In the traditional concept, women's definition of happiness is mostly inseparable from feelings and family. Some people even advocate that women should do well as marry well, and rely on marriage to achieve financial freedom and live a good life.
But in today's pluralistic society, as women become more and more spiritually and financially independent, more and more women have embarked on a completely different path to happiness.
57-year-old Zhou Haimei is one of these women:
She doesn't get married or have children, and she even feels that having a man around will get in the way. She owns hundreds of millions of mansions in Beijing, but instead of partying or having extravagant pleasures, she transforms the mansion into a vegetable garden and spends her days raising flowers and vegetables.
So, what kind of life experience prompted Zhou Haimei to embark on such a maverick path?
In 1966, Zhou Haimei was born in Hong Kong, because of her parents' work, so she has been at her grandparents' house.
Zhou Haimei's facial features are upright, her appearance is sweet and vibrant, and her charm is full of heroism. She is bound to be the most conspicuous of a group of girls.
But Zhou Haimei doesn't look like a girl, she often climbs trees to catch birds, climbs other people's walls, and even fights with little boys.
Haimei's grandmother, come and see, my grandson was beaten by Haimei and had a nosebleed. Zhou Haimei's grandmother skillfully opened the door and sincerely apologized.
In fact, Haimei's fight is no longer strange, but no matter what the family says, Zhou Haimei just can't change it.
On this day, Zhou Haimei's father saw a poster of Sister Hong Kong's beauty pageant, and immediately took it to heart and decisively signed up for his daughter.
After returning home, her father said to Haimei: "Your temperament has to be changed, I signed you up for a beauty contest so that you can see the outside world." ”
After hearing this, Zhou Haimei's eyes widened, although she didn't want to go, she had already signed up, so she had to agree.
During the competition, Zhou Haimei, who was in her youth, was wearing a slim cheongsam, and she saw herself in the mirror, **fair, curly long hair, bright big eyes, and a pair of long legs exposed ......
She couldn't believe she was still so feminine, because it was a style she had never tried before.
Then Zhou Haimei came to the scene, and everything here dazzled her. A gorgeous stage, a model with a perfect body and a good face, and a large audience...
But soon, Zhou Haimei was eliminated, because there were too many people who were superior to her. But fortunately, Zhou Haimei didn't come in vain, and the leader of the TV station took a fancy to her appearance and said to her: "You can go for acting training." ”
Hearing this, Zhou Haimei was very moved, after all, who doesn't have a star dream.
Soon, Zhou Haimei starred in "Yang Jiajiang", and still cooperated with Andy Lau, Tony Leung, Carina Lau and others.
Since then, Zhou Haimei has entered the public's sight.
In 1985, Zhou Haimei met Lu Liangwei, who was more than ten years older than her, because of a TV series. For the well-known Lu Liangwei, Zhou Haimei did not dare to ask for extravagance, after all, there was a gap between the identities of the two.
But what Zhou Haimei didn't expect was that Lu Liangwei took the initiative to pursue her.
Every festival, Lu Liangwei always gives her a bouquet of flowers;When she encountered difficulties, Lu Liangwei could also help her in time, and even stepped forward.
Soon, Zhou Haimei fell, and she really thought that she had met Prince Charming.
Four years later, the two entered the palace of marriage in the United States. Zhou Haimei thought that marriage was very beautiful, but the reality slapped her hard.
On this day, Zhou Haimei slept lazily at home, but her husband Lu Liangwei woke her up angrily and accused: "Can you not be willful, you get up so late, and there are still people waiting for you to take care of at home?"”
Zhou Haimei felt incredible after hearing this, she was usually very tired from work, and she finally rested, so why couldn't she sleep lazy.
Not to be outdone, she quarreled with her husband.
Seeing the subtle knowledge, the reason why the two have such a contradiction, in the final analysis, is the difference in the three views.
Lu Liangwei is a typical man, he hopes that Zhou Haimei can quit the showbiz and have children for himself. But Zhou Haimei felt that she was only 23 years old, and it was a good time in her life, and she should develop her career well.
So, in order to avoid the birth of her family, Zhou Haimei soaked in the crew all day long.
Soon, it was revealed that the bright and moving Zhou Haimei and Tianwang Liming fell in love because of the play, because the two collaborated on two plays, and when they went to that station, the picture was like a "golden boy and jade girl", which was very right.
Although both parties denied the scandal, Lu Liangwei, as a man, still couldn't bear it, and he often quarreled with his wife.
A few months later, Zhou Haimei officially filed for divorce.
Love because of strangeness, because of familiarity and separation. Zhou Haimei and Lu Liangwei entered into marriage because of love, but finally separated because of different views and different lifestyles they pursued.
Perhaps it was because the two started too quickly, so they did not understand each other deeply before marriage, so there were many conflicts after entering the marriage.
Therefore, you must be slow to get married, and you must slowly understand each other's character, three views and family, and see if it is the same as you expected. But the divorce must be fast, once you find that the other party has any shortcomings or Xi that you can't bear, you must stop the loss in time.
After the divorce, Zhou Haimei did not become negative, but became more and more desperate. On the TV screen, her acting skills shine through.
In 1992, Zhou Haimei received a ** from the famous Hong Kong director Tsui Hark: I want to invite you to star in "The East is Undefeated". ”
After hearing this, Zhou Haimei was overjoyed and hurriedly agreed.
But there are always some regrets in life.
During this year's Mid-Autumn Festival, Zhou Haimei rushed home to reunite with her family. But the fog on the highway was so great that she couldn't see the road clearly, so she had a car accident.
When she woke up, she was already in the hospital. "I, I ......Zhou Haimei said two words from her mouth with difficulty.
The doctor told Zhou Haimei that her valve had been hit and she couldn't speak for a short time.
Therefore, Zhou Haimei missed the opportunity to cooperate with a famous director.
After being discharged from the hospital, Zhou Haimei worked harder. In order to study the script, she often rested in the humble dressing room and slept in a hard chair. Even in order to act in a good play, he didn't sleep for four days and four nights.
With the broadcast of the 1994 version of "Dragon Slayer", Zhou Haimei became popular, and the role of "Zhou Zhiruo" she played in it was deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.
Zhou Zhiruo "From the weak in the early stage to the strong in the later stage, the contrast is very great. Zhou Haimei played her vividly.
Heaven always favors those who work hard.
Subsequently, Zhou Haimei's roles in TV series such as "Rogue Tycoon", "Intolerable Love", and "The Legend of Wu Meiniang" also made a deep impression on the audience, and she became more and more handy in performance.
In recent years, Zhou Haimei also has a figure in the popular "Honey Fragrance Sinks Like Frost", and her appearance as a domineering diva makes us even more eye-catching.
Although her career is developing well, her love is not very satisfactory.
In 1994, Zhou Haimei and Lin Weiliang, the "dinosaur brother" in "Crazy Boy", fell in love. At that time, Lin Weiliang was Zhou Haimei's personal swimming coach, and the two came and went, and there was a spark of love.
But it didn't take long for Lin Weiliang to choose to become a monk and practice in the Charity Temple, and their relationship ended in failure.
In 1997, Wu Shirong, chairman of Dickson Group, relied on the charm of money to constantly show favor to beauties.
All kinds of precious diamond rings, necklaces, and watches were constantly sent and sent, which instantly captured Zhou Haimei's heart.
Later, it was rumored that Zhou Haimei suffered from lupus erythematosus and was unable to have children, and it didn't take long for the two to be exposed to a broken relationship.
But Zhou Haimei was not disappointed in love. Instead, he continued to work hard to live and look forward to his true destiny.
Once, while filming in Beijing, Zhou Haimei met a man 7 years younger than her. For this man, Zhou Haimei focused on the mainland.
They fell in love at first sight, quickly fell in love, and began a life of cohabitation.
Zhou Haimei and her boyfriend have been talking for more than ten years, but when her boyfriend proposed marriage to Zhou Haimei and let her be a housewife, Zhou Haimei refused, because the previous marriage gave her too many bad experiences. In addition, she suffered from lupus erythematosus and was unable to have children, so she was afraid of delaying her boyfriend, so she decisively proposed to break up.
In this way, she returned to being single again.
After resuming her singleness, Zhou Haimei lived alone in a mansion worth hundreds of millions of dollars in Beijing, and her mansion had no luxurious decorations, but was full of the breath of nature. She converted the mansion into a vegetable garden, where she planted vegetables and flowers in the spring, and when it came to autumn, she could harvest full of fruits.
She has several big dogs, and in her spare time, in addition to raising flowers and vegetables, she will also take her dog to walk in the garden.
From her bright smile, you can see that she is really happy.
But some netizens don't think so, and some even think sourly: "It's happiness to be young now, and when you get old and sick, you will cry." ”Zhou Haimei also said on the show: Love is such a thing as fate, and no man can live happily. Not only that, Zhou Haimei also feels that men are always in the way.Once, Zhou Haimei, who was in her 50s, posted a news, but netizens commented: With such a good appearance, why don't you leave a descendant?
Zhou Haimei replied domineeringly: My family has no throne to inherit!
Zhou Haimei also said: "I think every woman must protect her personality and constantly update herself. ”
And the path she chose was to protect her personality. In the first relationship, she was unwilling to wronged herself to become a housewife, and in the last relationship, she was still unwilling to accommodate the other party to become a housewife because of her age, and she was even more unwilling to let her illness drag down her boyfriend.
There is no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there is no need to worry about others, and no one forces themselves to do what they don't want to do, and most importantly, there is a certain economic foundation to support themselves, isn't this kind of life happy?
Of course, this is not advocating that everyone should not marry and have children, on the contrary, getting married and having children is for happiness, and not getting married and having children should also be for happiness.
Everyone has their own choices, and happiness should not be defined. The only thing we need to do is to experience life as much as possible and think more about the consequences before making a choice, so that we will not regret our choice.
May we all live our lives and live our own wonderful lives!