Question 1: How to build a partnership from dissatisfaction to appreciation?
Answer 1: In a relationship or marriage, a person should manage their emotions, understand and accept their partner's choices, show their true self, solve problems in a rational way, and at the same time be good at controlling emotions, maintaining boundaries and caring for each other's feelings.
Question 2: Why can't a partnership be measured only by external criteria?
Answer 2: Everyone is unique, with strengths and weaknesses, so the merits of a partnership cannot be measured solely by external criteria.
Question 3: Is someone else's partner perfect?
A3: No, someone else's partner is not perfect, they may just not show their true side, or because we only see them in public or show their good side.
Question 4: What can feelings of pickiness and disgust lead to?
Answer 4: Feelings of pickiness and disgust can lead to relationship breakdown.
Question 5: What are the possible reasons for being disliked?
Answer 5: The reasons for being disliked may include not being good enough, lack of assertiveness, irresponsibility, lack of diligence, etc.
Question 6: How should we treat our partner's strengths and weaknesses?
Answer 6: We should learn to appreciate the strengths of our partner while also recognizing that everyone (including ourselves) has strengths and weaknesses.
Question 7: Who can I communicate with if I am going through a similar situation?
Answer 7: If you are going through a similar situation, you can communicate with Uncle Murphy.
Question 8: Do other people's partners have any problems and troubles in private?
A8: Yes, in private, they also have problems and troubles, but we have not seen them.
Question 9: How do you avoid a relationship breakdown due to critical and disgusting emotions?
A9: We need to recognize that everyone (including ourselves) has strengths and weaknesses, learn to appreciate the strengths of our partner, and solve problems in a rational way.
Question 10: How to earn your partner's approval and respect?
Answer 10: One should show one's true self and solve problems in a rational way, while being good at controlling emotions, maintaining boundaries and caring for the other person's feelings. 