Guo Degang once said: "I hate a kind of person who doesn't understand any situation, so he advises you to be generous." You should stay away from such a person, because when lightning strikes him, it will affect you. This sentence is like a sharp knife, pointing directly at people's hearts and triggering deep thought.
Don't measure my measure with your ruler
In this world of complex interpersonal relationships, we always can't avoid interacting with people and intersecting.
And in this process, there will always be some people who, when you suffer grievances and experience pain, will persuade us to be generous and tolerant regardless of the reason.
In and out of the words is a righteous moral kidnapping that overwhelms you and even compromises.
In life, everyone will encounter some bad things, so we can't use our own thinking to ask others to be open-minded and measured, everyone has his own life experience, you are not him, you can never experience the feelings of others.
Again, don't persuade others to be kind without the suffering of others.
Some people are able to let go of hurt and pain easily, while others take longer to heal. This is the difference between people, and it is also the complexity of human nature.
Those who advise you to be generous when you don't understand the situation are just bystanders, not your real friends, so you don't have to pay too much attention to what he says when you meet such a person, and you must reserve your own judgment.
Their words are only to satisfy their own sense of moral superiority. So, for this kind of person, all we have to do is keep our distance.
Tolerance is a virtue
But tolerance is not blind generosity, but understanding and accepting others on the basis of understanding and accepting oneself. What we need is genuine empathy, not simple moral judgment.
So, cherish those who can give you warmth and comfort when you are hurting, they are the ones you can really trust. And for those who don't know the truth and advise you to be generous, keeping your distance is the best choice.
We cherish the people who really understand you, love you and spend the wind and rain with you, and keep a certain distance from those people and things that have hurt you, and don't let them give you innocent harm.
In this dojo of life, each of us is the screenwriter of our own story, please don't let other people's opinions influence your choices. Because in this world, no one knows yourself better than you.
So, trust yourself and trust your feelings and judgment. Only in this way will you be able to go further and more firmly on the road of life.