I wouldn't choose to get married because I feel that marriage can feel restricted, whereas love is free and can be ended at any time if you don't like it.
Eventually, the children and family will become a burden that I cannot bear, so I don't plan to have children.
The famous actor Zhang Lingxin once said this.
Although she is a decisive and independent girl, in the end she chooses not to care about other people's opinions and starts a vigorous teacher-student romance with her own teacher.
What is even more surprising is that she once adhered to the concept of not getting married and not having children, and now she not only chose marriage, but also gave birth to a child for her husband.
So, why did Zhang Lingxin choose to become an unmarried?
Why did she give up her principles and decide to get married after 16 years of love with her teacher?
In 2014, a TV series was released in China, and although the storyline was bland, it touched countless viewers and made them cry, this drama is "Parents' Love".
Although this drama has been released for many years, it can be loved by the audience every time it is rebroadcast, and major TV stations are also taking turns to ** this drama.
Therefore, many people are confused and do not understand why this plot is bland and boring, and lacks novelty, can so firmly attract the attention of the audience.
The reason why "Parental Love" was a big success is actually very simple, it shows a love story that many people envy.
Although there is no exciting story, it is this bland happiness that makes people yearn for it.
An important reason why this drama can be a big success is that all the actors have excellent acting skills.
In addition to Mei Ting, Guo Tao, Liu Lin and many other old drama bones, the play also has a supporting actress, and she has added a lot of highlights to this drama with her wonderful acting skills.
plays An Jie's daughter, Jiang Yafei, is Zhang Lingxin.
She shows a strong ability in the play, she acts decisively, has a full aura, always insists on expressing her opinions, and never easily changes the things she approves.
Her character is not only shown in her performances, but also in her daily life.
Coming from a wealthy family in Shanghai, her parents were intellectuals, and her grandfather was Zhang Fan, a high-profile actor in the forties and fifties, who played roles in such well-known films as "Mother and Son", "Long Live the Wife" and "Nightclub".
Zhang Lingxin grew up in a wealthy family, has a naughty and active personality, and often plays with boys, so she is called a "female man".
When choosing a university, she unexpectedly did not follow her family's advice and gave up the Shanghai Theater Academy in favor of the more distant Beijing Film Academy.
Zhang Lingxin seems to have inherited his grandfather's artistic talent, and it can be said that he was born with artistic cells.
She was effortlessly admitted to Beijing Film Academy, her ideal school, and successfully joined the 96-level Beijing Film Star Class.
During his sophomore year, Zhang Lingxin relied on his talent and hard work, and was later favored by director Zhao Baogang and starred in his own ** work "Never Look Away".
Since then, Zhang Lingxin has started her acting career.
Her acting career was not smooth sailing at first, and after her first work, she then participated in the filming of two TV series, "Urban Beauty" and "Hard to Give Up the Truth".
However, it is a pity that neither of these dramas has attracted the attention of the audience.
Zhang Lingxin, who has been talented since she was a child, began to doubt herself after facing such an encounter, so when she was about to graduate, she did not immediately enter the acting industry, but chose to go abroad for further study.
After Zhang Lingxin returned from school, he lived up to expectations and joined the crew of "Meteor Butterfly Sword". This time, her role as Sun Xiaodie left a deep impression on the audience, and it can be said that the hard work paid off.
In 2006, Zhang Lingxin officially became the heroine and starred in the movie "Ink Youth", thus officially embarking on the road of acting.
For this role, she won the Best Newcomer Award at the American International Film Festival and the Most Popular Actress Award at the 5th Guangzhou University Student Film Festival.
Subsequently, Zhang Lingxin successively starred in a number of popular TV series, including "Parents' Love", "Langya Bang", "The First Half of My Life" and "Elite Lawyer".
However, the strange thing is that in addition to the success of his first film and television work, the follow-up dramas filmed by Zhang Lingxin rarely caused a sensation, and even played supporting roles.
She reached her peak as soon as she debuted, and although she was once popular on the big screen, the audience knew very little about herself.
Considering Zhang Lingxin's acting skills and background, generally speaking, how could she not have a role that she could play?
Zhang Lingxin does not value fame, she has a sincere love for her acting career.
She said in an interview: "Nowadays, I don't care much about whether I'm popular or not, I just want to try my best to interpret the role, what I really pursue is to be an actor, not a star." ”
Therefore, many netizens praised his acting skills, believing that he was born an actor, and those so-called stars are beyond their reach.
She is so fresh and refined, and her treatment of love life is naturally different. There have long been rumors that Zhang Lingxin is an unmarried and a Dink.
However, after meeting Hu Yao, she broke the oath she had always kept.
Beijing Film Academy is where Zhang Lingxin and Hu Yaozhi met, and Hu Yaozhi is Zhang Lingxin's mentor.
Despite his modest appearance, Hu Yao made a name for himself at the Beijing Film Academy, where he was revered by students for his strict teaching style.
Therefore, there are many classmates who call him "Hu Dadao", and he is listed as the two "bullies" with Huang Lei.
Back then, Zhang Lingxin happened to be assigned to Hu Yaozhi's class, which was really a coincidence.
At the beginning of the new semester, many students were late. When Hu Yaozhi walked into the class, he saw several students in class, and he was immediately furious.
He immediately summoned all the students who were late to the podium and asked them to line up, and then handed out a handboard to everyone.
After experiencing this incident, Zhang Lingxin felt deep down in her heart that Hu Yaozhi was an unapproachable person, but she didn't expect that in the subsequent relationship, her impression of Hu Yaozhi slowly changed.
In fact, Hu Yao is a person who rewards and punishes clearly, he will not deliberately be biased against a student, nor will he deliberately favor a student. At work, he is strict and serious, but in private he shows a gentle and humorous side.
He was deeply attracted to Zhang Lingxin, so she felt that Hu Yaozhi was very manly. In addition, due to the influence of his grandfather, Zhang Lingxin was not too surprised.
Zhang Lingxin has shown an independent personality since she was a child, and she adheres to the principle of "do it if you like", so she boldly began to pursue Hu Yaozhi.
Although Hu Yao pursued the girl, she was not cold.
He thought that Zhang Lingxin was just a student and didn't know much about feelings, so he rejected her kindness.
However, unexpectedly, Hu Yaozhi didn't expect Zhang Lingxin to be extremely firm in his heart.
In the face of Hu Yaozhi's cold refusal, she not only did not give up, but became more brave and determined.
In her opinion, once you have made up your mind, you have to do it.
Zhang Lingxin followed Hu Yao every day, chatted with him between classes, and often brought him meals and helped him sort things out.
As time passed, Hu Yao was deeply affected by Zhang Lingxin's practice and spirit, so he said to Zhang Lingxin: "Let's give it a try." ”
Hu Yaozhi and Zhang Lingxin were immersed in happy love, starting a long-distance relationship run that lasted for more than 20 years, and Zhang Lingxin also changed because of Hu Yaozhi.
Zhang Lingxin is actually a person who insists on not getting married, she is a natural individual who pursues freedom, and anything that restricts her will make her feel uncomfortable.
She believes that marriage is just a formality, in many cases to meet the expectations of others, and the real norm is love.
Hu Yaozhi deeply understands Zhang Lingxin's thoughts, and he respects Zhang Lingxin very much.
After learning what the other person thinks, he says that he also doesn't like people controlling him, and thinks it's stupid to want to restrain or control a person.
Therefore, the two of them have maintained a relationship for more than ten years, and it was only later that they changed.
After getting along for a long time, Zhang Lingxin has established a very deep trust in this man, and Hu Yaozhi also maintains a dead heart for this lady.
With the passage of time, Hu Yaozhi has reached the age of 36. Not getting married for a long time may become a topic of discussion for others, and both parents will have some opinions about this situation.
Under the influence of various parties, Zhang Lingxin's thoughts about not getting married began to fluctuate, and it was not until 2014 that the two traveled to Japan together and finally decided to get married.
Zhang Lingxin was under the pressure of high-pressure work for a long time, and felt very tired and constrained. So she suggested going out for a while, so the two of them put down their work and came to Japan to recuperate.
They drank wine on the top floor, chatting about work and life at the same time, and gradually the topic turned to the relationship between the two. It was a night.
Hu Yao said to Zhang Lingxin: "I think we are doing quite well in terms of work, life and relationship now, I think it's a good time, if we get married, it may be better for all aspects." ”
After some thought, Zhang Lingxin thinks that this statement seems to have some truth.
After all, the two of them have been together for many years and know each other well, so it doesn't hurt to get a certificate.
After learning that the other party agreed to his suggestion, Hu Yaozhi was very excited, and then he packed the ticket to Zhang Lingxin: everything will remain the same, and the certificate is just to explain to his parents.
After the two returned to China, they immediately applied for a marriage certificate, and it turned out that Hu Yao's promise came true: his love for Zhang Lingxin was deeper than before.
As the saying goes, it's a great blessing to meet the right person at the right time.
After meeting Hu Yao, Zhang Lingxin not only changed her attitude towards non-marriage and became a virtuous wife, but also transformed from a Dink to a loving mother.
After some hardships, Hu Yaozhi successfully passed the test of marriage, and then encountered a new challenge of having children.
Hu Yaozhi is now over fifty years old, and if he still wants children, he must do it as soon as possible, but he clearly knows that Zhang Lingxin will not compromise easily on this issue.
Therefore, she also issued a stern warning to Hu Yaozhi, I have agreed to marry you, but I will definitely not have children.
Hu Yaozhi was very respectful of his wife's thoughts, and once he understood her attitude, he rarely mentioned it again.
Zhang Lingxin's heart is actually difficult to express, because at this age, it is normal for men to have the idea of wanting to start a family. So, he added two "kids" to the family - a cat and a dog.
Although cats and dogs bring joy to people, they are animals after all and cannot replace or express human emotions.
Hu Yaozhi was still eager to have a child, so he began to frequently propose a strong "offensive" to Zhang Lingxin, and then in the following days, he often took Zhang Lingxin to dinner with friends who already had children.
She often shares various stories about children with Zhang Lingxin, and is particularly concerned about her daily life and work.
Under the influence of Hu Yaozhi's soft grinding and hard bubbles, cracks appeared in Zhang Lingxin's strong shield, until a certain time, Zhang Lingxin's inner defense was finally broken by Hu Yaozhi again.
While walking in the square, Zhang Lingxin and Hu Yaozhi suddenly saw someone arguing in front of them, and Hu Yaozhi rushed forward without hesitation to intervene.
Zhang Lingxin thought that Hu Yaozhi was going to participate in the fight or do other things, she just wanted to stop it, but she didn't expect Hu Yaozhi to come out with a child in his arms, and said: "I don't dare to participate in the fight, there is another child here, it would be bad if he was injured." When I had children, I wasn't in the mood to fight. ”
Zhang Lingxin realized through this practice that Hu Yaozhi was really eager to have a child, and recalling the bits and pieces of the two, Zhang Lingxin's mentality began to change.
I thought to myself: since I am already married to him, it is not difficult to have children. So, when Zhang Lingxin was 35 years old, they ushered in the crystallization of love.
After Zhang Lingxin gave birth to a child, she still continued to engage in the work she loved and maintained her daily normal work status.
Lao Hu is a very reliable man, very attentive to work and friends, which makes people feel very comfortable.
Zhang Lingxin is very grateful to be able to meet such a fateful person, she once commented.
Hu Yaozhi's evaluation of the Tao is: "Ling Xin is a very kind and unafraid of sacrifice, she treats herself just as softly, I feel that I can meet such an excellent woman in this life, I am already satisfied." ”
The child added a touch of color to Zhang Lingxin and Hu Yaozhi's lives, and did not restrict Zhang Lingxin's freedom, on the contrary, the child became her spiritual support when she was tired.