There is a lot of parent-child educationTragedy againAuthorReminds me of the story of a poet on death row. This happened in JapanyearsmonthThe death row prisoner was called Shima Qiuren, and he only began to write poems while on death row, and after the execution, the poems were compiled into a "Collection of Lost Love".
He has been recognized by his parents and school since he was a childThere is no talentThe grades were the worst in the class. Because he was not good at studying, he was often treated coldly by his father and ostracized by his classmates, and in order to avoid his father's beating and scolding and teachers' criticism, he hid in the grass and behind rocks all day long.
**After the personality gradually became obedient, sometimes fighting, stealing, and finally inWhen he was young, he was imprisoned for stealing and killing a woman.
He didn't get a single encouragement or praise from his parents when he was a child, and only once, when his art teacher said in publicYour drawings are clumsy, but the composition is good!He still reminisced about that praise while in prison, and later through correspondence, his teacher encouraged him to write poems, so that Shima Akito could discover his talents and his soul would be resurrected from the dead.
by the aboveofIt is not difficult to see how important it is for a child to grow up, if parents and teachers are good at helping him discover his interests, and to guide, encourage and praise him in time!Especially when you've already discovered his unique interest, why kill it?There is a famous saying that interest is the best teacher. Only when a person is truly interested in a certain thing or profession can a spark of creativity burst out.
Confucius said a long time ago: Those who know are not as good as those who are good, and those who know well are not happy. Strong interest,OnlyIt will make people happy. Entomologist ActClothIn order to observe small creatures such as beetles, they can sometimes crawl on the ground for hours. Pavlov is over the age of flowersaI also had to do a dog dissection experiment, and once I did it in a rowWhen he was young, his assistants were so tired that he fainted, but Pavlov was in full interest and tired when he finished it.
Psychologists have shown that interest is often more important than intelligence, and if the interests of the dead girl and the island autumn can be affirmed and praised, they can achieve some success in literature, and maybe really become a writer and poet.
One of the misconceptions of forcible shaping is that parents do not respect their children's physical and psychological characteristics, dominate their children with their parents' will, or have too high expectations for their children. In order to force the child to be admitted to college, he is even allowed to live a non-free halfConfinementlife. Imagine if an adult lives an unhappy lifeLife,It will kill its inspiration, not to mention a teenager, you force him to study all day long, monitor his movements, and do dozens of things that are not allowedLetHe has lost his freedom and imagination, how can he use his strengths and avoid his weaknesses to develop his interests?She has the wisdom of language, but her parents want to forcibly shape her to develop ** wisdom and force her to tutor in mathematics and physicsThe result is bound to backfire
The second misconception of forcible shaping is to replace the children's choice with the will of the parents. The dead junior high school girl has already made a name for herself in literary creation, if you find a writer to tutor her, her future can be limitless, why not force herLearnLearn physics, math, and even pianoDo you have to be admitted to university to be considered successful?As far as the eye can see, millions of college students across the country graduate every yearLeft and right unemployed, even if you graduate and find a job, is that success or success?Let's take a lookyearsThe month of "New Fortune" bar, among themThe rich are at the top of the listnameArroganceSon, there isdidn't go to college, such as Lu Guanqiu, who ranked second, from a poor familyHe dropped out of secondary school at the age of two and worked as an apprentice in a blacksmith shop, a car repair shop and a grain processing factoryYuan entrepreneurship, after the difficult establishment of Wanxiang Group,annual assets100 million yuan, is a representative of the 10th National People's Congress, and has become a powerful business leader.
Huang Guangyu, who ranked third, is the president of Pengrun Group. yearsHe and his brother came to Beijing from their hometown10,000 yuan founded a certain store that operated electrical appliances, and then entered the real estate industry and other diversified development, when the assets100 million yuan.
In fourth place is Chen Lihua, the president of Fuhua Group, who started the furniture business after dropping out of high school due to her poor family background, and her assets have reached by then100 million yuan.
The eighth place is Yang Zhuoshu, president of Hebei Zhuoda Group, assets100 million yuan, born in a family of teachers in Heilongjiang, and later became an oil workeryears old into a newspaper as a reporter,He has become the editor-in-chief, he went to the sea, started a business with tens of thousands of yuan, and then invested in real estate, and now Zhuoda has two private universities in Beijing, and invests in the tourism industry.
Ranked tenth is Shi Zhupei, president of Zhongsheng Group, who has been a train escort for five years. After immigrating to Australia to start a business, his education is inThe highest in the position, but also only the secondary school, his assets are100 million yuan.
These big entrepreneurs not only have hundreds of millions of wealth, but also have made a lot of contributions to the country and the people, donated a lot of money to the society, and solved tens of thousands of problems in the society in terms of disability and hope projectsJustWorkers, unemployed, aren't their careers considered successful?Aren't they brilliant talents?If their parents had also shaped them on a journey and forced them to learn this and that, would they still be where they are today?
It is reported that developed countries such as Japan do not attach importance to academic qualifications, and his enterprise assesses people to see a person's various actual abilities, and academic qualifications are only for reference. They never hire people with high education and low ability, and some of their enterprises even let their employees read and even recite the "Art of War".of parents,It's time for deep reflection and reflection.