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Many men will see their wives and lovers as a pair of contradictions, there is a woman at home and a lover outside, if the wife is good to them, they will have a sense of security, and if the lover is not good to them, they will have a sense of crisis.
In real life, many men will see their wives and lovers as a pair of contradictions, and when they love their wives outside, they will think that their wives are too good, but at home, they will nag like mothers.
When you are out with your lover, you will feel that your lover is too beautiful and your wife is too ugly.
Men believe that wives and lovers are equally important, but this is a psychological effect.
In fact, men are not so easily satisfied, and many women can understand this truth.
So in the eyes of men, what is the difference between a wife and a lover?Listen to what those who have been there have to say:
Mr. Chan is a 42-year-old middle-aged man whose wife is a housewife and has not been working outside the home since marriage.
His wife doesn't have to do anything at home, he cooks three meals a day and occasionally helps him with laundry and cleaning. 365 days a year, he is busy with household chores almost every day, and has no time and energy to think about other things.
Mr. Chan also loves his wife. Every time he saw his wife, he thought she was very beautiful, with the gentleness and temperament of a woman. So Mr. Chan never gets angry because his wife is not doing well.
When he was with his lover, Mr. Chan felt that his lover was much more beautiful than his wife, and his lover was also gentle and considerate to him. He felt that his wife was too nagging, and if it weren't for the existence of a lover, he would have divorced a long time ago.
"I don't have any requirements or expectations for my wife, as long as she can live with me," Mr. Chan said.
But there are a lot of requirements and expectations for my lover, because my lover is younger and more beautiful than me, gentle and considerate, so I will spoil her. If it weren't for my lover, I certainly wouldn't have divorced so early. ”
I was with my lover when I was married to my wife for 5 years, she was doing laundry, cooking and taking care of the kids at home, and I was out earning money to support my family.
At first, I didn't know that my wife was so nice to me. My wife is a woman I met outside. She is gentle and considerate and I feel very comfortable with her.
The relationship between the two of us got better and better, and finally we chose to get married. Although I don't know the difference between a wife and a lover, I do know that a wife is a woman in the family.
My wife and lover are both present at the most helpless times, but my wife treats me better and understands that my job is not easy.
A lover is better for me, the two of us always go out together and eat together, I don't think a lover is worse than a wife.
In fact, men are the same, they all want to be loved by themselves and love their own people. Sometimes a man just needs a woman who understands him.
My wife and I have been married for 10 years, and our married life is very ordinary, because she is a very ordinary woman with a very lively appearance.
So I didn't have much interest in being with her, so we didn't have a very good relationship.
But when I go out to find a lover, it's a different story, because I'm a man with a family, so the purpose of finding a lover is to enjoy the thrill and novelty.
I think being with my lover makes me more passionate and it makes me love each other more.
There is no emotional foundation between us, and when we first started together, we were all for our own needs.
However, I feel that my lover is not that important to me, she is just my spiritual dependence. Now I have been with her for 5 years and we have children.
Although there is no love between us, we all know that we cannot divorce because of children.
That way we don't take the initiative to destroy each other's families. There is no love between us now, as long as we can make each other happy.
But if she doesn't want to be with me anymore, I'll let her find the life she wants.