Dilemma", forcing her to think: both her father and husband are here to save people, how should she choose?
For Yongzhi, this dilemma is unique. For Ruizhong, however, such a dilemma is common. As a man of integrity, he was often tested, but he always stood up to his beliefs and never compromised.
Such stories are not uncommon, on the contrary, they can be found everywhere. There are many similarities between history and reality. Whether it's a choice in the face of a difficult problem or a test of loyalty and integrity, we need to experience it from the heart.
Yongqi secretly hid behind the curtain and heard someone say bad things about Jae Joong, as if he was going to kill him. She was so shocked that she couldn't believe her ears.
She thought that her husband would support and protect her father, but she didn't expect him to be so insensitive. Yong Ji had mixed feelings in her heart, and the image of a father appeared in her mind, why was he treated so cruelly after dedicating himself to Zheng Guo for so many years?
He knew that this matter was not trivial, but he didn't know what to do. Her heart was in turmoil, on the one hand she loved her husband, and on the other hand she loved her father even more. She had a lot of thoughts, and she didn't know what to do.
Jae Zhong is a loyal minister who works hard for Zheng Guo's worries, but he is not welcomed in the palace. However, as a close confidant of the king, he was expected to respect justice and not make grudges with loyal subjects.
But the reality is quite the opposite. When Zheng Zhuang Gong was alive, he issued an edict to let the crown prince succeed to the throne after his death. However, when the holy decree was read after the death of Duke Zhuang, he was threatened by Song Xianggong and King Zheng Li, and could only pass the throne to Gongzi Gao, the son of Song Xianggong.
After King Zheng Li ascended the throne, he was worried that Yongkao would expose Zai Zhong's illegal behavior, so he decided to send him to extinguish him. In order to gain the trust of King Zheng Li, Yongkao decided to share the worries of King Zheng Li and promised to send someone to kill Zai Zhong together.
Yong Ji didn't know anything about it, she just didn't understand why her husband hated her father-in-law so much. She was so overwhelmed by all of this that she didn't know what to do.
The three outlines and five constants are the most basic moral norms of feudal society, and"Filial piety"It is considered the most important of them all, so it is natural for a woman to be filial to her parents. For Yongji, her father and husband are relatives, and this dilemma makes her work very difficult.
Despite her low status in the family, she believes that her mother is the only one who can give her advice. Therefore, Yongji decided to go to her mother, hoping to get some effective advice to help her get out of her predicament. However, he also realized that his mother was just a woman and couldn't come up with ideas on her own, but he still had to give it a try.
His mother's concise words made Yongji have an epiphany about the true meaning of life.
There are two key points in this statement: the first is"Anyone can be a husband", the second is"There is only one father"。
Everyone can be a husband"The original intention was to court women, but in fact, in ancient societies where men were superior to women, women's status was generally lower, and they were more constrained and restricted. Therefore, the term can also be interpreted to emphasize the autonomy of women, who should have the right to decide their own lives and loves.
On the other hand,"Only the Father and the Father"The value and indispensability of family affection are emphasized. In ancient societies, the concept of family was very important, and the relationship between family members was very close. So paternal love is irreplaceable.
However, in the era in which Nagayoshi lived, women's lives often depended on men, with fathers and husbands being the most important male relationships. Nagayoshi's mother's words made him realize the preciousness of life and love, as well as the powerlessness and limitations of women in feudal society. At the same time, it also made her realize her trust and importance to Zai Zhong, and made her better understand King Zheng Li's achievements in governing the country and the importance he attaches to Zai Zhong.
King Zheng Li felt very uncomfortable because he felt that he was nothing and could be destroyed by the powerful Zai Zhong at any time. Moreover, Jae Joong is brutal and aggressive by nature, and he always does not like the eye.
King Zheng Li wanted to get rid of Zai Zhong, a powerful minister, but it was not easy to get rid of him, because he was the pillar of Zheng Guo and was always on guard against the enemies around him.
If his relatives were able to do this, though, the situation would have been different. In order to achieve his goal, King Zheng Li gathered intelligence, used his wisdom, and finally bought off Jae Zhong's son-in-law, Yonggao. Yonggao succumbed to money and power. He eventually killed Nakacao and transported Nakacao's body to the place of sacrifice.
With tears in his eyes, he didn't know how to choose. In the face of power and status, he had to make difficult choices. He knelt down in front of his mother and asked"Mother, if I had to make a decision, should I save my husband, or should I save my father?
The mother patiently listened to her daughter's distress and gave wise advice"Daughter, your husband can change his mind, but your father never. Your father is your flesh and blood, and you must protect him.
Deeply moved by his mother's words, Yongji decided to protect his father and told Joongsai about it behind her husband's back. The victim, Nakaji, decided to avenge the Eihime family, killed Eitaka and threw his body into the stomach of the Emperor.
Zhong's revenge shocked the entire Zheng Kingdom, and King Zheng Li went into hiding for more than a decade for fear of Zhong's revenge.
Some people may think that Yongji is doing the right thing, after all, she is protecting her relatives and maintaining the honor of the family. Moreover, to make a woman choose between her father and her husband is a cruel request in itself. Moreover, as a woman, Yong Ji did not have much say in the society at that time, and even if she gave Yong Qiao advice, she might not be able to help much. Therefore, she can only use what little compassion she has to protect her father.
However, some people think that Yongqi's approach is a bit extreme. She could have appeased her husband with warmth and reason, after all, marriage should be based on mutual respect and trust. If she had shown true tolerance and thoughtfulness, perhaps this tragedy could have been avoided. On the contrary, perseverance and sacrifice plunged him and his family into greater pain. Therefore, we should learn from Yongji's story and be reasonable in our interpersonal interactions, not too extreme and impulsive.