In the work "Mansion Gate", Bai Yuting is undoubtedly a different character. When the second grandmother was pregnant with her, she ran around to revitalize the Baicao Hall and finally gave birth to her in a hurry in the carriage.
In her gradual maturity stage, the Bai family's economic situation was already quite prosperous. It is no exaggeration to say that her entire process from birth to growth is closely linked to the revival of the Bai family.
Bai Yuting is really lucky, she not only lives a wealthy life, but also has a pair of parents who are different. Her father was full of love, while her mother was intelligent and capable, and she had an older brother who was extremely doting and tolerant of her.
Despite this, she chose to spend the rest of her life alone and lost everything in her later years.
She loves Wan Xiaoju affectionately, but she can't get her love, and can only rely on a ** to spend the rest of her life. She is an ordinary rural woman, her husband is a retired engineer, and her son is a college graduate. She thought that adopting a son would provide security for the rest of her life, but she did not expect that her son would take all her possessions and abandon her.
When she was dying, her brother Bai Jingqi was the only person who accompanied her, which made her feel a trace of sadness in her old age.
However, we don't actually feel sympathy for Bai Yuting!
1.A woman who knows how to give for herself and does not depend on the mercy of others.
Bai Yuting had a soft spot for Wan Xiaoju's drama when she was a teenager, and when she became an adult, her love for Wan Xiaoju was even more indescribable. Whenever she listened to a theatrical performance, she always hugged the jewelry box tightly and sat in the front seat. Whenever she heard a touching moment, she would burst into tears, and then she did not hesitate to scatter her jewelry on the stage, while calling "Wan Xiaoju" affectionately.
She developed a deep affection for Wan Xiaoju, summoned up the courage to go backstage to look for him, and took him into her bedroom, boldly expressing her feelings to him. "I know you're in love with him. He replied with a smile. Wan Xiaoju was frightened by Bai Jingqi's behavior and hurriedly fled the scene, on the way she met Bai Jingqi and said to him: "I'm really ashamed, I don't dare to do this!."”
Although Wan Xiaoju was famous in that era, as an actor with a low social status, how could she match the daughter in everyone's mind?Her parents were ordinary farmers. What's more, he already has a family of his own, and his children are all adults.
Despite this, Bai Yuting still has deep feelings for Wan Xiaoju. She dreams of having a child with Wan Xiaoju and enjoying a happy life. In order to realize her wish, she pleaded with her brother Bai Jingqi, hoping that Bai Jingqi could help her propose marriage to Wan Xiaoju.
Unfortunately, Wan Xiaoju refused to accept the marriage.
Bai Yuting is more willing to be Wan Xiaoju's aunt's wife, and even willing to be her maid, as long as she can be by his side. She felt that she was a happy woman, and in front of him, she could show herself to her heart's content without any scruples. Despite her low status, she received a cold rejection from the other party.
It's really a shame and a desperate thing to do!If the blame is passed on to someone else, they may have already paid the price for their emotions.
Although Bai Yuting knows how to satisfy her own woman, it doesn't matter if there is no reply from Wan Xiaoju, true love belongs to her alone. Therefore, she asked Bai Jingqi to hold a grand wedding ceremony for her and showed her ** marriage to Wan Xiaoju.
For outsiders, this is undoubtedly a huge joke, and only those with mental problems will choose to marry a **. Fortunately, Bai Jingqi was able to understand her feelings, tolerate her, and give her support.
She fulfilled her deepest wish and found a kind of spiritual solace for her "love" in terms of feelings;In life, she allows her "love" and "love" to merge and complement each other. In the atmosphere of the ceremony, she gave a serious response to her deep "infatuation".
She has a deep understanding of her heart and knows what she is really after. In the face of the eyes of the outside world, she is undaunted and courageously pursues her dreams without harming others. She knows how to meet her own needs, such a woman is really rare, and she doesn't need the sympathy and pity of others at all
2.Be sober in the face of the subtleties of feelings, not violating the moral standards of others, but also tolerate the flaws in your own human nature.
Bai Yuting has been guarding Wan Xiaoju's ** for many years. Until one day, Wan Xiaoju was hunted down for refusing to perform for the Japanese, and with the assistance of Bai Jingqi, she came to her home to seek refuge.
That night, Wan Xiaoju witnessed the chrysanthemums blooming in the room and felt both shocked and deeply moved. She didn't know why he liked chrysanthemums so much on this cold and lonely night. All his chrysanthemums are just to echo the word "chrysanthemum" in his name. She was a good friend of his, one of his favorites. He never expected Bai Yuting to cherish him so much, tears rolled down, and he held Bai Yuting's hands tightly.
However, at that particular moment, Bai Yuting suddenly became very conscious and quickly left the scene.
Bai Jingqi is full of curiosity, and although it is possible to fulfill her wish, she chooses to run away at a critical moment and decides to return to her maiden home.
Regarding this matter, Bai Yuting said: "I married that **. ”
That's right, she married that **. When she stared at the **, the perfect image of Wan Xiaoju came to her mind. But when she really saw the person she had in mind, she suddenly realized that what she loved was just an illusion. The real Wan Xiaoju is not as glamorous as she is on stage, she can become old, vulnerable, emotional, dependent on others, or in trouble.
In the face of such Wan Xiaoju, she felt unable to cope. Perhaps at that particular moment, she realized that her affection was not as innocent and beautiful as she imagined, on the contrary, she showed some flaws in human nature: she only admired the perfection of the other person, but it was difficult to accept that the person she loved was actually just an ordinary person.
When Bai Yuting faced her inner dishonesty, she did not choose to brace or resist uselessly, but chose to calmly face her shortcomings. She knows how small she is, and how many people can understand her pain and helplessnessShe made the decision to leave in her sobriety.
Therefore, for the long years to come, she still has the opportunity to maintain an idealized fantasy and find a space for her psyche to rest, otherwise the rest of her life will be reduced to an unsightly ruin.
Such a decision, although it may seem like escapism and deception, is actually very wise. Because, she knew she shouldn't do it. She knew what she was really looking for at the moment, and if that deep infatuation eventually turned into regret and disgust, it would be better to keep that distant expectation at all times.
From another point of view, she knew that if Wan Xiaoju really had an intimate relationship with her, it would not be because of her deep affection for her, but because of the emotion at that moment, which might make her deeply regret it afterwards.
What she pursues is sincere love, that kind of bright and upright feeling, Wan Xiaoju can't give. She is a very traditional woman, a principled person, and she doesn't like to be called a principled woman. She didn't want to take advantage of the situation, let alone destroy Wan Xiaoju's moral bottom line and ruin his life's openness, which was respect for herself and Wan Xiaoju.
From this point of view, Bai Yuting's understanding of feelings is not vague, on the contrary, she sees it very thoroughly. This is not only because she has a kind and gentle heart, but also because she has a firm and persistent pursuit. Her insight into subtle emotions, insight and tolerance of human nature, respect for Wan Xiaoju, and the perfect realization of herself are all admirable.
She deserves more respect than sympathy.
3.A woman who cannot be loved, who is actually surrounded by love all the time, is not pitiful, but lucky.
Subsequently, Wan Xiaoju was assassinated by the Japanese. Despite this, Bai Yuting still guards his **, and the chrysanthemums in the room are still full.
Although Bai Yuting's hair has turned white and the lights have been extinguished, she is still immersed in Wan Xiaoju's **. It was a time full of warmth and dreams. However, at that particular moment, she expressed a trace of doubt and a trace of regret to Bai Jingqi:
Brother, I'm leaving. During this time, I have been thinking, what have I been doing all my life?I have only done one thing in my life, and that is to marry Wan Xiaoju's ** and spend my life with **. ”
Bai Jingqi comforted her and said: "In this life of life, as long as you do something you really want to do and successfully complete it, then life will not be in vain." ”
Bai Yuting again said that her step-son took all her property, leaving her with nothing.
Bai Jingqi reassured again: "These are all things from the outside world, you came to this world with the breath of a fairy, once you close your eyes, the surroundings become empty." ”
Bai Yuting sat up with all her might, began to sing Wan Xiaoju's play, and finally collapsed in Bai Jingqi's arms.
In her life, she never really experienced love, had no partner and no children of her own, but she was still a lucky person who, as she said, had a good older brother.
Although Bai Jingqi is not a competent husband or father, he has to face the fact that he is a flawless older brother.
Although Bai Yuting may seem a little strange and abnormal in the eyes of everyone, he has always been able to give her understanding, tolerance and support. She is the pearl of his palm, his immediate boss, and his good friend and colleague. His love and protection of Bai Yuting lasted her whole life, and until the last moment of her life, he gently comforted her and did not let her leave with any regrets and regrets.
Bai Yuting is really lucky to be able to get such deep love!
If Bai Yuting had the opportunity to look down on the world from heaven and look back on her entire life, she might realize that she was one of the very few people who felt happy.
After all, throughout her life, she lived a life of abundance, freedom and fulfillment: in her youth she loved affectionately and bravely fulfilled her dreams;When you are old, love calmly and do not care about gains and losses.
In the middle stages of life, we should calmly stop and avoid entanglement and regret;When she was young, her love was so sweet and warm. But then, she chose to commit suicide. In her later years, despite the loneliness she felt, she was still by the side of the person who loved her dearly, giving her ultimate comfort and recognition.
In her life, she found the perfect ending in regret!